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help! i'm feeling broody

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lieman · 30/04/2004 18:40

i'm feeling very broody at the moment can someone please talk me out of it!

i've 2 kids 4& 6 and am 34. i work part time and spend the rest of my time taxing kids everywhere. dh doesn't really want anymore but i could probably talk him into it.

i've only just got my life back in order and got a great job after the last one and i know i couldn't give my 2 kids as much if i had another but i think if i don't have another one now i never will.

am i mad

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bootsmonkey · 14/07/2004 08:34

Wifeof - I know what you mean, I have such a happy, healthy, smiley daughter that I wonder if I can hit the jackpot twice and dare not tempt fate either.

bootsmonkey · 14/07/2004 08:31

But would one more be enough - I have heard so many people saying that 3 felt unbalanced and there was always an odd one out that they had to go for No. 4?

Personally I can barely manage with one! But have almost physical, bodily cravings for more from time to time, but I know I don't want any more. What the heart and what the head are saying don't always correspond, alas.

Wifeof · 14/07/2004 07:51

This is what I keep wondering; should i not tempt fate (i.e. the risk of anything going wrong) and just learn to accept what I have?

Problem is, I'm becoming obsessed with it, spending too much time and energy thinking about it when I should be doing other things and not totally appreciating what a good lot I've got.

Confused!

hercules · 01/05/2004 16:21

here

hercules · 01/05/2004 16:18

there was a very funny recent thread that should put you right off.

BoxofFrogs · 01/05/2004 16:13

I'm in the same boat, but I only have one. I KNOW that I will look back and regret not having another, but dh will not contemplate another child

Snarl · 30/04/2004 21:30

Try sitting on an egg!

Ixel · 30/04/2004 21:17

My ds is only 22 weeks but I'm already tending towards a second, nuch to dh's horror. Am I mad? Does everyone always want more than they've got?

thirtysomething · 30/04/2004 21:14

lieman - I am going through exactly the same thing as you - I have one ds (nearly 6) and one dd (3) and am trying to decide whether to go for no.3. Everything argues against it - I have awful pregnancies, my kids are pretty demanding and I'm fully occupied ferrying them around everywhere, we're just beginning to see the light at the end of the tunnel in terms of holidays without nappy bags etc. and I'm thinking about retraining, yet I still have this yearning for another one. DH is very practical and thinks maybe we should quit while we're ahead iyswim, but I still crave another little one and all the ups and downs that accompany it. I do think I'll regret not having one but on the other hand I don't want to rock the boat and make life harder for the other two! ps I'm the same age as you as well!

bunny2 · 30/04/2004 19:26

"You regret more the things you havent done than the things you have." said a wiseman to me. I think it is rare to regret having a child but to look back when it is too late and wish you had another would be really sad.

zaphod · 30/04/2004 19:10

I don;t think that you will spoil what your two children have now at all. If you have another it can really enrich the lives of your first two...they will be just as excited by the first tooth, and the first steps, and so on as you. For example, my baby clapped hands for the first time today, to great applause,from his siblings. One of the nicest things ever is to see how much enjoyment older children get from playing with babies in the family. (Mine are 10,8,6,2,and 9mo.s)

motherinferior · 30/04/2004 19:00

If it's time you're worried about, you've quite probably got loads of it. I didn't have my first baby till I was 37.

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lieman · 30/04/2004 19:00

my biggest worry is if i don't have anymore i will look back in ten years time and wish i'd done things different. do you really know when you've had enough kids?
i go from thinking "we'll get by if i had another to i'll spoil what my 2 kids have now if i have another". i worry i'll start taking chances just to see what will happen but will i regret that.

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SoupDragon · 30/04/2004 18:52

Motherhood has nothing to do with sanity

ZolaPola · 30/04/2004 18:51

probably! But aren't we all? Never a logical decision to have kids. I guess because you already have the 2 it's a bit different though, if you'd regret it loads then could be right thing to do. OTOH if your dh would resent you or not support you in this or you can't afford time/money for 3 then maybe it's just a dream you have to let go of.