23 year old single and have been thinking about having a baby

Brookie, your post at 22:14:15 has been reported. Where do I even begin.

I would advise to spend time with your cousin. It would give her parents a break too :)

Well you are either
a. stupid or
B. on the wind up

for saying being an older mother is selfish. Pick which one.

And the fact you think an older mother is 29. Rather unfortunately younger people die too not just those over 30

Yes but realistically having a child at 40 makes you unlikely to see grandchildren, if your own children follow suit

Firstly the op asked for opinions and advice, just because you don't agree with it doesn't make it dickhead advice.
Secondly, if you find yourself in a hole...stop digging. It's good advice and a lesson you clearly need to learn.

Well I didn't actually say that so you obviously didn't read it hard enough dear.

Why don't you have another flick through.

And I think I just have my reasons why I think being an old mum is selfish

Rightiho dear.

There are many pluses and minuses to both sides. You are just presenting as a big fat minus.

Brookie,

Sod. Off.

Don't be so daft, people can be selfish and DIE at any age.

I love being a young mum. And I think I just have my reasons why I think being an old mum is selfish

Brooki your making yourself sound more unpleasant and quite frankly thick with every post.

Brooki

This;

Experts say the average woman's fertility peaks in her early 20s. So from a strictly biological perspective, this is the best decade for conceiving and carrying a baby.

..sounds reasonable.

This;

But in my opinion being a young mum is good.... Being a old mum is just pure selfish

...makes you sound hard of thinking.

OP I was the same as you at 22 but I put it off until 28 and am still trying, you have to do what you feel is right for you. You'll get a lot of people saying to wait you're young but I don't see how that matters really. I personally am happy alone and don't seek a relationship. But the trying is also costly if you want to do it "clinically".

Don't be so fucking stupid. brooki what utter bollocks.

There are many reasons why someone might not be able or chose to have children in their twenties. Calling people selfish makes you a total dickhead, in my opinion of course.

Actually I was.

& what did I say there that makes me a bad person exactly?

Being a young mum obviously doesn't make you a better,person as you have illustrated perfectly.

The last two sentences made me choke on my g&t
I rather hope that you're being purposefully ironic. I rather despair that you are not

It's a medical fact!
If you're trying to get pregnant in your 20s, time is on your side – and biology is, too. Your body is ready for pregnancy, and probably will be for a while if you decide to wait to start your family.

That said, pregnancy at any age has advantages and disadvantages. We checked in with fertility specialists, financial consultants, relationship gurus, and 20-something moms to get a realistic picture of what it's like to have a child in your 20s.

Experts say the average woman's fertility peaks in her early 20s. So from a strictly biological perspective, this is the best decade for conceiving and carrying a baby.

Like every woman, you're born with all the eggs you will ever have: about 1 to 2 million. By puberty, your eggs number about 300,000 to 500,000, but your ovaries release only about 300 during your reproductive years.

As you get older, your ovaries age along with the rest of your body and the quality of your eggs gradually deteriorates. That's why a younger woman's eggs are less likely than an older woman's to have genetic abnormalities that cause Down syndrome and other birth defects.

The risk of miscarriage is also far lower: It's about 10 percent for women in their 20s, 12 percent for women in their early 30s, and 18 percent for women in their mid to late 30s. Miscarriage risk jumps to about 34 percent for women in their early 40s, and 53 percent by age 45.

Pregnancy is often physically easier for women in their 20s because there's a lower risk of health complications like high blood pressure and diabetes. You're also less likely to have gynecological problems, like uterine fibroids, which often become more problematic over time.

Finally, younger women are less likely to have premature or low-birth-weight babies than women older than 35.

I would just like to say, this site is a discussion site, everybody has different opinions.
I would never force my opinion on anyone or suggest there own opinion is wrong. It's just rude!

But in my opinion being a young mum is good.... Being a old mum is just pure selfish

What bollocks about it being "age" at 29!
Granted, as you get oldER things deteriorate. But at 29? Pah! Just bad luck.
I know a mum at school (in fact a few) who had a baby at 42, looked far better than me at 36, glowing, happy, healthy...and breezed through it.
I had a nightmare as I have done with every pregnancy since my 20's.

Do your future child a great service and spend this time finding it a fantastic father.

It's great that you feel financially able to have a baby at 23, but you're still living with your mum. Why not wait a while, save up for your own place etc? Get your career established, you're still very young.
Plus, emotionally, having the support of the baby's father would be good.

The thing you need to know is that broodiness can hit you at any age and it's incredibly powerful. However, having one child doesn't stop you feeling broody for another. You can literally be holding a very young baby and be broody for another. It's your hormones that make you broody and you do have to be very strong to withstand them.

Someone on here (think it was expat on another thread) called it "baby fever" and she's absolutely right. You can feel like you're going mad with it.

However, realistically you do know that it's much better and easier to have a child with a lovely partner. You know it's better and easier if you have somewhere nice to live. You know it's better and easier if there's a bit of money around (which is usually from having both parents having savings or income.)

Go with your head for now. Use a contraceptive that allows you no last minute 'fuck it' decisions. Don't make someone a father who has no intention or inclination to be a father - that's so unfair on him and on the baby.

In the intervening years focus on healthy relationships, saving money and furthering your career so that when the time comes to have a baby you're in the very best possible position to do so.