Active discussions

Help protect children from gaming harms.

Take our survey

Please or to access all these features

Talk
Conception

When's the best time to get pregnant? Use our interactive ovulation calculator to work out when you're most fertile and most likely to conceive.

Original poster

Chemical Preg dates advice please

57 replies

allchatnicknamesgone · 02/12/2014 13:43

Hi,

Just wondering when the pregnancy hormone will have left my body. My dates are below.

24/11 Positive test (AF due date) (14-15 DPO)
25/11 Positive test
26/11 - Spotting turns into bleeding
2/12 - Still bleeding a little one week.

I just did a cheapie test from pound shop and there's is mega faint line. I don't for one second think I'm preg still because nothing could survive that blood loss, but just want to know how long hormone is likely to stay?

I was only pregnant for like 3 days so surely it would go pretty quickly as the hormone doesn't have time to build.
Thank you if you can answer x

OP posts:
New posts on this thread. Refresh page
Original poster
allchatnicknamesgone · 19/12/2014 11:11

I've had ewcm every day since Monday really, so I'm not sure when or if I'm ovulating. Had loads of pain on wednesday. I normally feel Ovulation but this was really quite strong. I don't think pain is consistent though because I sometimes have it before, during or after. I don't temp either or use opks. Gave that up about 3 months into ttc!
I'm slightly worried that so much ewcm means by body is trying to ovulate and can't.
Oh well. Just got to try and get on with Christmas I suppose!x

OP posts:
ditzzy · 16/12/2014 13:59

I can imagine ovulation symptoms every bit as easily as I can pg symptoms!! Masses of ewcm towards the end of last week, and definite twingey twinges on my right hand side (seemingly perfectly mirroring the left hand twinges last month) yesterday. So I'm not 100% because I don't temp or use OPKs or anything, but that would fit fairly well with cd15, so I'm hoping for the best...

Original poster
allchatnicknamesgone · 16/12/2014 13:33

Hiya. Managed to dtd last night (although DH needed a lot of encouragement!). It's all so bloody hard.

Let's hope your activity and a bit of luck comes your way. have you had your normal ovulation symptoms this month then?x

OP posts:
ditzzy · 15/12/2014 18:18

Hi Allchat, that sounds like you're trying not to get your hopes up, but you never know, it's always the least expected times when things work out (not thinking just about ttc).

I have no idea now where I am in my cycle (cd14 if I count from the single day bleed of cp) but as its DPs birthday today we've been dtd a few times over the weekend so I'm still counting this cycle as active Grin

Best of luck to you too - and thanks for all your words of help over the past couple of weeks x

Original poster
allchatnicknamesgone · 15/12/2014 17:56

Hi. yes I'm still here. I didn't re-test. I stopped spotting last Thurs and I have loads of ewcm today so I'm either ovulating or maybe it will be anovulatory cycle. Only dtd on sat night, so haven't had the usual run up to ovulation. Anyway considering it took over 18 months to get that pregnancy, it's never going to happen on the cycle getting over it!
Good luck to you from now on though x

OP posts:
ditzzy · 12/12/2014 06:44

Just a quick update this morning in case anyone was checking back here - BFN. I guess that's good news in some ways as it gives us the green light to try again immediately...

ditzzy · 08/12/2014 14:32

Allchat - no I'm not still bleeding, I only really had 12 hours of fresh red blood that when it stopped on Thursday morning it completely stopped, no spotting or anything since. The doc warned me to be ready for more though.

The party includes a chap currently on call for his 8 month pg wife... I think the topic of conversation is inevitable really! Still they'll all be drinking and I'll be sober so I'll just run rings around them with my natural wit Wink or something like that.

casiopeia · 08/12/2014 13:45

Excuse my spelling and missed words- typing on phone is not one of my strengths

casiopeia · 08/12/2014 13:42

allchat I see, the dating makes sense, I did think it was related to the body recovering itself, well, anyway, we arevtaking a break for this month and see what happens in Jan. I cant believe your bleeding came back! After rivers of blood on Friday and Saturday, there is hardly any blood on pad any more (sorry for tmi), and I did not realise it could come back!! I really hope your stops soon, sounds like a nightmare within a nightmare SadConfused

ditzzy that is not easy, facing the people with knowing looks...hopefully everyone at your office is tactful enough not make a face or comment. That is good news that you dont have to wait out a cycle if you dont want to. I wouldnt say your age is to be worried about at all. From what I see around me, the positive and negative stories, the ease or difficulty of conceiving and pregnancy seem to hit all age groups equally, I am 32 and have friends who are in mid 20s and some have have trouble having a baby, and friends in late 30s/early 40s who keep having baby after baby without even trying too hard- having one happy accident after another (few of them are on their 3rd pregnancy now). It just seems pot luck- which makes it very unfair in my head, but hey, life is not always fair. And hopefully positive outlook will help us all xx

Original poster
allchatnicknamesgone · 08/12/2014 12:45

Hiya,
Sorry - had weekend away from MN!
Ditzzy - are you still bleeding? I am and it's driving me nuts. Practically stopped last week, then it seems to have started up heavier again. I'm on cd12 so should be approaching ovulation but just blood here! Worried I'm going to suddenly stop bleeding then ovulate quickly and not have any swimmers in there. Can't be arsed to dtd at the mo! Told dh to knock one out in the shower to keep them fresh but he didn't feel like it and was in a bit of a rush for work this morning!

casio - from what I've read the only reason they suggest you wait is so that dating is correct if you are lucky enough to get preg again so quickly.

I'm sad all the time. I put a face on, but deep down my sadness is all consuming. It's been such a long journey and then it was given to me and taken away so quickly. I'm f**king furious that someone decided that fate for me……but it will happen again and I will have a baby again…..
x

OP posts:
ditzzy · 08/12/2014 09:55

Thanks Casi, I've got my works Christmas party tomorrow night, I won't be drinking at it just in case, but I know everyone will notice. If anyone nods wisely at me for drinking water I may very well burst into tears at them!!

My doc said that if the test is negative on Friday then try again immediately. He said there was no need to wait a month and is worried about my age (36)...

casiopeia · 08/12/2014 08:18

hello ditzzy, so we meet again, sadly this is not the thread we hoped for...big fingers crossed your story will go a positive way!

For me it was very quick, and last night I had second round of bloods taken, to be told the miscarriage was completed :( I knew it since I had a negative CB digi on Saturday, but it was hard to hear it

They advised us to wait out a cycle and no reason for next pregnancy not to be carried to the successful end (doctor's words)

allchat in the end I did go in, more to ask all sorts of questions about what next and is there anything I should be watching out for and perhaps to have an official 'closure-result' , the doctor did pass a comment that given my test the previous day was negative there was not much point for me being there and checking the blood, but she still took samples, and then called me few hours later with the sad news

So it is all wine, goose liver pate and blue cheese for me this Christmas, though I'd happily would have given them all up....better luck in 2015. How are you feeling? I go from sad (just sad) to angry (it is unfair) to optimistic (things happen for a reason)

ditzzy · 07/12/2014 10:04

Hi Casi - sad to you on this thread too (and all chat, but after allchat helped on my other thread, I'm just happy to find her original one Wink). Just pitching in with my dates:

28/11 1-2 weeks on cb digi
2/12 spotting
3/12 bright red continuous bleed lasted for 12 hours
5/12 visited doc and he says no point scanning or testing yet, but for me to wait until next friday to test, if it's negative he doesn't want to see me again, if it's positive he'll organise a scan. He seemed to think it would be negative

The next week is going to drag, I know I'm not pregnant any more (all symptoms have gone) but can't shift the niggling hope in the back of my mind that's just been given permission to keep torturing me for another five days!!

Original poster
allchatnicknamesgone · 06/12/2014 23:14

Seem bit weird they even bothered to do external scan.
My scan showed nothing so they classed it as a no evidence pregnancy. (Or something like that). My urine and blood still had hormone but so low they didn't say I needed to go back hence that's why I think you should check if you really don't want to go in. Completely understandable.

Have you stopped bleeding altogether now?

Hope you taking care of yourself. X

OP posts:
casiopeia · 06/12/2014 09:36

allchat thanks, yes, I had both scans, internal (which was ever so painful!) And external though they could not see a thing (!)

The doctor was very nice and assured me that at 5 weeks it is normal not to see anything in most cases but I knew something was going very wrong

Yes, tomorrow they will re- take the bloods but given the tests from 5am today are negative, I dont see the point to compare anything- am just bitter and sad and angry

Thanks for the helpful suggestion, why didnt I think of it, I will give them a call to see if I need to go through it tomorrow

Original poster
allchatnicknamesgone · 06/12/2014 09:09

I'm really sorry casio. It's tough thing to go through.
Maybe they want to re-take bloods to check levels are going down? You could call and find out as I agree it's not best place to be when you know it's all over.
Did they scan you? X

OP posts:
casiopeia · 06/12/2014 08:02

allchat I am very sorry for your loss, just coming to terms with the same, I still cant believe a week ago I was pregnant and now I am not....

29/11 BFP, very strong lines (13dpo)
26/11-3/12- tiny brown spotting and strong positives every morning
4/12- line much fainter, then painful cramping at night
5/12- almost no line on frer (am I just imagining it?)+ heavy red bleeding most day
6/12- as expected, CB digi says not pregnant

Since 3rd I felt something was not right, so spent last 3 days in tears, yesterday half day at EPU, and they want to see me tomorrow again, though there is not much point Sad

Original poster
allchatnicknamesgone · 05/12/2014 17:35

I don't think there is a right thing to say and they question everything. My dd is the only child in the whole of her year. It's hard to explain. I told her a few times that she needs to stop asking because it won't come any quicker. The sad thing is the age gap is so great now they will never play with each other. She compares it to friends and their siblings. She more likely to babysit them than play with them! (That is the one positive!) x

OP posts:
dildoos · 05/12/2014 13:53

Of course you can.

We said mummy has to make a perfect baby to be just like her and anything less than perfect can't stay and has to go to heaven to be made perfect, and that she was the most perfect thing and mummys body has forgotten how to make a perfect baby as she is now 6 and 1/2 (7 march)so been a very long time. This is why mummy takes the tablets to help make her body remember but in the mean time it's hard to make something as perfect as her Smile

Then her response was why does everyone else get them soon and I say because your 100% perfect so not as easy to copy Shock ( probably wrong thing to say but makes her feel special!) xx

Original poster
allchatnicknamesgone · 05/12/2014 13:21

Can I ask what you've told her? ?

Sometimes I want to shout at her that I'm bloody trying, but obviously don't. I've just told her that it will happen when it happens??!! That sounds shit as I write it. She's such a blabber mouth though, I don't want her to be running round spouting stuff to teachers and other parents that adds the pressure!

OP posts:
dildoos · 05/12/2014 13:15

Totally understand that awful feeling, they question why they don't all the time don't they. Especially as cousins have too. It adds extra pressure. We have started to tell her an up beat version of truth as she once said is it because I'm naughty Sad I was heart broken that this had crossed her mind xxx

Original poster
allchatnicknamesgone · 05/12/2014 09:09

Absolutely have hope. The fact you can get pregnant is something loads of women can't even do. It's just finding the way of keeping it and it seems you have a solution.
Dd is 6 and a half years so we are very similar. The age gap is a big pressure because she's do desperate for a sibling x

OP posts:
dildoos · 04/12/2014 23:05

It does but same time always gives me small hope in weird way?
Dd is almost 7 now , scary to think really.
How old is your lo? X

Original poster
allchatnicknamesgone · 04/12/2014 23:01

Christ. That is a long time. Poor you. I suppose having 7 mc kinds of scuppers your cycles all the time. I've only had one and it was so early but still knocked me for 6. Take my hat of to you.
How old is dd1?
X

OP posts:
dildoos · 04/12/2014 22:56

All fx for a another go as soon as.
No not pregnant YET Smile
I am 34 so still time.
We have been trying 42 months and counting Wink