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I moved areas when 37 wks with DD1 so I didn't know the midwives or the hospital when DD1 decidea to arrive 2 wks early. Had evil midwife in delivery suite and we actually asked for her to be removed, she kept standing between my legs and pushing down on them - said I had to open them wider DD1 arrived about 2 hrs after I arrived at the hospital so don't think I did that bad a job!

DD2 midwife was amazing, ours are primarily community but do a week a month at hospital too - I was lucky that I ended up getting her for my booking and majority of appts then she delivered dd2 at home 1hr 30m from me waking til she arrived on the living room floor she's still lovely to me even 7 yr later, we chat quite a bit on Facebook we have moved again though, so although it will (fingers crossed I get pg) be same hospital it's unlikely that I'll see her

That's interesting that a few of us had issues with community midwives. When DD was born they did the follow-up, and I was in quite a lot of pain so I asked what that could be. She basically said it was to be expected and to put up with it, wouldn't look at the stitches. Someone on MN told me to go to the GP as it could be a UTI. He did a quick test, gave me a script for antibiotics, 24 hours later the pain was gone. I honestly don't know why she bothered coming. My health visitor on the other hand was ace, looking forward to seeing her again!

That's a shame, you need someone you can trust at times like that! I found my midwife amazing where most (definitely not all) the staff in the hospital were rubbish/rude/patronising/in too much of a rush to be helpful.

I also had dizzy spells a lot tori, not that that helps you! Lol

My care is shared with the gp (just the way its done here) so I will only see her 3 times and shes community so thank god wont be delivering . At 28weeks I asked if she could tell which way round baby was . I was interested and excited , she just said "theres no point he'll be moving all the time " as she was walking away . I know that but she could have explained different positions or something to humour the ftm !! My gp has been wonderful and kind and given me all the time in world to ask questions . Unfortunately its back to the midwife for the 36 appointment !

Am 34 weeks now.

*poppet" - yes, mine actually said, "You know how it is, I have to ask these questions, blah blah blah". Not really encouraging to say "Actually yes, I am worried about depression / mental health ..." I don't know how much more I'll see of her now though, most appointments now are with the high risk team as they will look after the actual birth.

Sorry I haven't been on much just read back - cupcake you deserve better I know it's hard but sometimes you have to make a big change for a better future. I totally understand though it is a massive decision and it will be hard to start with but sometimes you don't realise how good your life can be until you make the change

Lovely hearing about how you are all getting on in your pregnancies and with your babies.

I am on cd 17 started spotting again today so not quite sure what's happening.

Bears how many weeks are you now? If you are over 24 and are worried about movement call the hospital and go in, they will monitor baby to make sure everything is ok. They won't mind and it's better to be safe than sorry

My midwife was fab but that was because I was able to choose my midwife. If you don't feel comfortable with her can you speak to your gp about changing, there's usually a team of them for one area

Bears I am the same with mine . I never feel I can bring up any concerns she just rushes through the basic questions ,last time there were people coming in and out of the appointment and the door was open . At 28week she was meant to do a little risk assessment social factors/mental health etc wasnt until I got home and checked my notes I noticed . Shes the head midwife and is clearly just waiting to retire . Luckily I've been very well and so is baby .

I've been worrying all morning that I've had reduced movement, then over lunch he'd been wriggling non-stop and has now lodged in a mega uncomfortable position . Midwife tomorrow to find out exactly what he's up to!

How do the rest of you get on with your midwives? I don't like mine much at all, she's really hard to talk to and always seems in a rush to get me out. I don't know if she's put out because I'm consultant-led and overseen by the high risk team at the hospital or if she's like this with everyone. [tmi alert] I'm a bit worried I have thrush, and also would like to talk about DP's MH issues, but just don't know how to broach it with her :(

cupcake - I do agree with the others, you need to decide what your boundaries are with DP and stick to them. DP can be difficult, but he would never hurt me physically. Some couples argue in a way I couldn't put up with, but it works for them, but there are so many things you've said on here that worry me and it has been less than a year since these thread's started. You and DS deserve better :(

Argh I'm so frustrated with myself, I forgot my maternity notes! I told myself the night before I wouldn't and also this morning while I was getting ready I thought about it but totally forgot as I walked out the door.

The midwife was ok about it but I'm usually so good at remembering things I'm just annoyed with myself.

The morning got worse though the GP reception was so hot I started to feel funny while sitting waiting. Then I was fine until I had to wait in reception to book my blood and glucose test.

While trying to book that I had to ask to go sit down, lucky I did as I went to the toilets and threw up my breakfast! Then of course I felt fine and booked everything. Heat and pregnant ladies do not go. I haven't been sick for weeks!

Still I'm measuring on target and everything's fine so far.

Tori I don't know if you've tried them (I'm sure you have) but I still wear my sickness bands. If I take them off I feel things start to go back but with them on I seem to be able to feel normal.

Maybe it's in my head but I'm keeping them on now until the end lol!

Cupcake your DH just sounds like a bad egg, he seems to have anger management issues and those don't go away. So I suppose it's like the other have said, you can accept that a large percentage of the time you'll be ok together but there will be a part always that you won't.

Whether you're happy to keep going around repeating that's up to you and depends how worth it he is I suppose.

I've got my midwife appointment this morning (25 weeks). Going to mention a few of the things I've said about SPD etc. It's getting less comfy the bigger I get now.

How you feeling today cupcake?

I really don't know what to do with ds, whether to continue with reduced feeds or go on the prescription formula. Last night for the first time in days he had a feed and just sat there happily without screaming, it was amazing! He also did quite well in the night but then when I think he is better he seems to get all upset again.

Tori, how many weeks are you now?

If you wanted to you could make him leave Cupcake. You could have rang the police today- sounds drastic I know but what he did is an assault. Once he is out of the house change the locks. He would not take you to court over tenancy. You have DS and would get help. It's a choice he makes to behave like this- not a mistake. I know it isn't easy but the alternative is you keep going and accept it. Only you know if you can or want to do that. Go and talk to Citizens' Advice about tenenacy.

I think DS has worn himself out. He has just had his feed and is flat out. Hopefully he'll go until half 2 now at least. He is managing 3 1/2 hrs between feeds. DH is in the bath and I am tucked up with my ipad in bed. We are planning a cuddle and a bit of peace and quiet and some sleep.

It is hard to believe DS has just been here 12 days. Don't know what we did before him. He has taken over the house.

That is horrible, disrespectful behaviour Cupcake. You have been here so many times before though. You are going to have to make a decision. You can't change him so you either accept it and go on or end it. I know that sounds harsh but you just keep going round in circles.

The PIl and Grandmas have been. DS was a little star. He was awake, in one of their outfits, happy to be passed round and held and fed. He demonstrated all of his cute moves and did a very poopy nappy which allowed DH to take him away and change him showing how hands on a dad he is. He fell asleep for lunch and woke up afterwards. Deserves an oscar. Has been photoed to the Nth degree. There was only one occasion when the pet lip appeared and he started to wail- when his bottle wasn't there on time- and even that was cute.

The Grandmas were quite emotional. Then DH got emotional when he saw how much it meant to his grandmas and we had a little hug in the kitchen.

As they left, one of the Grandmas hugged me and said 'DH'll probably grow up a bit now Lulu' in a comforting way.

Cupcake that's awful what an idiot. Are you still doing your break thing with him?