April 2013 TTC girls, where we ALL get our babies!

X post with Cupcake. I had no idea a second c section was so bad apart from it destroying your chances of having a flat tummy again. I don't get why my midwife said that then... Although she does seem a bit c section crazy She delivered an antenatal class I went to and went on and on about interventions and sections and made it sound really unlikely that anyone would have a straightforward vaginal birth I also blame her for not realising how big DS was and that I had polyhydramnios Every appt I had I asked if the baby was unusually big because I was measuring over and she kept saying it was fine and then when I had the scan at the hospital a week before having DS and they told me he'd be ten pounds, when I told her she was like "Well we knew he was going to be a big baby didn't we?!"

Same here Siarie, my feet, ankles, calves and thighs were massively swollen It was mainly due to all the drugs and antibiotics they'd filled me full of in drip form both just before and in the 48 hrs following the section. I was full of excess fluid and it had all pooled in the lower part of my body when I was bed bound.
My scar is actually really not too bad, it's very low down, where my knicker line would be anyway and where my tummy naturally goes in. I think I've been really lucky re baby weight too - my tummy isn't any fatter than it was before I was pg, just flabbier... I really hope it tones up and I won't need a tuck for the excess skin, but it's not too bad really. I was also thinner everywhere else than I had been before getting pg - more like a ten than a twelve - until this week, when I've quickly put weight back in due to eating the wrong things and not being able to exercise. Right now I've got pretty much the same figure as I did before I was pg, but want to try and get down to a size ten again. Must cut out sugar!!

No no no noooooo please please don't give in and opt for an elcs! Consultants encourage a vbac as its much much safer than a 2nd csection!!! And also if uve had a vbac u are more like to have more vaginal births in the future and having a vbac makes it safer to carry more children.
If I have a csection id be warned about having more children as my uterus would be a lot weaker.
I have a big leaflet on vbac a from my consultant. My auntie pushed out a 11lb baby just had gas and air! It's possible to give birth to large babies and having a larger baby is no excuse from doctors to make u have a csection. It is so much safer to have a vbac. I was told 1 in 200 (or 2000 maybe?) uterus ruptures so it's not that common but they like to monitor just Incase of signs it might.
Lill I couldn't walk at all after my csection. I had 2 days of active labour and then a csection and it really hurt my muscles and made having a csection worse. I'm not going to lie I cried all day and night because of how much pain I was in. 24 hours after my csection, they made me get up and go take a shower on my own, I got to the shower and stood crying in pain. Just trying to sit up in bed hurt so so bad :( I was on morphine for 3 days whilst at hospital and begged them to let me take some home lol, I got these strong pain killers tho. I cried everyday through the amount of pain I was in :( I will never forget that! And I am not going through that again, I'm deffo trying my hardest for a vbac.
I've researched so much about sections and vbacs haha

Sorry for my essay

I walked to A&E two days after getting out of hospital and what bothered me more was the fat I was swelling from the waist down due to all the water retention. Once I got back in hospital for DD jaundice they gave me some stockings that sorted that out. My feet were huge.

Ducky I was up and walking straight after my c section with just paracetamol and strong prescription anti inflammatories. I was allowed home the next day so it just depends how you respond to being sliced and diced.

I found the stitches kept me hunched over for a while, on day five when they were removed it was much more comfortable as it wasn't pulling me forward and tight. Didn't find it painful at all but the consultants said I responded better than average to it.

Mostly I'm annoyed with how my stomach now goes in where the wound is so I either have to lose a lot more fat to get down to 20% body fat overall or I'm going to have to have surgery at some point to remove the fat. My stomach before was flat so it bothers me a lot, I've lost all my baby weight and then some already.

I agree lil about the slight disappointment of not getting a natural birth. I doubt I'll be able to have one now either, what with having a c section, obstetric cholestasis, polyhydramnios and a bigger than average baby at 37 weeks.

The after pains of my uterus contracting was quite bad but manageable and only lasted a week or so.

Tbh I imagine an episiotomy to hurt more! I was still partly numb from the waist down for more than 24 hrs afterwards and bed bound with a catheter so couldn't walk anyway. When they did get me out of bed and walking a bit it was painful in my tummy and where my stitches were but I was given morphine for the first day then strong ibuprofen and paracetamol at regular intervals for a couple of weeks after, and really didn't find it that hard to walk after a couple of days. I went out for a short walk 6 days after the op and was fine.

The recovery really hasn't been too difficult. I felt back to normal a week after my section but know I've got to take it easy still, so I'm only going as far as into town (a ten minute bus ride) for the first time since the section today. And I'm leaving DS at home with DP because although I feel up to it, getting the pram in and off the bus would probably be a bad idea.
The main difficulty or had after having the section has been not being able to hoover and lift heavy things so having to rely on DP to do housework

Totally agree Lulu and Ducky, it's a rubbish result. A lot of people who've voted Tory are going to end up getting screwed over by them as well. Ducky, you're so right about people not voting being part of the problem. Isn't it something like only 65% of people vote? It's ridiculous! Something needs to be done to make politics more accessible to everyone so more people understand why it's so important and what each party is about.

We went to the post natal clinic yesterday. DS hasn't quite got back up to birth weight yet but he is close.
Cupcake, did they say your uterus could rupture because you've had a c section? Is that why a vbac can be difficult? The midwife told me that they'd book me in for an elcs automatically if I got pg again because I'd likely have another massive baby and possibly other complications although there's not much chance of me getting pg again in the foreseeable future!
I'm l a bit sad that I probably won't ever experience giving birth vaginally, because I feel like it's a kind of rite of passage

I don't post about politics, but I think it's important to remember that a lot of people who vote don't like to say who they are voting for. For every person complaining about one party there will be someone who holds the opposing view. The point of the parties is that they appeal to different types of people, left and right etc.

Way I see it is you have to take the votes for what they are. Just like the Scottish referendum, the majority win and whatever party that is you have to accept the majorities choice.

Aawwww bless him Ducky ! maybe that's why he wasn't sleeping well? They say when they are about to come to a milestone they sleep bad, so maybe him rolling over might have been why? :)
It's good he slept as well! :D

See the other thing that concerns me about the Tories is my brother is classed as disabled because he has autism, what does it mean for him? Because I've not heard very good things so far he's not been in school for a year now because of them, because there was no funding for him and he got that anxious about school the school had to give up on him as they had no extra support for him. Tho he is off to a specialised school next month.
Hmm it gets me worried, very worried.

I don't get it personally. U hear everyone ranting how awful David Cameron is and all the Tories etc but they get the most seats! Who is voting for them???
From what I could understand he wants everyone to pay for the nhs. For me this would be very costly as I'm always in and out! Very disappointed, I thought labour would do it by miles

Anyway lol my bump is coming along nicely now :) small neat bump, 15 weeks now :)

DH has gone to bed as he has to be up for work. I am sitting here by myself wanting to smack Michael Gove one - smug liitle man.

Awful if it goes as they seem certain it will. Poor DS will start school under a Tory government.

Duckey- we are sitting here in despair at the exit polls. Looks like a massive unexpected swing to Tories. How could we have voted the bastards back in after everything they have done to protect the rich and attack the most vulnerable.
DH has just suggested we go to bed! So miserable.

Lil - Tommee Tippee Perfect Prep machine is great. We take ours upstairs at night and it is so easy if he needs feeding during the night or early in the morning- don't have to go downstairs and boil kettles! Really worth the money.

I am sitting with my feet up and a glass of white wine and some tortilla chips, ready for the election. DH has some beer. We love watching the results come in. Hoping for a Labour win.

DS came with me to vote this morning, then I pushed him along the seafront for 4 miles and then back again. I need my feet up tonight! He is sitting in his baby chair shouting at the moment. He likes to shout.

Sairie, Richmond is lovely, it will be very nice living there.

Cupcake, that is a huuuge amount of emails!

Duckey - hope you get some sleep.

Well they are being honest, they said the same thing to me in the hospital. But the important thing is they have picked it up Tori and everything will be fine.

Worse case scenario you end up with an emergency c section. It's not so bad.

Lill what I did is I put water in the kettle and boiled it. Then when DS needed a bottle the water had already been boiled and it was cold. So I'd poor him a bottle then refill and boil kettle and pop bottle in a jug of boiling water and the bottle warmed up in about a minute. That was my way of doing it.
As long as the water in the kettle has been boiled at some point then it's sterilised.

Yay for ur DS sleeping ducky!

Work wasn't too bad tbh! I got everything done :) and Lill I'm feeling much better and Ms has gone finally! :) I'm pretty sure I'm having a boy lol

Gosh Tori they said to call an ambulance if ur waters break? I've been told I have to come immediately to the hospital as soon as I think I'm having contractions, and that I'm not allowed to stay at home to wait till they are 5 mins apart because my uterus might rupture so I need monitoring ASAP.

Ducky I've also been told to have my hospital bag packed early I have to have it pack by 30 weeks, Incase to early labour again.

Haha Tori if your waters go you will want to go find a bucket and pop it under you that will be your first thought. Floods I tell you, FLOODS.