Husband won't let me have babies!

Agree it's not fair if he's moving the goalposts that much in a "no discussion" manner. I think that you need to talk this through either with just the two of you or with counselling.

Does he have specific things he wants to do before having kids (e.g. go on a particular type of holiday) or is it just a general lifestyle thing? If there are specific things then you could work together on when you are going to do those and then plan the kids for afterwards.

Do your friends of a similar age have children already? I think it's easier on a number of levels if you aren't the first in a group to have children.

If it comes to it, while "forgetting" a pill is wrong, saying "you are the one who doesn't want children, so you are now in charge of contraception" is acceptable (but could be seen as a bit passive-aggressive as a first move, so go for the talking first).

if you are in your mid twenties you have loads of time and you can still be a young mum if you leave it a year or so. my dh was really struggling with when we would have children because he didn't want our lives to change, we talked about it and am now 9 weeks, am older than you but was happy to start abit later. most important thing was to takl to each other about what we wanted and why it was important to us and to try and reach a compromise that culd work for both of us.

would really advise you don't just let an 'accident' happen, as he will figure it out and I imagine be really angry (rightfully) about it.

Better to discuss why he has changed the goal posts ..

That's not fair - I think you do need to have a good old chat with him. Sounds to me like he isn't that keen (sorry!) and like Expat said, he'll prob try and move the goalposts again when the time comes.

I hope the chat does some good and you get a compromise

I had a husband who did this to me.

Before I knew it 'some point in the future' and '1999' showed up.

And he still wasn't ready b/c 'things are fine as they are now'.

Well, they weren't for me.

We divorced.

I married someone else and now have two kids.

See a marriage counsellor.

If he won't go, go alone.

Difficult one really - hi and welcome by the way!

I think it would be a bad idea to 'accidentally' get pregnant - not really the start of a great married relationship is it? (Sorry don't mean to be awful but isn't a marriage meant to be based on trust etc).

Did you know that your DH wouldn't want children straight away?

Not sure it has anything to do with it but how old are you? (I know if you want a baby you want one BUT) if you are quite young you could afford to wait a little while??

My DH and I were together almost 10 years before we got married and then 2 years married before we had our DD (was 18 when we met). We did a lot of 'nice' things in that time that we never could have done with children around and it was lovely looking back BUT then on the flipside a child is such a precious thing and they bring their own joys - you can also miss out not having them (but then he hasn't said he doesn't want them - just he wants to wait - 2009 is a long time off btw - are you sure he definately wants kids?).

Not being much help am I? I suppose the biggest question is, whether you knew his 'mind' before you got married? If you did then....

Maybe leave it for a few months and then discuss again early next year - new year, new baby lol!

I am sure someone will be along soon to give you better advice but in the meantime didn't want to ignore you .

I didn't want a baby after getting married but dh did. I put it off for 2 years, when suddenly something clicked inside me and I wanted to go for it.
It's impossible to feel the same about every detail in a marriage, your husband may feel scared or worried about how he will support you and the baby. I say chill and don't worry about it, it will happen when the time is right. He may surprise you and want to do it sooner than you think!

Yes it's wrong.

It's wrong, really. How old are you and your DH? Can you talk to him about some kind of compromise between 2007 and 2009 (2008 sounds good to me...)?