TTC #2 - would anyone like to share the journey?

Thanks Cuppa, that's lovely to hear. It's amazing the capacity ones own brain has for making you feel shit. I know what you say is true, and thank you for saying it - I hope one day that evil part of my mind will agree!

Don't feel guilty over not breastfeeding! You made the right choice to make sure your baby didn't go hungry. Why it didn't work doesn't matter, but the fact you gave up your parenting ideal to ensure your child's wellbeing ( and your physical and mental wellbeing directly influences your child's) is a truly selfless thing you should be proud of!

Thanks for the welcome everyone

Mrsmugoo I feel exactly the same - I really struggled with the newborn stage, but from 6 months on it's just got better and better! My DS is not mobile yet but his personality is shining through Not planning to temp or use OPK's as I can usually tell when I'm ovulating, but given me a few months and I'm sure I'll get pretty obsessive about them!

I was actually planning to start trying when DS was about 8/9 months but decided I didn't want most of my mat leave to be in the winter, if I were to fall quickly. He a love now and genarally sleeps most of the night. I attempted breastfeeding too, but only lasted 2 weeks - I don't think I'll ever let go of the guilt about that

Fingers crossed Cuppa!

I think my turning point was closer to 18 months, but I had mega issues with pnd turning into ocd and that was when I went on ads. All sorted now thank goodness. Hoping I won't get it so bad next time. Breastfeeding was a difficult start too which didn't help. I was very lucky with DDS sleep, but of she had of been bad my mental health would have cracked sooner and I would have gotten help.sooner. so swings and roundabouts.

Might have had the tiniest bit of blood in my discharge today tmi sorry! But no cramps or anything. Though normally.I have AF cramps by now. It's been a busy week at work.and I'm knackered, obviously cos.I'm doing overtime but I cab tell myself its a sign right?

Yeah 7/8 months was a turning point for me too - I went back to work and he started sleeping through the night. Everything seemed to get a lot easier. Breastfeeding was soooooo hard at the start and I had everything they could go wrong did go wrong - multiple bouts of mastitis, the lot. But I carried on for just short of 10 months and quite enjoyed it by the end.

I know what you all meam, I really struggled when dd was a newborn and I keep on telling myself it's because I was so unprepared for the reality of what life is like with a baby and next time will be better, but if she doesn't grow out of her cheeky/naughty stage by the time I get pg and have a baby don't think it will be easier! On the plus side she loves babies, she's only 2 otherwise I'm sure she'd have been asking me for a sibling for ages

Yes I am absolutely ridiculously loving having a toddler - although may eat my words when he's being difficult with a new baby too!

Birdbrain, I know that feeling all too well! I've just bought some first response off the internet with crap postage so they won't arrive till I'm at least 12 dpo hopefully. That should stop early testing.

Welcome torf! Enjoy the excited calmness while it lasts and hopefully you'll get that bfp before it wears off!

I agree.mrsmugoo the newborn stage is stupidly tough and relatively thankless. Plus every family member thinks they can just stroll into your home whenever and hold your baby. I think the toddler stage is my absolute best so far.

Welcome torf! My first is 13 months and I'm cycle 1 of trying so we're very similar! I think I was broody when he was about 7 or 8 months! Everyone was saying I'm bonkers but I just want to get it over with. I didn't love the newborn stage but absolutely love, love, LOVE it when his personality started to emerge and he was mobile.

Are you going to use charting, temping, opk, an app etc...?

Hi all, can I join you all?

I'm 32, have a 12 mo DS and am starting trying for #2 this cycle, currently CD6. Feeling very excited but am fairly sure I will turn neurotic soon - I think I will need you guys so I can hide the crazy from my husband!

I've got my last BFP on a superdrug test, but I was 1 day late so don't know how sensitive they are for early testing.

Sorry to all those who been caught by the witch, keep the positive thoguhts for a new month, hope for lots of May BFP's!

I've used the superdrug ones before and correctly got a negative every time, don't know how good they are for bfps, but don't buy a load at a time just because they're cheap or you'll end up doing what I did and using them all up every time you get a tummy ache!

I've always heard super drugs own are nearly as good as first response but a third of the price. A week on Friday is when AF is due so I'm hoping to not cave in after Tuesday at the earliest.

Very doubtful that this month would be successful so I'll definitely wait til AF is late which will be next weekend. I don't have pg tests in the house anyways so won't be tempted to test early.

What are the best sorts to get??

Yay your stubborn egg finay let go!! When are you going to test? I'm aiming to wait till AF is late but if my one to one work meeting is a few days before I'll test then just in case.

Ah that makes complete sense thanks Diamond :)

Officially in the 2ww

Hi mrsmugoo - once you've got your solid smiley it stays on the stick for 48 hours as it thinks you don't need to test again once you've got your solid smiley. Last month mine did that so I stopped testing then when I went to use it this month it was fine and ready to go. Hope that helps

Oh cuppa that sounds like my chocolate biscuit logic - eat them all so I can no longer be tempted by them!

Anyone who's used clear blue digi opk - any idea what I do about the fact the solid smiley face won't go from my plastic bit? Out of curiosity (new POAS addict?!) I did one this morning but the solid smiley wouldn't budge - it never showed the little ready to test icon. Is it buggered? Do I need to shell out for a whole new one?

I have come up with a totally brilliant, solid plan to totally avoid any early testing. By...wait for it....testing super early!!! using up the last few ics I have over the next couple days! Obviously way too early to get a result but I can't justify binning them and I can't rely on self discipline.

They really are crap tests though, got an obvious grey evap line within the test time frame. Yet next to it was the actual test bit which was stark white. If you weren't a poas addict you would easily take it as bfp how many women get disappointed by those crap tests.

Using fertility friend here too. Used a different one when I fell preggo by accident so I deleted that one!!

Home birth here too even though DS was an ELCS for breech. They will have to drag me kicking and screaming from my home!

Home birth for me too avasmum!! Oh my goodness woundbobin I know that app and I found it awful. Have you tried fertility friend? I use that one and it doesn't have a god awful pink swirly flower. Just a calender and chart.

That sounds interesting bobbin! Do you use any other app like fertility friend? Yeah it is very quiet at Christmas in the hospitals, I'm a midwife and worked the Christmas just gone and we had two ladies on the board the whole night shift on a busy obstetric unit! It's home birth for me though :) fingers crossed xx

Loads of awesome reasons to have a crimble baby Ava and Sarah and the hospitals will be quieter so plenty of room etc
I have ordered a smiley face stick on this weeks online shop & downloaded a horrifying app which maps out your menstrual cycle using a diagram of a pink flower it's awful very much looking forward to deleting it !!

If I get pregnant this cycle my due date will say new years baby, but dd was early so I'll probably have a Christmas baby if she's anything to go by. Truthfully I don't cslare when I have a baby as long as they're healthy and don't have a giant head.