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When's the best time to get pregnant? Use our interactive ovulation calculator to work out when you're most fertile and most likely to conceive.

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"Casually" TTC

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BigChiefThunderThighs · 25/05/2015 00:05

TTC number 2, we've agreed to go ahead in a "let's just see whAt happens, no pressure" kind of way. so I'm casually charting my cycles with a fertility app, breezily checking my cervical mucous, nonchalantly scouring the conception board and definitely not compiling a list of names for dc2 Blush.
What is so frustrating is that because I'm "casually" charting all of this I know exactly when my fertile window is and keep bloody missing it because I don't want to give the game away and look like baby crazed monster! Last month my carefully timed advances were thwarted by a five-aside groin strain. I think today was the day and was planning a seduction after dd's bedtime but he announced he was off to his brothers for a bank holiday drink.
This is lighthearted and is not a problem with communication in my marriage. I think he felt the pressure last time and I'm really trying to keep this as relaxed as possible (for him) but that's just not my style.

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clmustard · 26/05/2015 12:35

fertility apps you say?

Whoopsydo · 26/05/2015 11:54

Haha glad it's not just me. Just off to casually do an ovulation test...

themumfairy · 26/05/2015 11:45

I've realised what's even harder than hiding that we are not 'casually' ttc. it's trying to hide the disappointment when you realise you didn't conceive Confused Confused Sad Sad

Alice1983 · 26/05/2015 11:01

I might just 'casually' get some OPK tests.. ''running out of the door'' Grin

ThursdayLast · 25/05/2015 21:41

(I downloaded two)

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BigChiefThunderThighs · 25/05/2015 21:30

Good idea alice - somewhere we can be our true obsessive selvesGrin

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Alice1983 · 25/05/2015 19:42

I cant even bear the thought of the tracking apps at the moment, I think it they would drive me potty (and believe me, I already am, and thats without them Grin) Only Wine helps. I hope we can keep this thread so I can report back soon with an update (maybe to tell you all that I have downloaded the tracking apps! Blush)

ThursdayLast · 25/05/2015 15:41

Also - neither my phone or iPad will let me download any of the fertility tracking apps!
Which somehow makes me feel guilty about thinking about it too much!

ThursdayLast · 25/05/2015 15:38

I know exactly what you mean BigChief! I have to witter in about it all on the Conception boards because if I talk about it as much as I think about it DH will definitely clock it's not that casual at all Grin

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BigChiefThunderThighs · 25/05/2015 15:28

Haha glad it's not just me! I had been hoping for a gap of only 2 school years between DC. So this month is my last chance for a feb birthday which is the cut-off (scotland). In the grand scheme of things it's not that important but it was a good age gap for my sister and I!

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themumfairy · 25/05/2015 10:57

I'm sooo glad I've found this thread I could of written it myself! I've had to put a lock on my phone to hide all the fertilty apps Shock dp is none the wiser at the min Grin we agreed to see what happens but i want a baby sooner rather than later. everyone around me is either pregnant or just had a baby and I'm so broody. my youngest is 6. x

Tangoandcreditcards · 25/05/2015 09:28

We casually TTC #2 in a very similarly casual way. Totally missed my window in Apr and only DTD once all month. (We were ill, moving house, and knackered from a non-sleeping 15 mo).

I'm currently 9 wks pg.

Good luck OP. Grin

nenehooo · 25/05/2015 09:24

This will be me in a few months, I think! We agreed to 'think' about DC2 later this year - August/September time. I've been tracking CM etc since January. Blush
DH was most unimpressed at being 'used' for sex last time we were TTC... I can't see him turning down the opportunity every other day this time round!

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BigChiefThunderThighs · 25/05/2015 08:57

Haha unfortunately no quickie this morning I'm working he's not!
Momagain - no my methods are definitely not casual but I prefer a bit of efficiency! Officially we're just carrying on as normal so averaging dtd prob every 3 days, but seem to just be missing the key days each time and I don't want to blow my cover by insisting, thus revealing my scary obsessive TTC regime Blush

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Momagain1 · 25/05/2015 01:03

How can you casually track all that?

Why not casually commit to sex every other day, thus maintaining an available sperm supply, as it were, for when the egg shows up.

Alice1983 · 25/05/2015 00:52

I was just going to start a thread on the same thing. We (I Grin) are (am Grin) casually TTC as well...I haven't got any charts or anything at all. Joking aside, we are 'seeing what happens', but I think I am more like the baby crazed moster you mention, he seems to take it more breezily!

kitkat1989 · 25/05/2015 00:18

Im in the same boat!! This week is ny fertile window and iv been doing an ovulation app on my.phone but i dont want dh to know how secretly obsessed i am! In the 6 weeks wev been 'seeing how things go' i think wev only dtd about 5 times!

Yellowbird01 · 25/05/2015 00:15

Don't worry, one missed opportunity is not the end of the world, try for a quickie in the morning!

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