The March Bus is rolling through Spunkland stopping for BFPs only!

Hi Purdey, sorry about the delay in my response. I was flying back from Canada. My PhD is in 18th-century British literature.

I'm so happy to see the end of it because it means that I can start (hopefully) this new part of my life without it hanging over my head. I think all stress I was under must have affected my fertility levels as well. Fingers crossed for this month.... although it does mean I cannot celebrate with alcohol for much longer....

Sammilou... My sister and best friend both had ivf. If you are under 35 they won't even look at you unless you've been trying for a year. Over 35 is 6 months.

Seriously Purdey.. a book!!! I went to Beijing, Jinshanling, Simitai, Gubeikou and Badaling. Basically followed the Great Wall away from the touristy bits (seriously.... there's a Subway at the wall nearest to Beijing. Foot long BMT anyone? Not very picturesque). Was amazing! You can zip line off the wall at Simitai. Would recommend!

Purdey it totally is our month didn't you know? I'm on it. BFP due Mother's Day.. So is meant to be.. Right? RIGHT?! I feel so much more relaxed This cycle, have no idea why... This could change of course but I'm hoping not! Yeh baby group sounds great!! one of my friends makes me feel particularly bad about my outside view of motherhood.. Don't get me wrong, I'm well aware that what you say you will do/not do before you actually have a baby is quite different to the reality.. But sometimes I look around and just think .. Really?!.. Myself and my husband both had a stable upbringing and loved it, why does everything have to be oh so different now?! My friends have already told me how everything in our house shall need to change when we have a baby, and when we do there will be no possibility of this or that.. And that we better prepare ourselves and read this book and that book and we must do this or that.. And it's lovely that people want to give advice but sometimes it's all a bit much? I mean our parents managed fine without baby proofing every single detail of their house right?
ok feel free to unleash on me now, I hope I haven't offended the whole thread with children already

Heir I'm so pleased you went to the gp! I never understand why they are reluctant to do these things! Fantastic news to get ball rolling and one more thing to get you closer to that BFP! Hope bloods go ok Tomor lovely

Wotsits wow what a great transformation well done girly. I think counselling is wonderful too! More people should do it!! And that device is perfect, I remember saying that to dh last cycle.. Why can't we just know at least if egg has fertilised as a starting point!!! Come on science people sort it out!!

What a chatty afternoon! The bus is getting full already.

Purdey, hope you're doing ok, I echo what everyone else has said. I don't know what I'd do here without you

Hopefully some othe long timers might be able to help me... I'm trying to find out how long we have to have been trying before we can have nhs IVF. I've been pointed towards a couple of websites but still haven't found this part of the puzzle, any ideas anyone? Xx

Wotsit, loving the Dragons Den idea, do it, you'll be super rich!
Ooh China is somewhere I'd love to go

Purdey, so pleased you've made an appointment, I really hope the doc can put you on the right road.

Genni, I wonder if you'll be able to keep your secret from dh. I'm rubbish with secrets

Wotsits, thank you for sharing your experiences and being generally nice. Trekking in China! Whereabouts did you go? I visited Hainan once and was almost raped by a fishmonger. Which was nice

Oh, Heir, I'm chuffed to buggery you Rambo'd the GP! What CD are you tomorrow?

Sparkly, Hickory Dickory Dock and Incey Wincey Spider were the songs entrenched into my brain this morning. It wasn't just that, though; there was a snot-nosed kid os about 18 months whose nose was so awash with candlestick rivers of snot that I ended up wiping it myself. Mum was too busy eating the childrens' snacks and texting on her phone. I do find the sight of a bank of mothers all engrossed in their phones at a baby group mighty depressing.

Purdey... Hope you're ok. I think seeking help is a fab idea. Motherhood is wonderful but its also monotonously filled with infantile routine. I went back to work 2 days when DD was 10 month. My sanity was restored. I also have the utmost faith in counselling. I've done group counselling and one to one and it really changed me. I went from having anxiety getting on a bus to trekking in China. My GP was wonderful. Hope you get sorted chick! You are a rock to so many on here... time for some Purdey time.

Dojo... my GCSE in Science was a bust. Will a degree in design help us in our dragons den mission?

Genni... Can you go to the early pregnancy clinic? after my mmc they told me to come with any concerns. I phones then when I got pregnant and they scanned me looooads to put my mind at ease (5 weeks, 7 weeks and 9 weeks)

Yes, where is Glittery with her update? I hope she is busy celebrating.

Aw, Sweets, sorry for your disappointment.

Sparko, I actually don't think rocky pre-ov temps mean very much. I am so excited that this is your month!

Wotsits, I love your idea for a contraption that could tell us at at 3dpo whether an egg's been fertilised! How much mental 2ww torture would that assuage

Well Purdey If it helps to boost you, you inspired me to get a little bit more Rambo on my GP today so brought up the ttc thing after we'd spoken about my other issue, with the upshot that I have a blood test first thing tomorrow to check progesterone levels, and he wants DH to ring him to arrange a sperm test! And I'm not sure I would have done it without the encouragement of you lot. At least now I am taking the first steps to find out if there's anything more we can do to help things along.

Purdey Purdey we love you , Purdey Purdey yes we do! Is that the kinda cringe you get at baby class?! Glad you feel slightly uplifted although I wish we could all do more! yes! That's it! Rambo is back.. Get to that gp with your demands!!
Next cycle you say? But of course I'll have a BFP by then and this will all be worth it...

Genni, I am grinning from ear to ear Congratulations, lovely. I hope you can very soon not only believe in this pregnancy but thoroughly enjoy it, too

Sparkly, thank you for such uplifting words of kindness. So many of you today have made me feel so much better. I am very grateful that there is graciousness and kindness and care on here. Sparkly, it look sas though you ov'd on CD16, no? Perhaps next cycle you could start AI on the first of your peak days and continue until the day after ov. That's if your amazing hubby is knackered, of course

Mummy, thank you for being so understanding of how I feel about motherhood at the moment. This child is my pride and joy and makes my heart burst but, boy is it often tedious! I went to a baby group this morning with DH and I actually felt like crying it was so...well...you know.

MaMa, you are a good-hearted woman and I thank you for offering to talk in private. I may just take you up on that. You made me think hard about myself today (what am I going to do about how I am feeling? Practice what you preach: demand help from the GP. Mindfulness takes practice and is not supposed to be easy). So, I have made an appointment with a different GP (a woman) and I will ask specifically for CBT. Thank you for giving me a shake.

I am thankful to all of you who have listened and offered support and hugs. It means a heck of a lot to me

Sorry creme fingers crossed for next cycle for you

Dojo how you doing?Cycle 3 is a lucky one! Yep I think we shall go for it again! Did a bit of reading today on every day versus every other day and really there seems to be no reason not to if his sperm count is good.. So it's a go! Ha.

Sweets Sorry AF has arrived you can join me as we enter into cycle no.3.

Sparkly If you think you and your DH are going great guns, but I agree if you OVd previously around CD17 I would do it again today.
My chart for last month was also quite rocky before I OVd.

Congrats people with BFPs! Amazing news. I am off though as AF is well and truly here and next BFP due date is 1st April! Good luck everyone!

Everything crossed for you genni xxx

I hope you're ok purdey, I know how bad depression is. CBT and mindfulness have done wonders for me, do try it! It might seem like a pile of old mumbo jumbo at first (gnats what I thought!) But it works! Hugs

My update:
CD 17 and think we should AI AGAIN tonight just incase! Last two months I have OVd on CD 17 I think and feel I better as no huge temp rise yet, although slight rise today.. But could be because room was slightly warmer I think. We shall see tomors temp! But for tonight I think we need to keep going.. For AI number 8.... my husband deserves a medal right?!
Have attached my chart.. Does everyone else have such rocky temps pre OV?

Just catching up!

Glittery how did you get on today?!

Rainy I'm so sorry to hear you so deflated, and so sorry to see you are leaving the buses- you were one of the first to give me a warm welcome and a cycle buddy for me!.. I totally understand you need a break and I really hope it does you the world of good. You will get your BFP, have faith lovely, and if you feel you can't.. We all will be keeping the faith for you! flowers] sending positive thoughts and wishing you all the best

Oh my Purdey bird, I'm so sorry you feel like this. How can we help? I know others have suggested Mind etc.. Are there any services locally? I used to go to a volunteer counselling service that I found really helpful, they asked for donation but only if you can manage. I want you to be able to recognise the wonderful, intelligent and bubbly person you are.. I'm sure none of that is an act lovely!.. You provide support to every single one of us on these buses along with a huge dose of humour! Your sparkly personality shines through all the time.. Nancy is so very lucky to have such a great mummy. But if you feel inside you really must seek help because YOU deserve to feel happy and fulfilled. You are good for pushing for what you want.. As CBT could be a great help I would get back to Dr McHottie and demand it! sending

Sweets oh no sorry AF arrived! But you know what they say.. Lucky number three!! One step closer to your BFP!

Genni eeek exciting!! I know you must be feeling a mix of emotions right now. Can you call the local epu direct?? That's what I would do to be honest. After my early mc, They told me if I get a positive again to call them and I can go in for bloods/scan. Gp result wouldn't come through till Monday where as if you call epu they should be able to test right away ..instead of going through turmoil over the weekend. It's natural you will feel reluctant to actually believe it after going through a mc... I'm so excited for you though I really hope this is it for you! Sending

Sweets, sorry af arrived

Such sad news about the young girl Becky Watts from Bristol. Shocking that her stepbrother could have done this. What a terrible thing for her family to try and comes to terms with

Boo his Sweets, horrible b*h that she is!

Right, should not have posted that earlier. AF has got me!

It's early days so I guess I shouldn't be expecting my bfp just yet, but disappointed all the same... cycle 3, here I come.

Thanks so much ladies for all your kind words. I love these buses. I think I'll wait and keep it to myself until the weekend. If I get to Monday and no AF and still a BFP then I'll tell DH and head to the doctors. I'd feel so stupid making a big deal and then AF arriving bang on time.