The Bumsnet/Angry Pubes Bus

waves at Mary from the ttc bf side-car bus

mary sorry you've come back to us in such circumstances. Hope you are feeling ok? X

Waves at sparkly
I also thought from the description when I popped in yesterday what juney said. That a rolling bus was still a ttc bus.
Oooooo-ooooh there are Easter emoticons!
The donut with ears looks weird.
Someone mentioned popcorn earlier (think it was the poas crowd today?) and you totally got me in the mood, so I made some. Salted of course. Naturally. honestly, people who prefer sweet popcorn, you drive me bonkers! I can now report that I am very thirsty. Is it a symptom? Is it?

Welcome back Mary. I'm sorry to hear you were treated so badly.

Oh, marysprayer, the hugest hugs coming your way. How awful for you

So sorry to hear your news Mary's, but welcome back to the bus, Xx

Mary I am so sad to hear of your loss, I remember you well :(

Fx you get your sticky bean very very soon!

Aw, thanks mummy, purdey and juney. It means such a lot to have you to talk to.

Pm'd you back sparkly xx

Marys cannot believe they were like that. That's so awful!! Poor you lovely. You needed advice and reassurance for moving forward from them, not a slap in the face. Which I'm sure is how you felt. It's heartbreaking. Where is the human connection! Healthcare is so often run like a business these days sorry night it's just so sad you were treated that way

So sorry to see you back marys I'm hopeful you won't be here long (meant positively!) Xxx

I love you, too, Juney

Why have you left, dear Wotsits? You are much loved on here and our pregnant friends are not far away

Mary, I am so, so sorry, sweetheart. It is crushing and desperate when you lose a little one. Some clichés are true, though, and one of them is time being a healer. Please know we are all here whilst your time seems to be standing still xxx

Oh I missed wotsits leaving . It's sad we those we get to 'know' leave but I do hope she pops back.

I was about to post a reply about the bus situation but just read the reply from purdey and sparkly and I agree with their views. It would be nice to hear from the pregnant ladies though as they will for sure be missed but it wouldn't be fair for them not to be able to discuss their pregnancies and it would be unfair on the ttc'ers to listen. Although I wouldn't mind personally but I think if we start going down the route of discussing both then some may feel less supported in their journeys.
I love you all though

Mary I pm'd you.. Whilst one legged in my jeans,pulling on the other! multitasker

I remember you Marys Prayer. Lovely to hear from you again although not in the circumstances.

Come and take a nice comfy seat - and massive hugs and lots of sweet tea! xx

Thanks sparkly. Yes I was 'with' you on the bus when it happened to you.

The bleeding was very heavy, with clots, for three days but has lessened today. Hospital were useless and unsympathetic. I didn't get referred to an epu, just had a poas test and was told to go home. No advice or follow up given. I felt like I was wasting their time.

Thanks dizzy and mama

at sparkly brushing her teeth while being all deep and meaningful! Gave me my first chuckle in days.

Oh Marys I'm so so sorry lovely. You are welcome back with open arms. We will all support you. And a number of us including myself have had an early loss so we absolutely know how you are feeling. I hope you are not physically in lots of pain? Thinking of you. You will get your sticky BFP my lovely. It will come. For now, we are here for you

Welcome back marys and sorry you're back. What a terrible time for you, I hope you have lots of RL support around. Please stick around, we don't all need to be TTC experts, just TTC'ers! You're very welcome here.

Argh! Too many posts!!! Can't catch up! Got to leave in a bit for my app but I see there's a general mixed consensus today on things on the bus! Just sending some sparkly positive light

Einaudi- jealous. very jealous Pixa that's amazing!! Can I come?!

Purds is back in town, Purds is back in town...

I'm loving these easter emojis!

Easter- hope-miracles-new beginnings people! Let's get our BFPs!!

I would miss Giddy and all you preggers ladies. I totally think you will gravitate towards a AN thread as time goes on. It makes sense. Why would you want to be here listening to is all wail on about OPKs and temp drops?! But I also understand that you may want to dip in every so often so that you can check on us all too etc! I hear everyone's views and opinions.i don't want to sit on the fence about it either, I just think the best solution to everyone's needs is that actual pregnancy symptoms etc are not discussed on here as I can see why those TTC a long time just don't need to hear that.. Everyone is here to support each other in the TTC process.. And that's draining month after month, so we all need this space to vent and advise each other away from RL.. Where we are constantly surrounded by baby bombs etc! However, I have to stress, for me- and this may differ for others- I still love to hear about how those who have their BFPs are doing, I think it helps to keep hopeful. Especially as we often seem to be so aware of early loses on here, it's nice to hear hopeful stories too!
Ok that's a ramble, I'm trying to brush my teeth here and get deep with y'all. It ain't easy! Ha.

Did I see Wotsits left?! Nooooooo!

Eskimo luck for today

Juney hope you are ok lovely

Oh Mary I'm so sorry for your loss You will be well supported here and I hope you start to feel better, though I appreciate it can't be easy. Moral support and chit chat is great. We're all in this together.

I'd like to re-join you please. As a ttc'er, rather than a bfp graduate though, sadly.

You may remember me from the monthly buses. I posted on most of them from Dec to March. I'm not an LPB honestly! With work and a non-napping toddler to care for I couldn't always find the time to post every day, but I always tried to keep up. As I wasn't a long term ttc'er with any experience of temping and fertility test etc I could never really offer any useful advice, just moral support, a bit of chit chat and some fellow commiseration when AF arrived. When I got my bfp on the March bus I stepped away as I understood that was the done thing I suppose.

Anyway, back to the point. Sadly I miscarried my little bean at the weekend. I was only 5 1/2 weeks in but it has been very painful none the less. I'm in a bad place at the moment and would love to nestle back in with you.

I've been reading most of this thread and can appreciate both arguments for combining ttc and bfps and for keeping them separate. I don't really know what the best solution is. It's a shame to fall out or get upset with one another though.

Anyway, here are my new stats
#####MarysPrayer 37 ttc#2 bfp on 20th march, mc 29th march 2015. Still bleeding so I have no idea when bfp will be due.

I love you purdey

I also love einaudi!

Tbh I thought the mega bus was for TTCer who didn't want to move to another bus once getting their period as they'd made friends. But what do I know.