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When's the best time to get pregnant? Use our interactive ovulation calculator to work out when you're most fertile and most likely to conceive.

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RESPONSE trial thread

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Marchgirl · 04/05/2015 19:50

For anyone who had joined or is thinking of joining the RESPONSE medical trial for recurrent miscarriage

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Genwah85 · 17/06/2015 21:11

Just got home and thought I'd do another test and got no smiley :(

girliesaints · 17/06/2015 20:55

Claire & March, for what its worth, I think you would make fab Mw as you've experience the heartache of pregnancies, which most me haven't x

clairemorgan81 · 17/06/2015 20:33

just seen you put Sept 2021 that would be same for me March!x

clairemorgan81 · 17/06/2015 20:32

how strange March! I think once my next one (if it ever happens) goes to school so best case 2020 I would start training, I 'll prob be 42 ish mind by the time I qualify (if all went to plan!
it's never too late. never say never.
I wish I could start it all now but couldn't with wanting another bambino.

anyone on here use a mooncup instead of tampons?x

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Marchgirl · 17/06/2015 20:09

How strange claire, that was my dream change of career too, but i think it's just too late for me now because of all this shit. I wouldn't be able to start training til no2 was in school, so even assuming i got pg in the next few months and it worked out, we're talking sep 2021 before i could start the degree and finish in 2025. I'd be 48! I'm sad that is not going to happen. So i say if you've got an opportunity now then take it kaz!
I agree that 7dpo is a bit too early to test, even though that's what you're supposed to do. I'd start around 10dpo. I found the earlier testing pointless the month i did it.

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Genwah85 · 17/06/2015 20:03

Well I go on holiday on Sunday for 8 nights so thinking wait till I get back so will be cd22 thinking saves stressing while on my holidays too x

clairemorgan81 · 17/06/2015 18:45

gen I wouldn't test that early i find it really difficult, maybe hang on a few days.

as for putting your life on hold its such a tough one, it's all ifs and buts. go for it as life has a funny way of working things out and sometimes the change of focus might be all it takes.
Im wanting a complete career change as my dream is to be a midwife, I've always said once I've had my babies I 'll do it - at this rate I 'll be a bloody pensioner Grin. x

clairemorgan81 · 17/06/2015 18:41

course I don't mind March, your exactly right we both have same situation in July. like you I never thought I wouldnt be pregnant by now. I'm losing hope and massively struggling as each month passes x

philippa88 · 17/06/2015 18:40

Kaz you have to go for it.. Life can't go on hold like you say and yeah it's hard, but it will also give you a new focus.
Back in 2013 I had the chance to go for a job really close to home and it was working with teenage rebels - I love how rewarding they are! Anyway, I didn't go for it thinking what if I got pregnant, what if I didn't qualify for maternity, what if I dropped them in it? Needless to say I went on to get pregnant but it didn't work out.. Oh how I wish I had of gone for that job!!! I'm currently still stuck in my normal job but I suppose now I can see a temporary break should I manage to get that far and take maternity leave!

As for testing.. I got a positive 10/11 days after the smiley face. Testing from 7 days just seems to cause more hassle than it's worth! Honestly it's far too early as we all know - especially using clearblue tests which aren't all that sensitive!

Good luck x

Kazz2112 · 17/06/2015 17:53

I started on cd 23 last month and it was horrendous. Id definitely wait a little longer than cd17. You scared me into doing a opk yest but no smiley yet!

I've found out that I've got an opportunity to go for a promotion. It came up 12 months since just after mc1 and I decided against it. I going to go for it this time. I've got to stop lettin all this dominate my life but it's so hard!!!

Genwah85 · 17/06/2015 17:19

Ladies from you opinions when did you start pregnency testing? The lady from response told me to start 7 days from my smiley but cd17 seems way to early?? Or is that just me thinking too much xx

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Marchgirl · 17/06/2015 16:54

I know how you feel claire. Never thought for a second that I'd get to July and still not be pregnant. So frustrating. I know yours is a different kind of frustration, so hope you don't find it inappropriate that I'm lumping us together, but the result is the same - no baby yet. Hope this one is your month x

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clairemorgan81 · 17/06/2015 16:50

it's really frustrating that's it's taking a while this time. I feel like time is just passing me by x

Choccywoccydodah · 17/06/2015 12:12

Wow Gen great news!!

Claire sorry about af, must be really frustrating esp as you caught so quickly before :(

March sorry the bleeding had arrived, our bodies are shit!

Louise have you been asked about the Tommys thing at UHCW in July?

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Marchgirl · 17/06/2015 10:35

If you did the day before yesterday and tonight then I think you're still in with a good chance. I think it's more random than we think. I was convinced our timing was poor last month but it obv wasn't too bad

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Genwah85 · 17/06/2015 10:28

We decided not too last night thinking we would go every other day! Going to test again when I get in and hope it's still smiling away! I'm normally about day 15 but this is my first cycle since last miscarriage so suppose could be a bit messed up! X

clairemorgan81 · 17/06/2015 08:50

take it easy March xx

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Marchgirl · 17/06/2015 08:37

Congrats on the smiley gen,but bloody annoying when it catches you out like that! Same happened to me last month. 4 days early. Hope it's a lucky one for you x

No, not off work claire, but i don't think it should be muck more than a heavy period. I have pain killers at the ready. Feel much calmer emotionally today so think I'll be ok.

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Kazz2112 · 17/06/2015 08:28

Oh crappy crap crap. I'm going to test when I get home! Thankfully dtd last night so there's hope if I do ov early. Don't think I am doing atm as I can usually feel it happening. Bloody painful!

So it seems we're cycle buddies this month!!! Good luck!!

Genwah85 · 17/06/2015 08:14

Sorry to hear March :(

Kaz, I'm cycle day 10 day I wasn't going to start ovulation testing until weekend but decided to this morning to get into a routine and...A blooming smiley!!! Can't believe it has happened this early! I'm just leaving work until 2030 tonight so hoping to start the deed tonight! Xx

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clairemorgan81 · 17/06/2015 06:46

sorry March are you off work? I know hormone drop is awful for you. Hope bleeding and painwise it's not too bad for you. thinking of you x

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Marchgirl · 17/06/2015 05:57

Sorry to hear af arrived claire. My temp has dropped this morning and the cramps have started so I think the miscarriage will happen today, making this cd1. yesterday was horrendous with the hormone crash. Couldn't stop crying. Really hoping today will be better. Got acupuncture tomorrow morning so hopefully she can help flush it out. Will be pretty much in sync again this cycle so hand holding claire, and good luck to you too kaz, you're just a few days ahead again

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Kazz2112 · 16/06/2015 21:48

Oh biooo. Sorry to hear that Claire. SMEP is sperm meets egg plan. You dtd starting day 8 and every other day from there starting opk on day 10. Then when you get a smiley you dtd every day for 3 days, have one off and then have one last try. Doubt I'll be able to do that this month as a) I've missed day 8. And b) I'd u smiley on cd16 as last month DH will be away for the final attempt!

clairemorgan81 · 16/06/2015 20:42

big hugs girlie.

how you bearing up March?

kazz CD1 is first day of full flow so last Monday?so your CD9 today Id probably start opk tests thurs or Fri as no harm starting them and better that way than miss it. what's that method? I've bit heard of it.

af arrived today Angry

Choccywoccydodah · 16/06/2015 20:10

So sorry March, just absolutely shit :( I hope you are ok as can be.

Girlie, no words :( big hugs x

Size totally get you! It's such a long way since last scan, and it's still hard to believe everything is ok. You must be excited too though?
I think finding out the gender this time has helped bond more if I'm honest. Now I know what my little person is, I can imagine him, prepare for him. With ds we didn't know and obviously I was mega excited but I just feel different.
I wasn't getting massive movements with this one (like I did with ds) but it turns out my placenta is anterior (at the front) this time. When I lay on my belly, baby kicks me, and so I feel movements, just doesn't feel as much. Dh felt baby kick on Sunday finally after me been feeling him from the outside since last Tuesday, but every time dh put his hand there, baby stopped!