help! i'm feeling broody

sorry I'm a bit slow on the old typing - no, I felt enormously sad, but I had to learn to appreciate what I had, and maybe a baby would not have been good for my eldest with exams coming up...I don't know, there is always a flip side isn't there! I feel happy and settled know, thanks so much for asking.

I like them too - re reading my thread made me too . Good luck with it all.

P.S. Sorry to hear about your #4 , are you going to try again?

That's what I keep thinking - we're just thinking about it too much and not doing !

(I like these little smileys!

I always wanted 4 children, and ended up with 3 in 3 and a half years and raging PND which lasted and lasted...I never gave up wanting a 4th, became pregnant last autumn at 37yrs. When #4 would have been born my kids would have been 12, 10 and 8.5. I mc'd at xmas and now have tried to put it all behind me - one of my friends (same age) who has 2 children 12 and 8.5 is just expecting her 3rd. If you are keen go for it, sometimes we can think and plan too much.

Thanks NomdePlume, I've been reading various threads for a couple of days and there's so much good stuff here I thought I'd bare all!

Don't feel or look 39 (well, on a good day!) so maybe we should just get on with it?

Hi Wifeof, welcome to MN ! FWIW, I don't think 39 is late to have your 3rd child.

I'm 21 working with a 2yr old and would desperstely like another. Despite having been trying for almost a year now nothing. It seems that although sometimes I think ones enough (sleepless nights, tantrums) there is an overwhelming desire for more.
However the heartache each motnh when I'm not is almost enough to make me want to stop trying.

Anyone else know this feeling??!!

Dear lieman and thirtysomething- I know exactly how you feel. Turning 39 this year has made me realise this is probably my last chance. We've 2 great kids of 8 and 5, and dh isn't totally against the idea but I'm really worried about upsetting the balance. We have a great life, ds and dd get on really well and we are financially OK and I'm working PT (although I'm about to lose that job which doesn't bother me as it's so boring).

I'm soooo broody. I have to go into Mothercare to look at baby clothes when I'm out shopping! How sad is that! (Here I am baring my soul on my first posting to MN !)

I was pg with #3 in 2000 but MC at 6 weeks - hardly anything drastic but I've never forgotten it.

The last 3 years have not been ideal for us to ttc as dh has had really stressy jobs and we've had to move house a couple of times, but now we're settled I'm becoming totally obsessed with the idea of having another before time runs out.

Has anyone else had #3 at such a late stage? Am I totally and utterly mad?

Wifeof - thank you - didn't think you were being insensitive and always thrilled when people do fall pregnant easily (also wish it were me - but I just love to hear such wonderful news, regardless of who it is). x

Blimey - how on earth do they cope?

How does your dh/dp feel about having another, or are you keeping quiet?

Me and my dh have had many conversations about it over the last 4 years (usually after far too much wine) and he's not sure. He's always said that if I would regret not having more then we should, which sounds as if he's not keen, but then after the last drunken night back in Feb he actually asked our ds and dd if they fancied another baby brother or sister and started to think of names etc!

He also said that if it didn't happen naturally he'd wouldn't want to go any further, which I agree with. Neither of us could face IVF etc.

I think we need to hit the wine again this WE and have a chat!

i have 3 ..... aged 4, 2 and 22 weeks........would love another one!!!

my one cousin and his wife have 10 kids....5 of each....

Flumpette - sorry, didn't mean to be insensitive to any of you who are struggling ttc; wishing you all loads of luck, love and babydust

Ooohhh - you're so lucky to have two children and to be able to decide whether to have another - I had IVF to have my baby - BUT having said all that - your relationship with hubby is so important as it'll be you two left once your little ones find their own lives, so if it would have a negative impact, worth discussing with him - so I would say tread carefully - but, there is nothing like a baby. Hope it helps.

Busybee123, 10 each or between them?

If we got on with it and I had #3 next year, ds would be 9 and dd 6. I'm worried that ds would get left out because dd is very into babies and would probably love it (except her usual lack of attention from moi). Anyone else got valuable experience here?

i am broody.........!!! my cousins got TEN KIDS!!!

Wifeof, mine are 7, 5 and 2. So if we did go for no.4, the gap would not be too big. A friend of mine, 42, has just told me she is pregnant with no.2 and her no.1 will be 6 - if you want reassurance re age gaps....

Am quite pleased to say that i am no longer feeling broody. Never ever thought that feeling would go away but it is definatly starting to fade.

7!!!!!!!!!!

Flippin' 'eck

As one of a unit of 3 I nust say I did enjoy having sisters and would like my ds to have a sibling to keep him company. as we move a lot it nice that they always have to omeone to play with and talk to him who is going through exactly the same problems with settling!

Thanks girls, you're all making reassuring noises. I do occasionally wonder what I'm bothered about, especially as an acquaintance started off with twins at 26 and has just had #7 (and she had to be induced!!!!!!)

Never give up i had my 4th at 43 without trying bit of a suprise(shock) but i wouldnt be without him now It can happen when you least expect it. His siblings are all grown up and living away from home so he is like an only child. I dont think it makes any difference to him as long as he has friends and knows we love him. He's not any less happy than my girls who grew up as a unit of 3.

I think I must be strange. I had ds1 and felt broody a couple of hours later. The feeling didn't go away until I had conceived ds2 six months later. Within hours of having ds2 I felt broody and feel it all the time. ds2 is 10 months old now. I really want a third child, dh has been convinced, but I think I have been suffering from a bit of PND since ds2. I cry a lot and some days I feel really bleak, so we are going to hold off until I feel better.
Anyone think having kids close together increases your chances of PND? I have never been mrs glum, but I have been feeling pretty miserable (but broody with it! ) for rather a long time now. BTW I absolutely LOVE being pregnant too.
I am 35 and am glad I didn't start having kids years ago - I would probably have a football/hockey team by now