Ttc and still breastfeeding? Thread #3: Pull up a chair for some support from others on the journey!

Positive thinking Ava :) you have one beautiful baby - you know your body can do it, and it will do it again. And this cycle is already different and better for all the reasons you listed - just think how much the weaning process will have helped you along by the time you hit your dtd window :) and I am just the other end of a PM anytime you want to vent - I'm so glad to have a ttc AND weaning buddy to keep me company this cycle! I shall be POAS (just got some clearblue ones off Amazon), would be up for temping but dont have the first clue! Is there any easy guide anywhere?

Trinpy, I feel for you - sleep deprivation and multiple night wakings is so tough. There's no perfect age to wean, and if now is the right time for you and your family (and your mental health!) then do it. You've done brilliantly to go on this long - your LO is one of the lucky ones :)

Good luck to you, auto and pear and anyone else still in the 2ww!

Sorry you're having a tough time, Trin, over-tiredness is the worst

Sorry AF has shown up for you too, Wax. Crazy that we'll be in sync though Will you be tracking your temps or just poas or both? I have a love/hate relationship with temping, but I should put more trust into it

Right, got my game face on - dont want DD to suspect I'm feeling down.

Onwards and upwards, ic opks ordered online. Today is the start of a new cycle, time to rally and make the best of it -

I'm 4lbs lighter than I was last cycle (only 4 more to go to be back to my lightest pre & post-pg weight, yay!)

I've started the weaning altogether process, which should help to increase my progesterone levels in the later half of this cycle

I have, hopefully, increased my LP by 2 days

Can't promise I'll remain this positive into the wee hours after DDs fallen asleep but I'm certainly better than I was this morning x

Sorry it wasn't your month Ava.

Good luck to pear and auto.

I'm not having a very good day. I had a total of 5 hours sleep last night thanks to ds. He's just not sleeping recently and Dh and I are like zombies atm we're so tired. Breastfeeding has just been adding to the stress. He's dropped all feeds now except for once or twice during the night and I'm seriously considering stopping altogether now. I wanted to keep going until around 18mnths-2 years but in the last couple of weeks I've just become so stressed with it. Feeling really crap about it all today .

Sorry wax. Sad news for you both today

Sorry Ava :( I'm also out of the game this month - AF has arrived for me today too. So on the plus side, we are now exactly in sync for seeing the next cycle through together! Fingers crossed we both get a happy ending this time :)

Oh thanks Ava. Don't worry though...I'll be joining you in a couple of days . I've got the usual tiredness and hunger that comes before AF and I just KNOW with my temps it's not my month. The warning signs is helping me work through the anger before she arrives Now I just need to gently warn DH eek

Thanks Lea x

Good luck to both of you, Auto and Pear

And anyone else in the 2ww, hope you get what you hope for at the end of it x

pear hold on. She might never come! At least one of us should get a bfp now! I'm 7dpo and if af comes tomorrow would have equalled my longest lp of seven days. If she doesn't I'm hoping that the progesterone worked or I'm upduffed. Am not holding out hope due to temp drops, but I've been scouring ff charts and there are loads of awful awful looking charts that resulted in pregnancy so who knows.
Eat the cake. It's what I would do.

That should say "I'm not overly overweight" lol

Oh Ava I'm so sorry. I know and share your frustration too well It really looked hopeful for us both! You've inspired me to focus on loosing some weight instead of putting all my energy into TTC. I'm normally overweight (size 10) but I have put on at the thighs and I have more like.size 12 cake bottom ?? Anyway, this morning I decided to let go and focus on something else other then feeling like I'm a baby making failure all the time ?? Saying all this when my AF arrives I'mgoing to be a balling mess so please remind me to get a grip and stay away from cake ?? In the meantime stay strong, keep on going with your Amazing weight loss and enjoy your gorgeous daughter because soon we will be fat and waddling behind ??

Sorry Ava

Thanks Auto. Think I might shed a little tear later

Getting me through today is the thought of arriving home and DD running into my arms

I keep trying to remind myself that everything happens for a reason and will work out for the best, but, like I said last cycle, it is becoming draining now. I'm trying to hold onto the positives of a larger age gap. Aside from all this undivided attention DD currently has, the only other positive I can think of is that we likely wont have the expense of 2 DC's in uni at the same time...

I know I am already sooo lucky to have one bright, beautiful and happy DC so I shouldn't complain, but still....

ava noooo-oooo! I was so certain! Gutted for you! Really really gutted.

Haha! OneCurrant!

Thanks Wax DD doesnt have a structured feeding schedule, it's just as and when. If we'd been out all day yesterday she wouldnt have asked for boob. I'm at work until this evening, so it'll probably be just 2 feeds today and tomorrow, and if we go out all day on Friday I'm hoping we'll do well then too... Feeling positive about weaning all together now, its definitely time....

AF has just arrived I started to have a little cry but pulled myself together as I'm at work. I allowed myself to be cautiousy optimistic this morning too

I too need to stock up on products and more ic opks now.....was holding off in naivity hope.... sucks....

Bet I've tempted fate booking the hol and I'll be due around then

Sorry pear. I reckon I'm out too. Haven't POAS since Monday, but mainly because if I don't I can still keep pretending it could have happened! No symptoms at all though. AF could have been due anytime from last Sat to next Tuesday by my stupid cycles! Might test again tomorrow and then rule myself out entirely. Am planning to console myself with a mega Amazon order of TTC stuff along with DD's birthday presents :)

Ava, I too hope your holiday is ruined by a newborn/pregnancy! And dont worry about the bedtime feed (lovely idea about the book though!). All the advice I've read from la leche league/kellymom says to remove one feed at a time at a fairly slow pace, and that the bedtime feed is often the last to go. So you've already made absolutely huge progress by replacing 3 feeds in one day yesterday!

Pear that's where you're going wrong... you need to stock up on the ole tampons to tempt fate a bit!

Sorry for af. I'm at work today so could send you a virtual ice cream sundae?

Haha, Ava, i read that as "booked a hot night". All this sexing has made me a right perv!
I hope your holiday is ruined by you being a) massively pregnant or b) struggling to get any sleep with a newborn

Btw I tested from a superdrug twin pack. Didn't waste my 3x cb sticks

Btw I tested from a superdrug twin pack. Didn't waste my 3x cb sticks

So I caved. 10dpo. Bfn. I just needed to know for sure. Now I can prepare for AF and stock up on wine because my gut feeling is it hasn't worked this month. I wonder when AF will show. Most likely Saturday morning when I'm surrounded by pregnant ladies!!!! I think this may be the first month I've made it to 10dpo?! There's something positive!

Arghhh my temperature has now dropped to just above my cover line. Every morning it's dropping further now. I'm out for sure. How sad I better prepare the stock cupboard as once again I have no AF stock thinking that this month would be my month!!! Ava you were right....at least the madness of temping prepares you for the bad news!!!

Well done with the feeds, Wax. My final prize of the day did not work at all. A book I'd ordered for DD arrived today so I wrapped and added it to the stash. I thought it'd be lovely to settle down and read it before bed but she wanted boob as I read to her, as this is our routine, so I definitely need to stick to activity gifts we can do outside of the bedroom and living room, our usual bf'ing places, so as not to get back into habits....

Booked a hol tonight, a repeat of the one we've just been on, for 2016. I thought of calling tomorrow and asking what happens if we have another DC in tow by that time...then I remembered that, last year, I asked them the exact same question about this year, thinking we'd be going with 2 DCs. Had no idea it'd still be just the 3 of us this far down the line

Thanks for the tip OneCurrant, I know what you mean re selective necklines. DD can be very, erm, forceful and sometimes shoves her little hand down my top while we're out in public She's been known to help herself during the night too, especially if I wear a vest top to bed, so a t.shirt top is what I'll be wearing for a while now

A stone in a month is brill! With my over indulging on Saturday I've still managed to lose 4 lbs in my first week, I'd love to lose another 4... But I think I must've caught a killer sore throat off DD and I've been self medicating with scoffing a few biccies and a mug of tea this evening

Lea and Mumo, I'm only trying to be good and have some patience now as I feel so silly for wasting 2 clear blue digi tests over the last few days. If I had any more hpts in the house I'd be poas at least once daily... Trust me ...

Mumo, my very, very first inclination I might be pg with DD, even before any symptoms or late AF, was a really vivid pg dream the night before AF was due/I poas and got my bfp - so I definitely count that as a good sign

Laughing at the thought of Pear randomly poking her boobs I feel exactly the same though

Oh Ava I'm so glad the boob or prize bribery has paid off!!! Sounds like it's going brilliantly! Well done both of you :)

Day 3 of our day weaning has gone well too! No feeds at all since the last one in bed at 7am-ish. Today was the real test as we were home alone all day, so she'd normally want to watch Cbeebies attached to my boob all day. She asked a few times but was easily distracted with other offers. And for the first day so far I didn't have to give her hot chocolate - we got by on two mugs of mint tea and a coconut water lollipop! Still not brilliant from a sugar perspective, but I'm hardly going to tempt her with water ;)

I haven't even ovulated yet so it's definitely not a pregnancy symptom! Just strange that it was so vivid! In my dream the little boy was about 1.