TTC and still breastfeeding? You're not alone! Thread# 2

Ava that's lovely about your sister ?? Ooh maybe you putting a mat top in your basket is a sign.... When is your bfp due again?

Hope everyone is having a nice evening

Haven't long returned from a lovely (late) lunch out with my mam, DD, sis and baba. It was lovely to be out properly with the baby for the first time (she's only 5 weeks) and my sister could relax for a while with two fairly experienced-with-babies ladies with her for hands on support she also Breastfed at the table with a feeding cover, as there were no feeding facilities at the restaurant, ahh, I'm so proud

I was doing some online shopping last night for some bits for DD and I subconsciously put a maternity top that was in the sale in my basket! I promptly deleted the item, as I can't justify the purchase on my part time salary, but it was odd considering I've been ttc again for 18 months and never looked at new maternity clothes...just wishful thinking though I think x

Hi Mumo, that was me, I was one week pregnant and it was three relatively low alcohol drinks to toast throughout the day at a family wedding. The Dr in our family has had to reassure me countless times advised the same thing as you, thank you x

Pear, how funny they have got longer since having your dc. I'm going to wait & see what mine are like.

I watched that alcohol programme - scary. I'm definitely not touching a drop of alcohol again in this pregnancy. I can't remember who was worrying about having had a few drinks before finding out they were pg but I spoke to a friend of mine who is a gp & she said that at that stage in pg the baby is still relying on the yolk sac and it's only when the baby starts feeding from the placenta that it can be dangerous because it is only then that there is a connection between the mum's & baby's blood for alcohol to cross over.

Morning everyone

CD9 here, but with no idea of cycle length/ovulation days we DTD last night and plan to do so every other day for the next 20 days or so. Going to MIL's for the weekend, so that's thrown a slight spanner in the works though!

I've always had really varying cycles. Last time I was TTC I monitored cycles of 29 days, 34 days and 42 days! When I was younger I actually thought long cycles were great, as less AF to deal with/be inconvenienced by. Oh how I'm regretting ever thinking that now! So, DH and I will basically be DTD until AF appears (or a BFP of course! ).

I've not been drinking at all while bf so at least I don't have to think about it this time round. I definitely had a drink while pregnant (and not knowing it) last time round though. I try not to worry about it as there is nothing I can do about it now, but it's very easy to torture yourself about these kinds of things.

A friend of mine drank throughout both her pregnancies. Not a lot but apparently you can have up to 125ml a day of wine or something similar?? She has 2 healthy children. I didn't touch a drop once I knew I was pg but while trying I still enjoyed the odd couple of glasses. All this talk about possible damage is freaking me out. I must watch that programme!

IMO there is so much to stress or worry about you gotta choose your battles. If you can stay away from alcohol do it. If you like a glass once a week do it. "May do damage" is an awful thing to think about. If your DC only gets a C in maths at gcse is it because you had a glass of wine or is it because he just isn't inclined that way or is it because he was lazy before the exam? Omg now what if he is lazy because it was due to that glass of wine you had? Maybe if you didn't have the wine he'd have been a never-lazy boy? Endless spiraling. If another sperm got to the egg your DC wouldn't have been him at all and been a completely different DC who may have been equally lazy or rubbish at maths regardless of the glass of wine you had!
Be kind to yourselves .

Ispy I'm still taking pregnacare breastfeeding but in addition to that I'm now taking folic acid as well. Hopefully then all bases are covered!

Morning all! Cd11 for me today. No idea when I'm ovulating though as not temping/doing sticks. This month the plan is just to dtd every other day & see what happens. I'm not expecting it to work though as only cycle 1. Next month I might try the sticks.

Pear have you always had long cycles? I was on the pill for years & when I first came off my cycles were all over the place!

Mary, my good intention is to remember to take the Pregnacare! I started off so well but it's very hit and miss now....

Just watched 'childbirth: all or nothing' on iplayer. Feeling sooo broody now.

Thanks Mary, I'll watch it tomorrow. I'm not a big drinker either as I'm bf-ing, but I will have a couple of glasses of wine if out. Did it say anything about drinking in the v v early days, as I have several friends who have got drunk without knowing they were pg, then only finding out afterwards (similar to you, Ava but they probably drank quite a bit more).

Pear, sorry to hear you had to go through g. diabetes- that sounds horrible for you.

I ate so much when I was pg & put on something like 3 1/2 stone! Dd weighed 8 lbs 2 so not huge. I developed a craving for things like pasta & ate LOADS of carbs. Still not managed to lose all the baby weight. My joints also feel a lot weaker since my pregnancy which is not good

ava you sound very healthy indeed and you shouldn't worry so much!

That must've been awful, Pear

Mary, I know it's so scary. We are lucky to have a Dr in the family who is an expert in Child Development and FAS so I have the piece of mind that DD is excelling and I was/am silly to beat myself up over such a small amount of alcohol at 1 week pg. She has just assured me again that yes, an expert would know by now. I think I'm just over tired...

Pear I know I eat too much sugar, but found it difficult to cut down when I was pregnant. I only put on the normal/recommended amount of weight and I didn't develop gestational diabetes but dd was a big baby. I'm 5'5" and a size 8-10, dh is a very average 5'11'' and slim(ish) build so I do wonder whether the sugar intake contributed to her being 9lb 4oz. I'm determined to have more willpower next time!

I just find it difficult as there are so many easy-to-grab, high-in sugar snack available and not many healthy ones. Or am I just making excuses?!

We did conceive straight away, but I never expected to Looking back, the hgc levels would have been too low to detect a pregnancy, as I was only a week pg, and I never dreamed we'd be that lucky. I thought I'd have a glass to toast as a 'treat' as I'd been so committed to my new healthy regime for 6 months, but after the scare I will never view a small glass of wine as a 'treat' again. I take caution to extremes now and don't even take any medicine, not so much as a paracetamol, since DD was born as I Breastfeed and she has paracetamol in calpol and would also have 5% of anything passed to her through my milk...

I'm a total lightweight not a big drinker anyway so it wouldn't bother me really. Don't have much of a social life these days either!

Giving up/cutting down on sugar on the other hand would be an entirely different issue. Does anyone else have 'good intentions' for ttc/pg? I may need some support!

That's the thing isn't it? Some people don't find out they're pg until they're quite far along and have been eating and drinking all the things they're not 'supposed' to, and their babies have been unharmed.

What I found so worrying about the programme is that it implied that, even though there may not be obvious/classic signs of FAS, there may still be SOME damage there.

I guess if you know you might be pg, then it makes sense to avoid alcohol. That's easy if you conceive straight away, less so if it takes a while.