ttc #1 support during the waiting game and friends needed on same boat

My doctor said try every two to three days... poor hubby lol
This month might not be the one for us though :( although cramps have continued and not been painful when I wiped today I saw brighter red blood so am guessing af will be here probably tomorrow... hey ho

mrsstickll - hope AF stays away for you! I haven't been at the symptom spotting stage yet. Does it drive you crazy??

Mermaid - yeah I find that particularly baffling! When I was on the pill I was worried about missing one but, at the risk of sounding totally naive, I feel that I needn't have bothered! It seems like loads of factors around the whole friggin universe have to come together perfectly.

Is everyone DTD every 2 days? I'm tempted to start doing it every day as I'm paranoid about missing it (even though I know that swimmers can live for about 5/6 days). Does doing it every day reduce the quality of swimmers?

haha, yes, i'm surprised people ever get pregnant 'by accident'!!

My SIL got pregnant by accident twice when she was very young (16 and 17) - how?? the logistics of not only not taking your pill properly, but also DTD at the right time are mind boggling....

Hi everyone

sophied1983 hi yes people in real life don't seem to understand, none of my friends are ttc and think these things just happen straight away it's good to have people here to chat to

babycakes I totally agree I feel like I was conned, I was led to believe one time of unprotected sex and that's it lol.

11 days left til af, trying not to symptom spot someone help me!

Hope Af stays away for those with cramping

It's difficult not having much control isn't it? I'm trying to stay relaxed, so since this is cycle 1 all I'm doing really is having a lot of sex! I think DH might get a bit freaked out if I started in with OPKs and charting and all sorts right away, so I guess I'll save that for a few months' time if necessary.

Ooooh neetie implantation bleeding?? Fingers crossed for you.

Hey sophie! Yes agreed it's great to share. TTC stuff is so exciting/confusing/frustrating and it's a private thing (well for me anyway) so it's nice to be able to offload to others in similar situations.

One thing I've been thinking is how hard it is to actually conceive. I feel like I was misled as a teenager! Plus it's really frustrating how people seem to just "fall pregnant" after a one night stand.

Ow well, hopefully we won't have to wait too long.

I worry too. First time trying at 31 and no clue how it will go.

It's so good to share on here so if you fancy a chat, drop me a private message.

We can help each other through.

Sx

Well cramping is still mild certainly nowhere near my usual period cramping and the light brown discharge from earlier is now clear again...

Londonlady - frustrating isn't it. I can also empathise with the work thing. My job is really stressful but I've been telling myself that ttc is my priority and that I need to stop letting the feeling of stress take over. You just have to keep reminding yourself that as long as you do your best and they are happy with your performance, there is absolutely no point getting stressed. I really think that stress may have caused my absent AF for months.

Welcome Alpha - cycles seem to drag when you are ttc don't they! Are you doing any ovulation tests or anything? Is your cycle regular?

neetie" and mermaid* - sorry to hear about your cramping. Who knows...hopefully it isn't AF.

I've been having cramps for about 5 days now, but no sign of AF or anyting else. Willing my body to get back to 'normal' now, as I'm too impatient to wait!

Well starting to have cramps but mild which is ok. This morning slight discharge so maybe this isn't the month for us :(

Hey everyone. Hope you don't mind me jumping aboard. I'm 31 and ttc #1. I came off the pill at Christmas but after a few months we had to put things on hold due to employment/relocation i uncertainties. We are now back to "trying" and feeling much more impatient this time! X

Hi everyone,
Just discovered this thread tonight. TTC 1, cycle 1, cd11 and apps vary about me ovulating from weds to fri and one said today - although I haven't had a positive OPK this cycle.
So babycakes I feel your pain re the ovulation thing!

What doesn't help is that I'm having a stressful time at work. Ho hum.

Hope everyone ok

Hey, how is everyone getting on? I am on day 18 and no positive OPK yet. I hope my cycle isn't really long. I can't be sure because of how all over the place I've been the past 8 months since coming off the pill but I think it might be 35 days. That would mean I ovulate on day 21, right?! Anyone else who tests paranoid about missing the surge? As I am testing every morning I worry it could happen sometime during the 24 hour window and I miss it altogether. Although DH and I are DTD every 2 days. Impatient.

Fingers crossed for you neetie1 - at least the wait won't be as long as you thought!

Well turns out not expecting af on 21st but the 11th..not sure what happened with my working out there lol So am half way through tww on day 23, this is teh earliest af has ever started so always am watchful around this time.

Sorry to hear that Cinder. It is actually lovely here. I'm laying in the garden (with my cat) my OH is asleep in the living room!! [rolling eyes]

I hope the weather has held out for you Sizzle - it's appalling here, sadly.

Welcome Cinder, Mermaid and Neetie!
I'm on cd10. App says most fertile day should be cd14 so I started using OPKs for the first time 2 days ago. Just want to compare how accurate my app is as I don't have ov pain and am really not convinced about the different stages of my CM either!!
Away from ttc, anyone have fun plans for the weekend? I'm hoping to have a little BBQ with OH if the weather stays nice
Fx everyone x

Not too bad started to get metallic taste in mouth so will see what happens.

Hi neetie1 I'm also in the 2ww, it's so torturous lol how you getting on?

Also, I had to use towels every day for a month after each LLETZ treatment, and that really put me off them. Why the hell are so many of them scented for God's sake??

If you think you could cope with one I'd really recommend a mooncup instead of tampons. They make it all slightly less grim - tampons and towels always made me really sore!

CinderToffee - don't say that! One of the reasons I want to get pregnant so fast is that I hate AF!!! The fewer the better! I've had to go and buy actual towels/tampons etc, cos there weren't any in the house!

Mermaid36 I was exactly the same when I came off cerazette - I'd been on it for a year, and on the implant for three years before that, and on the combined pill for a years before THAT so it had been absolutely years since I'd had a "natural" period. I'd forgotten what a massive pain in the arse they are!