TTC after MC (#7) - fx for better times ahead

Just reporting back. My friend didn't announce a pregnancy and has been off work for another reason. I feel a bit foolish for getting myself all worked up over her cryptic text message but it's obviously an indication of how fragile I am feeling post mc. I'm going to treat this as a practice run for any real announcements and hopefully I've got all the emotions out of my system and can cope better!

Checking in. So many share experiences. Like many others I also feel tearful, depressed and not very good around pregnant women / newborns.

Had a fairly normal WTF cycle and had a period 27 days after my miscarriage. Thought my body had reset itself so had a good go this month and got a positive OPK to boot.

Got my period yesterday. Very hard not to feel despondent. I know it's only been a month, just relax, yaddah yaddah... I REALLY want to be pregnant, it's all I can think about. YY to feeling your life is on hold.

Had brown spotting from day 21 to 27 until period kicked in so a bit worried about low progesterone.

Ordered some conceive plus and a thermometer to add to the OPK and obsessive CM checking. Roll on this month...

Hi. I joined this thread a week or so ago but haven't been back since, there's been a lot of posts since then its hard to keep up. I hope you are all ok!

I've had a really rubbish week, after feeling a lot better emotionally since I got my first proper AF post miscarriage, this last week i've been feeling really emotional again, feeling tearful if I think about what happened and being really grumpy with OH.
Anyway, my second period was due around Saturday (that's assuming my cycle has gone back to the length it was before) Saturday came and went and no AF, I tried not to get too excited and decided to wait til the end of the week to test if I hadn't showed up. Then late Sunday evening I had very very pale pink discharge when I wiped only (sorry if TMI!) a few hours later again when I wiped I had some pale brown spotting, so thought right that's it, period will come tonight... Woke up Monday morning and there was nothing, so I caved in and took a test, which was a faint BFP but definitely there! No more spotting for the rest of the day. Woke up this morning and decided to take another test which was BFN (boots own brand) the first I used was superdrug. Now at lunchtime today I had some brown spotting again only when wiping. I think I might be having a chemical pregnancy. I never had spotting with first pregnancy til 11.5 weeks when I started to lose it, so this is new to me. I really don't know what to think now, if Af is coming I wish it would just hurry up! Getting pregnant again first try I knew was too good to be true.

Sorry for your loss manatee this thread was a great support to me.

Autumn I hope the meet up with your friend goes ok lovely.

Still 2 weeks, 2 days until I pass the time of my last mc and 1 week til I had the spotting that indicated baby had stopped growing. Time is ticking by so slowly!!

Good luck Autumn. I recommend getting yourself a treat afterwards for being so brave xx

Off to meet my friend now. I'm ready to congratulate her if it is pregnancy news. Thanks for letting me prepare myself. X

Welcome manatee. I'm sorry for your loss.

Carrot, I completely understand what you mean. I felt same way with my LO until 20 week scan. Fingers crossed all will be ok.

Autumn I agree with monkey. Just pretend she is pregnant until you get confirmation and hopefully it will help a little.

Still feeling funny today. Tired, back aches, tummy aches, mild cramps, so much phelgm (sorry!!) as my nose is all bunged up, burping non stop and nausea. Think it's a sign of ovulation as before I ttc last time, I came off the pill and experienced awful symptoms like this during ovulation. It was horrible! Sad thing is I can't even dtd right now as my libido has disappeared and I really don't even feel like going near DH! Every time I smell him I feel like throwing up!! I'm an awful wife!

And all fingers and toes crossed for you carrots. Really hope it's good news for you and not a CP

So I'm not the only one gritting my teeth to smile when other people share their pregnancy news then. Have a friend coming for lunch on Wednesday who's now about 20wks. I'm genuinely happy for her as they were TTC for over a year, but it's still hard to smile when I'm also thinking 'I should be 16wks now and showing too'

Hi ladies, sorry I've been quiet. I needed a bit of down time to try to avoid obsessing about ttc. I've just finished my fertile period and dh was ill for the week so I don't have
much hope for this cycle. Feel bad for not being a sympathetic wifey but why did he have to be ill that week?!
Welcome manatee sorry for your loss.
Autumn perhaps you should pretend she definitely is pg, then you can mentally prepare. The unexpected baby bombs have hit me hardest, I can cope if prepared.
Sorry to all those who are having a hard time atm. I'm off work for August and also dreading going back in September. My due date is early October so I wasn't expecting to go back at all after the summer, then I expected to go back temporarily but with a bump and now it's coming around soon and I'm not even pg.
Tentative congrats carrot I understand the nerves but if it works out it is bloody great news.

Thanks for replying carrot and reebok. I don't think I can say that for two reasons. Firstly I don't want to bring down her announcement by mentioning my mc, it shouldn't be the first time she hears about it. I don't think I can say something vague like we have had problems without her guessing what. don't think that's fair on her. And secondly I'm still stuck with the original problem that telling her about the mc will blow our cover about ttc, and whilst she may be understanding, in the scheme of things I can't tell her when we haven't even told immediate family and risk them finding out second hand because that would cause lots of damage. I'm not saying she would say anything deliberately but all it would take was for her to mention her pregnancy and some coded reference to me in front of my sister and I'd be blown. I know I'm going to have to suck it up and be practice my happy face. It's so bloody complicated. I am lucky to have her as a friend and don't want to undermine any of that. In a way I'm glad I've read into the text a little as it's given me time to arrange my feelings.

Carrot - they may recommend surgery for the fibroids depending on their size and shape. I'm not keen as they strongly suggest you have ELCS if you get pg after a myomectomy. But if it will increase my chances of carrying to term then whevs. I suppose I have till November just TTC and we'll see where we are then. It took 6 months last time.

Can I join? 36, 1 MMC earlier this year, TTC #1.

During my pg they discovered I have some large fibroids but we've been advised by consultant that they didn't cause the MC so I'm booked for MRI in November to see more and they said we could carry on trying meanwhile. So this is cycle #1. Think I need a bit of hand holding...

I second what carrot says Autumn. Hearing a friend's baby news is always going to be horrible once you have mc...but if you can be prepared in some way it may help a little. Can completely relate. Someone at work will be as far along as I should have been in September when I go back to work so I'm dreading seeing her.

How's everyone else's day been? LO was unwell so couldn't enjoy the weather. Feel odd anyway to be honest...still constipated as hell (sorry), have bad indigestion, cramps and I feel like I'm getting a cold. Just so run down.

Sorry to jump in with out doing personals
I have posted a few times on this group I just can't keep up with the postings and haven't had much news to share, and prior to that I was on a group bus before my mmc in may. I'm due to meet a good friend who doesn't know about my mmc or ttc, we choose not to share our sad news with anyone as we didn't want to disclose that we were ttc for lots of personal reasons but the main one being that our ds has a medical condition and we had to do a lot of soul searching to try again
Anyway I digress. I've been try to arrange a meet up and she's been difficult to get hold off. Finally managed to get a date for Tuesday and (all by text) she apologised for not getting back to me and said she'd been off work ill but would explain all when she sees me!!! They are her exclamation marks. I should add that in context she is recently married so I kind of expected this news would be coming at some point, but my heart dropped when I read it and I feel I need to steel myself if my feelings are right. I feel really anxious about meeting her now. I really want to be happy for her as she is a lovely friend and so kind to my ds etc, I just wish I could be on that same journey with her. Hope you don't mind me off loading here, I don't have anyone in rl to talk to this about other than my husband and I'm afraid that he'll think I'm being neurotic because she hasn't even told me anything yet!

It's so frustrating! On top of all the other crap, I also have constipation (sorry tmi) which is probably being caused by crazy hormones and my multivitamins. Arghhhhhh the things we have to go through as women! Not fair!

Who knows reebok...all i can say for sure, is that a 'wtf' cycle can be exactly that 'what the f**k'! You may feel all sorts of strange things going on down there, I had sore boobs like being pg this cycle, and I am in a wtf cycle too! Was convinced I was pg, but came on 3 days ago after a few days of brown and red spotting. As our body's try to readjust and reset themselves after mc, our hormones go crazy causing symptoms like strong pms, boob ache, cervix cramps, headaches, uterine pulls and pressure, and other similar pregnancy symptoms (hence why I was convinced for the second time that I had fallen pg in a wtf cycle) but sadly not the case, although it can happen, so I'm afraid it's just a cruel waiting game now hun! Xx

Have had my definite bfn 2 weeks after mc so hopefully it means ovulation is starting again.

I think it would be too soon indeed. Depending how far along you were hcg needs to get back down in order to get the ovaries working again. With my 2 mc I was told to test 2 weeks after and indeed I had bfn and af came 3-4 weeks later. It would be implantation during a normal cycle but I can't think of implantation 3 weeks after a mc.... It might be though ovaries kick starting...

Hmmm wouldn't that be too soon carrot? I only miscarried 3 weeks ago so I'm assuming I will ovulate much later.

Paws I had that cramp on both sides around 5/6 days ago. It subsided and now it's just these odd bubbling sensations...maybe it's gas lol
Keep feeling like I'm going to start bleeding as quite wet below (sorry tmi!) and having lots of discharge. Boobs ache like mad and bad lower back ache...if AF is going to rear its ugly head, it had better hurry up!

I doubt you would feel ovulation in that area hun, its a twisting cramping pain on left or right side, sometimes both sides.... Only about 30% of women feel ovulation, I'm lucky as I do, was on the pill for 13 years so never experienced O pain until I came off it and started ttc. Perhaps get some opk's if you're trying to pinpoint ovulation? Its cheap and easy! Fertility friend is a good ap to use on your phone too for tracking bbt, cm, ovulation and symptoms etc! Xx