Is anyone quite young and worried about people's reactions?

If you both want to ttc then go for it. You don't have to tell anyone you're trying if you don't want to and there's nothing wrong with having children young. When I was your age I was married with two dcs under two years old.

It's tough having a baby at any age but I don't regret having kids young, I'm 26 now and have four dcs and wouldn't change a thing (though if you ask me that at 3am when one is ill and you might get a different answer ).

Ah fair enough, my child would be a first grandchild although I am sure your parents are only joking about not wanting any more, bet they will be thrilled really :)

At the end of the day you have to do what is right for you and OH, it's your life and you must live it as you want, life is too short not too!

Fellow worrier and zombie xbox fanatic, and possible bump buddies at some point ha ha ha

It's definitely maturity over age. I see so many threads where parents are moaning about their early-20s kids not doing anything with their lives etc..... I just think, that's not beause they're early 20s, it's because they need to get a grip! I've been supporting myself since I was 19, own a flat in London, am self employed, so have that much more real life experience than my friends who went down the uni route. Age is just a number!!

That's the argument I will use with my family if they object! I was 3 when my mum was my age. To be honest though I think most people are just excited to become grandparents!

I don't think that age matters, what does is maturity. If you spent all your time going out drinking etc then perhaps you wouldn't be ready at your age but it doesn't sound like that is the case for you and your OH :)

I am 25 so not young, just average, and was worried what my parents would say!!! probably because the first time my mum saw us after we conceived (not that we even knew our surprise baby was on the way then!) she said we were so young and 'couldn't' have children yet!! She only meant beause I'd just started up as self employed a few months before etc.

Everyone was v happy of course! Baby due in May and we'll have been married 3 years in June so not that remarkable.

I think as long as you think about it properly and still want to ttc age is not important. Perhaps age is seen as an important factor in parenting capabilities because maybe the older you are the more likely you are to have thought about every aspect. But you as individuals it shouldn't make much difference as long as you know it's what you want, which it sounds like you do. I had DC1 at 24 (which i think is young), and my only slight regret is that I didn't go for it earlier! I was terrified too… but i'm glad we went for it. Good luck.

My DP and I are both 24, so not as young as you but still "young people". I really don't care what people think about us TTC because for us it's what we want. We don't drink much or party or go on holidays so we feel we wouldn't be missing out on "young persons experiences". People often comment that we are too young to get married. None of them know we are trying but the same people will comment that having kids before 30 is stupid. But I don't want to be these people so I just ignore them! Your decision, your life. :)

Lol, oh you are really brave! Jumping in with both feet, I wish we were like that, I dip a toe in and run away lol Sounds a lot like us, even down to the video games ^_~

As the lady said above, the only people who matter are you and your partner.

I think every girl is terrified of telling her mum she's pregnant, no matter the age lol

Hi Rachel, I am 26 and scared that my parents will disapprove! My DH is 23 and also worried especially reactions from his male friends who are the same age.

To be fair we haven't started TTC yet (plan is for May). My friend was worried about her parents reaction (she has just had a dd) but they surprised her by being really happy so people might surprise you!

At the end of the day though the people who mind don't matter and the people who matter don't mind :)

Your certainly brave. I'm 25 and still can't make up my mind wheather dh and I are ready for a baby. You say it was his decision, it is also, equally yours? If you're minds made up, more power to you and to hell with any one else's opinion

I have been in that situation. Dp and I got together when I was 16 he was 21. 3 months later we moved in together as I didn't have gd relationship with my mum. I fell pregnant quite quick but mc soon after. Since that first pregnancy we were adamant on TTC. I had another mc when I was 17 and my mum went nuts but I stuck to myself and was honest with those around me, I told them even tho we were young we lived together we are financially stable, have a gd support network from other people. People just had to learn that it was our decision and there was no talking us out of it. I've had 4 mc in total and am nearly 20. I have had a social worker from I was younger and even she's now happy that we are TTC and she's knows that it wat we want. You need to point out to people its your decision and there are people younger than us who have 1 or 2 kids and cope fine so y shouldnt yoube Allowed to you in a stable relationship xx