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June BFP anyone?

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StrawberryRiceCake · 20/05/2015 07:51

This is cycle #3 TTC for me. I really hoping this will be my month. Who's with me?

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MyNameIsSuz · 07/06/2015 19:49

Urgh, itsme, I have a neighbour like that, always strikes up a conversation when I'm walking past and gets personal fast. Last time I kind of bluntly (but nicely) said 'well it isn't always that simple' but she just didn't take the hint and kept on at me that my 2 year old ds was getting older, would probably like a sibling, the age gap was getting bigger... yeah thanks, a month after a mc that's exactly the guilt trip I needed! That's precisely what I feel angsty about, the widening age gap (there would have been just under 3 years with the one I miscarried, which I felt was a lovely gap). I feel your pain!

CarrotVan · 07/06/2015 18:40

How incredibly rude of her.

Itsme247 · 07/06/2015 17:37

Just checking in ladies, I had a particular situation today which has made me really angry so need to rant! We went to a family memorial service today, really sad but that lady was 97.. Good innings! However whenever things like this happen the family always want something nice to look forward to.. we got married in aug last year so I walked in and all the aunties start clucking around and then one of them actually said 'oh looks like I've lost the bet, I thought you'd be pregnant by Christmas!!' So my reply was of course... I'll have a double G&T thanks... We've been trying for ages and now I'm really starting to worry something is wrong :(

CarrotVan · 07/06/2015 11:53

7 dpo here and feeling rubbish. I'm so tired I went to bed at 9.30 and slept until 7.30 and am still knackered. Trying not to test until this time next week although FF tells me to test at 12 dpo, probably because this is my WTF cycle.

FlatWhiteToGo · 07/06/2015 09:18

Morning lovely ladies. I hope it's bright and sunny where you all are. It's amazing what a bit of sunshine can do to your morale!

WW - thank you so much for all the info. I know everything has to be very general as every person responds differently to surgery, and every surgery is different, but it's useful to have a rough idea. Thank you Smile. FX I get a 'duck note' - ha ha ha! FX you get your BFP soon Smile.

Oh your periods sound awful Sad. I'm so sorry. How miserable! To be honest, I always thought I was a jammy b*stard as my periods are so short and light. They have usually lasted 2-3 days with only 2 days of actually, ahem, 'flow'. For a long cycle AF will usually only last up to 4 days, and even then a lot of that is only noticeable when I wipe (sorry for the TMI). I now wonder whether my lack of bleeding is a bad sign. It's all very weird as I get a huge amount of pain!

Birchy - Ooo that's frustrating! Are you being kept busy? Try and keep yourself occupied until you're back and able to test. It may be a blessing in disguise as, even if it is going to be a BFP, there's still a high chance the test will still show as negative at this stage. I know that's not helpful though as I would be doing anything I could to test right now (yep - very hypocritical of me!).

Key - that's annoying that you're not sure you ovulated. Do you do all the OPK an temping malarkey? Do you get pains when you ovulate? FX you did Smile.

Pulpi - sorry AF got you. That sucks. FX for next month (I know - I'm getting sick of saying that to people, and getting sick of hearing it back - ha ha!.

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pulpi · 07/06/2015 07:46

Using Dubrovnik airport internet. Must be quick. Yes, you need to take a ferry (although boat might be a more accurate description) to Mljet, so that might put it on your no-ferry list, Carrot.

To whomever asked upthread (apologies for the panicky interneting) I spot a day or two before. Brownish old stuff, usually... But not this time. Oh no. Straight to the doubled over cramps and Niagara Falls. AF has kicked my ass off the bus again.

On the upside, Croatian white wine is lovely when taken in a seaside tavern while watching the sunset. Gloat, gloat...

keys27 · 07/06/2015 07:39

Morning guys,

Still nothing to report here really cd 21 so got a week left have no idea whether i've ovulated or not this might be a long cycle for me.

Wow guys that made an interesting read sorry to hear that you wentthrough that.x

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birchygoo · 06/06/2015 22:44

heyy WW, flat and everyone else. Hope you're all having a lovely weekend bd or not thinking about 2ww.

I'm away with work and I was in boots with my boss earlier and was trying to work out how I could slip a test in my shopping basket without her seeing. Needless to say I left empty handed Smile

Af due on tue. Absolutely no symptom, has a few twinges on right side earlier but with IBS I always have them. I soo badly want to test but not back until Tue night! HELP!! Ff doesn't help by telling me this morning over 50% of pregnancy are confirmed by this date!!

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FlatWhiteToGo · 06/06/2015 20:46

Thanks for the info WW. Wow - it really sounds like you've had a shocker! How are you feeling now? I have heard that you can be in a lot of discomfort for quite a while after the surgery Sad - I hope you're not feeling too bad.

That is SUCH good news that things are now hopefully 'clear' for you when you are next TTC (although obviously it's unlikely to happen first go, given the trauma to your body from the surgery etc).

I do have two practical questions, if you don't mind? Firstly, how much time off work do they recommend (obviously everyone will be different - I'm trying to plan for work and what the hell I'm going to say to them!!!)? Secondly, how long do they suggest you leave it before trying mild exercise? I know that neither of these are the things I should be asking!

Tbh, although I will feel very scared on the day, I just want to have the op and find out what's going on. The only thing we have to go on so far is my GP's opinion (which he came to because I had every symptom of endo but one, and some of those symptoms are fairly specific/uncommon). Last month when AF came I was in so much pelvic pain & back pain & (ahem) bowel pain, there were times when I could hardly move. AF is due next week so I'm getting a bit nervous about that now Sad.

Thanks for your help and advice on the laparoscopy Smile x

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FlatWhiteToGo · 06/06/2015 17:11

WW - that's annoying. Why do people even feel the need to ask? Hopefully now they'll back off a bit.

Out of interest, have you had a laparoscopy before? I ask because I've been told I am likely to need one for suspected endometriosis. I was just wondering what it's like/what to expect?x

weechops · 06/06/2015 16:53

1dpo and into the tww. Time to symptom spot like crazy then!

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FlatWhiteToGo · 06/06/2015 14:19

Hi everyone Waves! I've been offline for a few days but (think) I have just about caught up.

CONGRATULATIONS to Carlton and Wizard (hope I haven't missed anyone off). That's amazing - you must be thrilled! How are you both feeling? Have you had it confirmed at the GP or anything? I don't know what the process is once you actually get the elusive BFP Grin. Best of luck for the coming months.

I know this was a while back in the thread, but all your comments about the "just relax" brigade put a smile on my face. I am so sick of hearing this! It's one of the reasons we're not really telling people we're trying. Although I actually find the general ignorance about TTC quite irritating. Whenever I get questioned I always say to friends "Oh yeh we'd like to have kids one day, assuming we're lucky enough to be able to have kids" and they ALWAYS say something along the lines of "Of course you will, there's nothing wrong with you, don't be ridiculous" (err...try telling that to my duff reproductive organs). I also got annoyed at work the other day because people were chatting about how it's "not great to have a child with an August birthday because they'll always be struggling to keep up"...then some of the guys started saying "Yeh, well it's in your control what month your baby's born in so just work backwards and have sex in the right month. Why would you choose that month to have unprotected sex if you knew the baby would be born in August". It just annoyed me a bit because these guys probably actually DID manage to have a baby from their first attempt and were just soooooo clueless. Obviously I laughed along because I have SOME level of self-awareness and appreciate I am an absolute basket-case when anything TTC-related is brought up.

Vap - how's it all going life-twin? Ha ha. Again, all your posts are like my own internal monologue; the latest being "what if I can't get pregnant with this level of stress?". I'm sorry to hear that AF turned up Sad. As you said, it probably feels even worse this month as your hopes were, understandably, raised Sad. As for OH being reticent about the shagging, I think 3 times (if well timed) would be more than enough. If you can space it every other day then it gives him time to, ahem, replenish his supplies. Is there anything that might help him get in the mood? Like putting on a raunchy film (I don't mean, like, a "two girls one cup" type film, but some sort of mild/mainstream 18!).

That's interesting about the cream! I had no idea such a thing exists. It's really sad, when you think about it isn't Sad. Tbh, I don't think it would work as the pain is quite high up internally. Hopefully when I see the gynae I will get a bit of help and it can be sorted.

Violet - your comment made me laugh! I do that too. If you know you've ovulated but say "Oh we'll try again in 2 days time in case" it then brings the 2WW to 1.5WW.

Pulpi - I hope you're having fun in Croatia. It's lovely! I bet the weather's fantastic right now. We went a few years ago and I made the mistake of wearing a tightish viscose top while doing the city walls (one July afternoon). WORST MISTAKE EVER. It made me sweat even more and then stuck to my back the whole time. VILE. Have a lovely time Smile.

So...update time...v.little to report. I'm not having a particularly stressful 2WW as there's less expectation than normal. I don't know if I am 6DPO or 8DPO which is frustrating. Basically I got peak OPKs on both CD13 and CD14 so I assumed that I ovulated on CD15. From the temps though, it puts my ovulation date as CD17. I don't know whether I should trust these though, as on CD15 I took the temp at 6:20am; CD16 at 7:00am; CD17 at 5:15am; and CD18 at 4:45am. From what I have read, however, it seems like my temps would have actually been higher on CD17 & CD18 if I had tested an hour or so later (in which case, the 'spike' on CD17 would have been even stronger). Any temping/charting experts?

Mrs1986 · 06/06/2015 13:30

He's thinking long haul and worried if I'm too pregnant I might not be able to fly!
Lol at 'baby dancing' haha

louwn · 06/06/2015 11:04

Haha re you DH - is he planning a pregnancy unfriendly destination?

louwn · 06/06/2015 11:03

He does yes, but we are sort of ignoring that and just doing it every couple of days throughout my cycle...I may throw in some extra baby dancing at the right time though!

Mrs1986 · 06/06/2015 11:01

I see. How is that going? Does your fella know that you know when you're most fertile? I told my DH this morning when I am most fertile. He told me that he's secretly hoping that we don't get a bfp before September!! He wants to go on holiday for Christmas!

louwn · 06/06/2015 10:58

Mrs1986, because we agreed to just have sex every couple of days and not worry about fertile times etc.

Mrs1986 · 06/06/2015 09:46

Pulpi - I'm only a week in to my cycle 2 so not an expert, but in cycle 1 I had spotting from cd21-24(ish) which I convinced myself was implamantation bleeding!xxx