We can't be upbeat all the time. It's human nature. Come and have a moan. No judgment guaranteed and no apologies needed.

Oh clueless logic goes out the window! You convince yourself a range of innocuous symptoms mean you're pregnant, then you convince yourself the first day of your period is implantation bleeding, then eventually you tell yourself "well of course I couldn't get pregnant this month because I ate a chunk of blue cheese" and then finally you reread your taking charge of your fertility book and convince yourself that the ewcm you saw was not so and perhaps you have your cycle arse about face. And then you come on mums net and read about temping, bodily fluid, ovulation sticks and think how the f@€k did anyone ever get pregnant before all this?!?!?

Then you take a deep breath, eat a bar of chocolate and think f&€k it, there are worse things than having lots of nookie with your yummy dp!

Thanks all for the solidarity - it's always nice to know that you're not the only one in this shitty boat!

Amara you're right, and I do think the same when I'm feeling logical - I.e. There's not a fixed number of healthy pregnancies, no one is taking my share! It's just difficult to be logical all the time!

A friend at work told me she's pregnant today ...I resorted to biscuits too!

I know scrub lis. I actually felt quite low this morn but this thread has cheered me up oddly! The first day of AF is always the worst really. Be good to yourselves ladies.
Ilive I had a friend who had the same experience. She fell pregnant with her first relatively easily but had secondary infertility. She had some investigations etc. (not 100% sure what these were) and once her problem was sorted she got pregnant again and has a new baby girl. Maybe go and see, it might be something relatively easy to fix?

Baby dust to all!

Thank you so much Amara, hearing it from someone else totally helps!

We'll have our time, just hate that niggling feeling in the back of my mind saying it wont happen. If only there was a way of knowing for certain that...eventually... it will happen. Would minimise the stress element. Anyways onwards and upwards, just need to distract myself till after af. The day after that I seem to settle down again into robot mode of new month new start.

Good luck Amara, babydust to you and all the others out there longing for a positive!

Hi scrub.

I think we are all new posters who normally read and don't comment! Just click the watch this thread box and you'll get a notification I think.

Ilive and scrub I think it's completely natural to feel like a bag of sh@te about all of this. Firstly I don't know one person in my acquaintance who has told me that it took them longer than a month, which makes me feel like an outsider. And then the way I find out if I'm unsuccessful this month is having a horrible period and all those hormonal blue feelings. Yuck!

Anyway to counteract all that I have had a nice bath, two chocolate chip cookies, downloaded a book on my kindle and bought an expensive pair of shoes online! If I do end up getting preggers soon the baby will have to sleep in a shoebox!

Onwards and upwards I think. Getting pregnant is not a zero sum game, in other words, other people's positives aren't taking ours. We'll get there!

also ladies, i'm new to this, will I get a notification upon new messages or do I need to keep checking back? thanks

Finally plucked up the courage to write on this site and not just troll through the endless pages of others feeling as low as myself.

My biggest hurdle in this year of TTC SO FAR, although i'm sure they are on going, is that this last week I found out my sister is pregnant with her third. Her youngest was only 2 months when she got pregnant and sadly had a MC 12 weeks later due to an underdeveloped twin. She's since pregnant again, her youngest now 10 months. in the last year and a half shes been pregnant 3 times. 3!!!! i got the usual 'i have something to tell you dont be upset' phone call. of course that then meant I had to say noooo im not upset im over the moon for you. I mean I am, I cannot imagine what a MC is like. And I think this is her way of proving to herself she can still carry a child. But the worlds just not fair you know; I feel entitled, I think we all deserve to feel entitled.

Deep breaths. 5 days until AF due. Sister was due for a visit but going to have to cancel, not a good day to be staring at her in her gooey happy state. I never want to be bitter with family, not for introducing a new miracle into the family especially. So thanks for creating this thread and let me have a rant. That one sister is the only one who knows we are TTC, I guess I thought she would understand the most given she is only 2 years older than me. So it is difficult now, feeling like I cant talk to any one.

Hi ladies

Also a little blue today. Really thought it might stick this cycle and got AF late last night. Woke up this morning to card from friend with baby pics of her newest baby inside. Ashamed to say some tears came to my eyes. :(

It feels like everyone I know got pregnant in their first month of trying...

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I'm happy, but also fed up and hurt by all the babies that are being born to my friends. My baby would have been two months old now, had he lived. I want to be pregnant again, but I have a feeling it hasn't happened this month. Just waiting for AF to start so I can get trying again. This is the first time I've ever willed a period on!!

YES!

Currently in the middle of ivf. Ttc two years during which time my younger brother died, my dad died and I had an ectopic pregnancy.

I would like the world to cut me some god damn slack for once.

Is it really too much to ask of the universe that I get knocked up first go on the fertility treatment?

Isn't it time I had something lovely and nice and positive?

I'm with you...I'm super-grumpy! Had a mmc in sept, not fallen pg again since and fed up if everyone else in the world being pregnant!
Really trying to stay upbeat, but appreciate the opportunity for a moan!x