Halfway through my TWW and looking for company. Anyone in the same boat?

Morning everyone
haquoi - BFN here too, as expected. Af still not kicked off properly - so frustrating.
Glad you're dh is so willing with his man muck and and all that jizz (!) - that's what dh is like now too!
So sorry to hear of those dreadful comments - your GP's comment was utterly horrendous and cruel, I just don't understand people sometimes.
Sorry for your bfn, I'm still hoping for you if af is staying away though x

Bfn here again! I feel out, so just waiting for period now. No sign of her yet x

Ok diamond, it's a deal! That's great that your ttc is driven also by your dh. I initially had to cajole my dh into ttc DS (three years of suggesting we ttc and he finally got to the point of thinking, 'well, I'll never be readier than I am now, so we might as well [shrug]' (we were also pretty young so I can't blame him - DS was born when I was 25)) He definitely into it now and is lovely and willing whenever I need man muck and all that jazz (jizz, ha!). And I know he'd be a great dad.

I have three sisters (but two of them are twenty years younger than me and they are the best baby sisters ever (dad remarried)), but grew up just me and my younger (but not baby) sister. I have a big family, so want lots of children - but that's what I want and its not up to me to comment on anyone else's situation. Shit, so many people have made comments about my DS - the GP when I got back to the UK actually told me that I was young and could always have another. This is 4 days after my son had died. People are that unthinking and that cruel. I'm sorry you both have to deal with that!

haquoi - fuck it let's stick to our Saturday morning poas plan tomorrow ! I admit I got a BFN this morning but was too ashamed to admit I'd done it despite spotting. But I think we should tomorrow - for me at least it will be closure - for you it could be far more exciting! It's a date?!
It is very cruel of people - I'm sick of it, people don't think. DS is 3 and DH was adamant he didn't want another - in fact he wasn't too supportive when I was pregnant with him despite having made the decision to ttc together - but then last June he just came out with it and said he wanted us to have another - a complete (but happy) surprise, because he and DS are inseparable. I think that's why I am putting myself under so much pressure as he wants it badly too.
birchy - I'm an only child too! But I do get the - we're being cruel not having another thing all the time - drives me mad.

oh and PS I'm an only child and it has done me no harm! my mil comes out with statements that my sil will def have another child as she wouldn't do that to her dd. do what exactly!! grr makes me so cross! does she think I have had something horrible done to me - as I'm quite alright thank you!

haquoi I have actually started temping this month I'm quite excited about it! so far its showing a steady enough line but I'm o my cd6 haha but I am liking it!

diamond this will be our 7th cycle but I only started really monitoring 3 months ago and only started DTD every other day last month but did stop on positive ovp. some of those months were not great cycles either as Feb and Dec totally missed ovulation dates.

diamond, again, don't want to get your hopes up, but have you poas? I'm not sure I'm going to do it again - maybe Monday if AF hasn't turned up, but I'm getting slight cramps and feel like she's on her way. Unless you want to go 'fuck it! Let's stick to our poas on Sat morning plan even if we know it'll be negative!' with me? That's cruel what those people are saying, I hate it when people think they can butt into your life and make suggestions without knowing whats happening with you. How old is your DS?

hewy, I know what you mean, BFPs are like gold!! You could sell them on the market for thousands! Where are you in your cycle again?

birchy, temping apparently is really good for knowing when you've actually ovulated. Its good for hindsight, so it doesn't predict, but it lets you know when you can stop babydancing. Urgh, both DH and I want AF to hurry up and sodding get it over and done with.

birchy - lol - how strange you become a narky witch when you ovulate?! You'll definitely have to be speaking to dh and try not to show your narkiness . I must admit sometimes I've had to bite my tongue when I was about to have a go at dh when I've realised what day it is! The things we have to do!
I think you ovulate 12-36 hours after a peak reading so yes maybe you've been stopping a little early. How long have you been ttc again?

they don't know I'm TTC - I laugh it of and say not anytime soon - which isn't really a lie

a colleague got married a few months after me and she has just made her announcement of bfp so it has upped the anti recently - ohh it will be you next, any news yet, baby brain today - no its just I'm thick today haha, and advice not to leave it to long - never a right time for kids! grrr

I love hearing about bfp especially for ppl who are older than me and have been trying for a few months as it gives me confidence it will happen for me! I think what I realised this month since joining this group is we may not b DTD at right times. previously we stopped DTD day I got peak readings on ovulation sticks. I have realised I become a narky witch when I ovulate! never seen that connection before TTC but knew every month I got awful PMS just not during AF. so I've had talk with dh no matter how grumpy I am we have to baby dance lol so I'm hoping that has been our issue so far.

Congratulations Sleepy!!!!! It's so good to hear that BFPs even exist and so pleased for you! Gives us hope to keep trying. I'm downloading that VLUE app too! Trying everything!

Thanks for the lovely welcome back birchy and haquoi! I couldn't leave you - birchy - would have loved to see what that emoj was! I get it all the time at work: comments like "you're the favourite next", "have you got any news" "can't you persuade your DH for another?" - to that I feel like saying "why, am I that hideous?!" Or the downright rude "it's cruel for your DS to be an only child, he's missing out on loads" - I swear I will lose my temper one day!
Haquoi - I like the idea of the death stare. Your test today, maybe you'd just drank too much water or something? Are you going to test in the morning? Will be there for you if you do and crossing fingers lots xx
I'm okay thank you, once again this morning's spotting disappeared, af is really taking her time to kick in properly which is extremely frustrating as I just want to get it out of the way and to get on with SMEP. I'm still bitterly disappointed but I can't wallow for long.

Yay diamond, I'm so so pleased you're staying!! :) How're you feeling?
birchy, that's annoying! Do they know you're ttc? No-one asks me anything, but tbh anyone who mentions babies to me tend to get a death stare, or rabbit in the headlights face (oh shit, how can I run away???), so it doesn't happen too often.
finding, that's so good you're feeling better. Everyone's symptoms are different, each pregnancy is also different. You never know, yours might be something interesting :)
I don't even feel sick or have that weird taste, or constant hunger anymore. I know I'm out and so I'm just waiting. Next month.

in work today I accidentally hung up on two people lol but then my colleagues start asking ooh is this baby brain .. do any of you get asked constantly any news? I feel like shouting sometimes that I'm blooming trying!

ooh ignore.. as it didn't even come up lol

diamond I'm so happy you have come Back [ PS not sure wat that last emoji I put up and now or won't delete

Hi ladies
I couldn't stay away, I missed you too much
haquoi - once again your kind words have been a real comfort so thank you (and big hugs). So sorry about your BFN but you're not out yet, still hoping for you.
birchy - yes I'll be SMEPing too this month - as long as DH's shifts allow!
sleepy - amazing news!! I'm delighted for you - I had a feeling you were getting your BFP! It gives me hope as well as I was on cerazette - although I've been off it nearly a year now and there's only so long I can blame a pill on my failure
finding - glad you're feeling a little better, hopefully you're over the worst of it now.

Haquoi I'm feeling a little better, thanks. I haven't time to see the doctor as I've taken a lot of time off work for various tests and scans and I don't think my employer will take kindly to me taking any more.

I know I said that I didn't trust symptom spotting but I'm now going to look back in the thread to re-read everything Sleepy said about her symptoms

finding how are you feeling?

sleepy that's amazing news. My only advice (and I know you've not asked for it, sorry!) is to tell someone other than your partner so that if you get morning sickness or find it difficult at all that you've got support. The secret isn't worth not having support. Wishing you all the best of luck!

sleepy your info gives me so much hope. I'm 35 as well and have been trying for a long time. I do have very regular AFs though (I can time them almost to the hour!)

Your bfp has really given me much needed hope.

haquoi

i phoned my GP and she sid i dont need an appointment until weeks 6 - 8, they took the date of last AF and think i'm already 4 - 5 weeks based on that so made be a 'first booking appointment (?!) for 5 June, 3 weeks time.

in the meantime i'm googling every diet and vitamin known to man (and woman obvs!) and trying to work out when to tell our parents so one set doesn't find out before the others (they live 200 mile away and i feel rotten doing it on the phone and we're all going on a family holiday on 25 May!!!!)

Thanks finding and birchy (and haquoi again!)

if i am honest i have fallen very very lucky. I was on cerazette (now cyrelle) for 5 years with no periods at all. i cam off the pill in January this year and had no AF or even withdrawal bleeds etc until March. i downloaded the 'CLUE' app purely to see if i could regulate AF from it as i wasn't sure on dates etc and the March AF was awful, April much better. The App also gives you your fertile window and i have to confess we DTD almost everyday the app showed me (sorry TMI i know)

I'm in shock mainly becasue i was anticipating about a year to fall on. I'm 35 and overweight and have been without AF's (due to various contraception) for about 8 years!

i really really hope you all get your BFP's soon i feel like ive cheated you in some way.xx

sleepy that is fab news!! what is your stats again?

I am really interested in what is the avg time to conceive in this group.

haquoi thanks for that tip - I must look into reflexology. I have been doing some yoga and that has helped me de stress lots!

I have a good feeling about this month - I have my cousins wedding in July so if I get pregnant this month I will have to come up with some excuse for not drinking! That is going to be hard to do at an Irish wedding! I was hoping i had got a bfp this month as then I would have been able to be open about why I was not drinking. However lying about not drinking would be a very tiny sacrifice for a BFP

Congratulations sleepy!!!

I'm so happy for you .

I hope we hear the same news for all the other soon too.

How exciting for you. I can't imagine how you must be feeling.