TTC 10 months plus, supporting each other and staying positive. Another BFP one of course :-)

hi hez, I can't help with Si I'm afraid but hopefully one of the others can.

Vic metal you've had much nicer weekends than me. I've been working

I'm doing ok thank metal. having sad moments rather than feeling constantly sad. not sure if that's healthy but I don't have time because I've got so much work atm. would love a week to wallow!

Hi I'm new to the forums but I've been ttc for 17months now. I need some help please. Ive had all the tests and i have low progesterone and so dont ovulate. My last period was December 2014 on Provera and before that was June 2014. I was desperate to get my periods going and ovulate (whilst waiting for my referral) so took soy isoflavones from last friday to tuesday. I got 2 positive opks on tuesday and wednesday but have been spotting since tues and had no increase in temp so dont think they're right. Today i have started what seems to be a period so my question is should i take the soy isoflavones again from cd3 - 7 or see what happens?? Help! Thanks :)

Hey lil, hope you're feeling ok under the circumstances. I've had a nice weekend so far, we went out for an Indian meal with my parents on Friday, then some lunch in town yesterday and now they've gone back home we're just settling down with DD to watch a Disney movie!

DH and I had to do lots of stealth shagging this week as I'm having a rather long cycle again and didn't ov until Saturday, about a week later than I thought. I think I've now come up with a plan of how to go forward: give natural ttc another really good shot for the next 3 months (including really cutting down on booze and caffeine), then go for initial appointment at a clinic with a view to giving IVF our one and only shot after our holiday in August. Now I'll just have to discuss it with DH and start saving...

thanks mama

how's everyone doing? having good weekend I hope?

Oh Lil so sorry to read this! Be kind to yourself and make sure to be a comfort to eachother. Big hugs to you x

so did I vic and I guess I was really. I'm going to buy a necklace to remember my beans. they'll be close to my heart on a necklace.

thanks metal x

I'm so sorry lil. From my experience of mc I would say take some time to grieve rather than bury your head in the sand and just focus on ttc straight away (like I did), otherwise those feelings might catch up with you months down the line. Big hugs for you. x

can't really do anything with ivf until we have our follow up appointment in 2months so will be getting straight back on the penis wagon this cycle in the hope of a miracle. we've had enough shit, its about time we had some good news, that stays! dh is convinced we will conceive naturally.

I'm sorry Lil. That sucks. You've always been so positive, think we could all do with having your attitude. Have you thought about doing another ivf cycle or will you try naturally for a while now with your DH super sperm?

well ladies its definitely over. horrendous night cramping and bleeding. back to the beginning. going to hit this cycle with a positive attitude though!

good practice for the big day! dh struggled and had a much smaller sample that day! apparently it didn't all come out because there was only a chair, no bed to lie on so he couldn't get in the "right position"!

Thanks lil we were also told about the vitamin c by our consultant. I think dh is not doing too bad with your list but I think the regular ejaculation is a bit of a problem for him too. We tend to try hard over ovulation time and then have a bit of time off afterwards. I will try and suggest it to him at least when I start stimms. It's not such a bad thing for him to have to do is it!

here's the vit c study link only a study of 13 men but significant results.

lol, my dh drank 4 cans of Pepsi Max a day, minimum! plus coffee. he now drinks the caffeine free diet coke instead. I don't think enough research has been done into improving sperm quality so rather than saying "we don't know" the drs say "nothing" which is really unhelpful. the vitamin c thing has come from a scientific study,according to my consultant, and he also said zinc and selenium may help based on a study in bulls not humans - but it can't hurt!

Thanks so much for the pep talk girls - my eternal optimism is creeping back. Will defo show DH your list Lil! My DH has a terrible diet, loves Pepsi max and doesn't eat any fruit and only minimal veg. I've asked 3 separate drs in front of him what he could do to improve things (in the hope they'll back me up to make changes) but each one has grunted "you can't really do anything to improve it" grrrrr so even if he tries the vit c I'd hope it would improve things a bit!

my dh has no drive either, hence the abstinence after ovulation, but the clinic made it clear he had to every 2-3 days before the ivf (they told him this mid December so he was doing it for 1.5months pre fertilisation) and he did, mostly without my input sadly! I know your dh has other issues he's struggling with through this but if you could get him to see it could make such a difference I'm sure it could help you guys. x

Lucie here's my list

1. 1000mg vit c
2. regular ejaculation
3. increase protein and switch to slow carbs (ie wholemeal and low GI)
4. cut out caffeine. the odd one here and there won't hurt but make it a weekly treat
5. drink 2l water a day
6. take a multi vitamin

if I remember any more I'll let you know. we had morphology issues (3%) and that's back to normal (15% I think)

and Vic I think the fact he was ejaculating regularly before the ivf helped. he would ejaculate at all after ovulation when trying naturally so I think that made a difference and is something we plan to keep up.

Lil our main problem is motility too. What do you think are the main things that helped with yours? We eat fairly healthily although are not doing low carb or particularly high protein or anything like that. DH has been on wellman conception, maca, 1000mg of vitamin c and extra zinc for a few months now. I've bought decaff tea and coffee for the house although he still has some with caffeine at work. Are you able to give us any other tips?

ttc not TTV!

will definitely look into it if we do it again Lucie

Vic we are planning to get straight back on the TTV wagon. he didn't stop his vit c during the tww just in case and has now started his fertilaid vits again. we've both been a bit rubbish with diet but have decided to give ourselves a break this week and get back in track next week. he has stayed off the caffeine too, although has had the off one or two more caffeinated drinks than he had being so he's going to cut that down again too. I'm so lucky he's so on board with it all and that we ate absolutely a team in this. I wish you had the same support with your dh. mine is proof that these things can make a massive difference. his motility went from 20% to 79%!