On the pill since John Major was Prime Minister! Any over 35s new to TTC #1?

How's everyone getting on?
Had my blood test so now got to wait for the results. Waiting for AF to show up, so waiting to move on to the next cycle. There seems to be a lot of waiting required for TTC!
To pass the time I have been looking at holidays. Just got to persuade Dh that we need to do something relaxing :)

Hey all, just noticed this thread, hope you don't mind if I join in?

I'm 35 & also trying for my first. I came off the pill in 2008 having been on it since 1996! Been careful since then so no accidents but I'm grateful now as I've had loads of time for my body to settle down. Also had a year on the implant but this really messed my body up....had acne which took years to get rid of after removal and was plagued with spotting the whole time I had it.

Interesting talk about changes to assist with conception, I'm also desperately trying to give up on caffeine but it's really hard when you work in an office where you get a cuppa plonked in front of you every 20 mins!! So far I'm trying to restrict myself to 2 cups of tea in the morning then switch to rooibus (caff free!) for the rest of the day. I'm also a bit of a costa addict so have to avoid the high street .

I'm also trying to cut down on refined sugar and white carbs - these supposedly mess with hormone balance. For some reason the last 3 AF's I've had a migraine or vomiting on last day of AF- should prob see gp to get checked out but I imagine it'll be some sort of imbalance so will see if small changes to my diet helps.

Has anyone else noticed changes in AF as you get older? Mine only really lasts a day then very light for 4 days now. Not sure if I should be worried about this....ie if it is body starting to wind down already, but I'm still getting all the signs that ov if still happening so fingers crossed there's no problems with ttc!

Anyway enough rambling, fx for bfp's for all us 35+ girls!

Novelty - i have read that caffeine is bad for fertility, i love coffee and only drink it at weekends, but duh i went out and treated myself to a new coffee machine for christmas, which was not the best of ideas, but since I'm trying to keep it to a weekend treat then i thought that was justify able, i am also cutting out alcohol too, which i don't find much of a struggle which i thought i would!!!!

I was on one type of pill and i can't remember the name and it made me feel so depressed at one point i knew i had to change, just before coming off the pill i was on Yasmin and i was suffering from bad palpitations, since i came off the pill they disappeared, terrible what one pill can do to you!!

Yes novelty.

The clear blue thing tells you when to start testing and gives you a clear indication of high fertility And then of peak fertility.

I have found out we were DTD too late, as I was waiting for ovulation signs but my peak fertility is just before I notice anything.

Put my temp in ff app this morning and it recalculated ov as cd14. Makes a bit more sense.

I've never done any fitness DVD's. My local sports centre is pretty grim. Found a place that does Yoga so might think about trying it if I start getting stressed.

Hello purple, I agree, we have enough to worry about without caffeine as well tucking into the last chocolate tree decorations!

Novelty, I understand about the getting moving thing! It's hard on your own as well - I took DH on a few massive walks over the Christmas break, but he's been ill this week so I've hardly been out at all - or if I have, it's been in the car! I'm going for as many long walks as possible at the weekends, but really should try 30mins a day - Oooo, I have my golf lesson later though, that counts as exercise, and I went to yoga on Tuesday

The only exercise DVD I've ever done is Gillian Matthews 30 day shred, I did it at least 4 days a week leading up to my wedding, and went running on top and I did get really toned which worked out well for my new honeymoon bikinis!! Not done it since though and a bit worried about getting too overheated when ttc. Might get a yoga DVD as I said before.
Could you join an exercise class at a local sports centre? Good luck!

I think I'm doing OK with the staying positive and not getting stressed though!

Hi I hope no one minds me posting. As I am marrying to conceive number 3 but I'm ancient at 39.

I have found the clear view or is it clear blue? Ovulation thing fab. I def know from it when is best to DTD.

Just waiting on it working!

Yeah scottishbride I think we're OK with the caffeine for a while - need something to keep us sane.

I'm so confused after last month it seems this month ov'd on cd12 - and so due DH shifts completely missed it.

Not got blood test til CD22 hope AF doesn't turn up before then.

Aaaah, Miranda got him in the end, whoop!!
I've been a bit rubbish at those new year resolutions, except the yoga and golf - even went for extra golf practice at the weekend, but struggling with the fruit and veg a bit.
Been reallly busy at work and that has been really good to keep my mind off TTC, it sounds strange but I think my best chance at getting pregnant is to not think about it too much, if at all! I'm still taking my vitamins and trying to walk more, but that is general health and well being anyway!
I did give the kitchen a massive tidy at the weekend and now its messy again - this is why I hate housework. O,well, it's the spare room's turn this weekend!

Regarding caffeine, I think NICE (the health guidelines people) would say that it is not important and does not affect fertility - apparently one of my friends was having IVF and when they first went, there was a hot water tank in the waiting room and lots of herbal tea, then the NICE guidelines came out saying no effect on fertility and now there is a Nespresso coffee machine!! I think it's less than 2 cups a day when pregnant though. I've just tried to cut it out and now coffee tastes really bitter to me so I"m a bit of a herbal tea convert and never thought I would say that!!

Ooooh, that reminds me, I need to watch the last episode of Miranda! Hmmm, quite tricky as dh will refuse to watch it! I watched first one on NYE while he was still at work and felt emotional enough with that one! Looking forward to it!
I'm trying to make some non TTC New Years resolutions after my 2 months of stress. Christmas was great cos with family here and food to prepare no time to think about it except one cry after my sister left with her 8 week baby, but I think they were happy tears too!
General health resolutions obviously apply to everything so I am aiming for 5 a day and drinking loads of water.
I like the idea of trying to stay on top of housework and stuff, ours isn't too bad because we had to clear up stuff so there was room for everyone at Christmas but I still haven't got round to doing all the washing of linen etc after their stay, and spare bed still up instead of being a sofa. I might aim for a little housework everyday then I won't get that awful overwhelmed feeling I had before Christmas!
dh and I are making plans for at least one night away a month, obviously I'd like this to be in fertile time, but actually it doesn't really matter as long as we get quality time together and I can try to relax!
I will continue my yoga and golf. May well buy a yoga DVD to carry on the good work outside of class.
Sorry, not sure anyone else will care about these, but it's helped me to write them down!
Cardabelle I had pretty horrible periods before my Mirena, and since having it out they have been heavy, for 2 days, then three days more manageable, but certainly not worse than before, just a complete shock to the system! Hope yours come back regularly and not so stressful!

Hopefully none of us will need this but this is the NHS guide on IVF.
www.nhs.uk/conditions/IVF/Pages/Introduction.aspx

I have discovered I have emotions too since coming off the pill. Watched The Help last night just about blubbed all the way through. Good film if you haven't seen it.

I don't normally do New Years resolutions - but I think I will just try to stay positive and not get stressed :)

Joining MN will help now I have people I can talk to who won't think I'm nuts.

I told doc came off pill in July (which is true)and he may have assumed that we have been Ttc since then (which is not true ). So that's five months.

If I waited 6 months then I'll be 6 months closer to 40. So least I 'm in the system now.