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Oh hang on, having a blonde moment....

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At last! Been trying to get on Mumset all evening but haven't been able to...I think our internet connection is playing up...

Anyway!! Oh Eskimo sorry you have had a tough day Sometimes we need to let out all these pent up emotions and lets face it yesterday was an emotional day for you. I know you were apprehensive about what they were going to find and understandably you are worried about what will happen in the future. Let it all out....but you WILL get there

Purdey What is going on with your man?! I think he will realise tonight just how much you do...what a twat. Pleased to hear your mum is looking after you

Here is my chart, see if anyone can make any sense as to why ff have moved ovulation date and put dashed crosshairs...

Oooh, intriguing!

No not quite but not far away

Melon, are you a fellow Rugbyite?! It used to drive me mad when people would ask if it was named after the game. No, other way round, dumbass!

I'm East bi-arch.

Yo nomio was happenin' brotha?

I lived in the middle of The Midlands for half my life! (Rugby)

Ooh Melon, fellow no-mans-lander (not a northerner, not a southerner - what are we?!) I'm from the west side, innit.

You do realise that the law of sod means that Nancypants will sttn tonight don't you Purdey?

Mary I'm in the Midlands too shall we share a lift to Purdey ville? Are you East or West?

I had forgotten that DH used to work until recently. I agree that a man shouldn't have to get up in the night if he then has to go off to work the next day. However, since he is currently not working it might do him good to get up. Especially after a few nights when the tiredness builds up.

That is one of the things I am dreading about having a baby. I love my sleep!

I have just eaten a whole box of Cadbury's Fingers and now feel sick.

I live in no man's land the midlands purds I don't like snickers. Does you mum have any Mars Bars?

Right I've missed a few pages. Catch up time! X

Darling Mary, where do you live? Can you get on a buzz with your jimmies and get off 'ere in Chorley? Come on..I'll put keckle on for a . Do you want a Snickers....?

Thanks, Nomio, but I already know I'm Top Dollar and that he is very fucking lucky to have someone who swallows is a rock to him and puts him first always. I'll tell you why he has NEVER got up in the night to Nancy: I am a Fifties housewife when it comes to stuff like that. I don't believe a man who works long hours should have to get up to a baby when the woman is a SAHM. So, when DH worked I wouldn't dream of waking him and saying 'Go and see to the baby'. No way. Since he has lost his job, we have fallen into this routine where I still do all the night wakings and he gets up at 7am with her (I usually get up a short time later and I think he thinks this exonerates him somewhat for never doing the nights.)

I'm not overly concerned because we have such a great relationship and we communicate very well, but I wanted to show him in practical terms what it means to have to parent through the night every night (I will be refusing to get up in the night any more when I return home. See how he fucking likes it )

Purdey you do make me chuckle Even when you're having a shite night yourself you still manage to cheer up my grumpy, sad old self.

Aw, Melon, fanks. I enjoyed that squeeze but lay off the tits, yeah

Eskimo, yes, you make me honk with laughter on that there faceache No, you can't have any pizza coz itz gone, innit. Thankfully there are only 450 calories in each quarter, and I've only had four of them, so I don't think I've overdone it

Yes, my mum is a chocolate monster. Her 'goodie drawer' is a kind of walk-in pantry. I kid you not. There is every conceivable confectionery, nut, crisp, chewy thing, sour Haribo shite, liquorice, ice cream, cake medley you could imagine. But Snickers are her life.She worships at the shrine of Snicker. She doesn't laugh, she Snickers. She doesn't wear underwear, she wears Snickers....etc, etc...

Purdey, I don't know how I missed your post. I think I ust have been writing one at the same time.

That sounds like a horrible fight, but as Eskimo says, it has clearly been brewing for a while. I don't blame you for taking off, it sounds like DH is refusing to see things from your point of view. Of course you would feel a bit pushed out if he is suddenly doing all the things with Nancy that you used to.

Do you mind me asking why he doesn't ever get up in the night? Does he just not hear Nancy Pants, or does she only want you?

Also, me and the rest of these 'absolute strangers' you talk to would be only too glad to tell him how amazing you are & how much your advice has helped us all. The only one talking bollocks is him!

Aaaaargh! I missed a full page! Wait, erm..Eskimo, were the tears entirely related to TTC woes? I liked Butter's post to you and it said pretty much everything I wanted to. Here are some They are shoplifted.

Glittery, I meant to tell you how much I laughed at your tissue-eating escapades. I know this is a decidedly unfunny set of affairs (being bultissuexic) but you're so direct about these things. I'm sorry you went through that.

Thank you everyone for your fasting tips. They were all fucking useless, but I do appreciate the effort

Purdey Has your muvva got a Snickers tree? Can I come round and join you? Save us a slice of pizza...

Nomio Thank you, I do need to keep reminding myself that I am going through a process and the ball is rolling. Maybe today's episode was a severe case of PMS? Two years? That sounds awful. Many years ago, I went on the mini-pill and it did that to me. I just bled all the time. Didn't stay on it very long at all.

On the plus side my mother is treating me like a sixteen year-old who has just broken up with her first boyfriend: 'Ooooooo! Kerreh! 'Ow DARE 'e?! 'E needs to gerrajob that 'un! Ooooo, will 'e be able to 'ear t'babby tonight through t'monitor? Do you want a Snickers, luv? Brew? I've changed t'beddin' in t'spare room, luv. Do you want to sleep wi' me? Do you want to watch telly wi me, love? Is that brew too strong? Men, eh! You don't 'ave to go 'ome you know. Do you want a Snickers? Do you want anuvver brew....?'

Purdey You have been voicing your concerns about this situation for weeks now. This, or something very like this, was going to happen. At the best, it could have been a discussion with possible heated moments. As it is, it is his swearing and laughing at you that has caused you to have a night away (and why shouldn't you?) I'm glad that you managed to grab some supplies and that you have your lovely mum to look after you. Hopefully tomorrow, he will appreciate what an unbroken night's sleep is, but that he isn't too sleep-deprived for you to be able to patch things up. In the meantime, I'm glad I made you laugh on FB.

Awww, Eskimo, I am sorry to hear you are feeling so down. Given your circumstances it is perfectly reasonable. Plus if you are not having normal cycles, your hormones are probably all over the place, which will definitely not help.

I had a similar situation, but mine was the opposite to you. Instead of no period, I bled continuously for about two years. It was incredibly frustrating and there were times when I thought it would never end, but I got through it and you will too. (Hopefully a bit quicker than I did!)

I know it seems like you have a really long road ahead of you, but at least you are doing something. Every day brings you closer to getting your cycle back and to your baby.

Purds, I think I would just cheat. Eat normally, then take a laxative to empty it out! Seriously, that sounds horrible. I am sure most people don't stick to their rules.

Ok here goes......I love a hug so I'm hugging you! And I frequent the word 'love' far to much so you can have a dozen of them. Hope he sees the error of his ways , the plank.