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Just gone ballistic at DP, is there no chance this month or have I over reacted?

39 replies

52States · 26/11/2014 11:53

Hi,

Been TTC for 3 months now, I know it's not long but it feels like an eternity. Nothing is going according to plan, and for various reasons I really wanted to get caught before December (Which would result in a September baby) One of the reasons being paying nursery fees for an extra year. My DD (6) is a September baby and that extra year of nursery fees was a killer, plus she was so bored at nursery for that last year and it made life very difficult. I also feel we've left the age gap too big.

Anyway, I'm due to ovulate this Friday but DP has gone away this morning to a sporting event and won't be back until Saturday morning. We DTD plenty last week, then I was away with DD on Fri until Sun, so we didn't DTD again until this Monday (4 days before ovulation) The plan was to DTD again this morning before he left, but as he leaves everything until last minute, he was in too much of a rush. I went ballistic, I know I sound unreasonable but I was so desperate to get caught this month.

It's not likely that sex on Monday is going to result in pregnancy when I ovulate this Friday is it? It's possible i'll ovulate a day earlier as I did last month, but it's obviously not certain.

Is there any chance I could conceive on Saturday?

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WipsGlitter · 26/11/2014 12:41

You have not missed the boat. You cannot be 100% certain when you ovulate.

ChippingInAutumnLover · 26/11/2014 12:31

'I really don't like tic'

Then just bloody stop it. Have unprotected sex with your DH when the mood takes you both and let nature do it's thing! Worry about 'ttc' if it doesn't happen in the next year or whatever.

52States · 26/11/2014 12:31

so, for those of you that have more of a clue about ttc than i do, have i missed the boat this month?

WreckTheHalls yes, i do know all that. i'm an idiot. wish i could turn back time to this morning and not reacted that way.

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ChippingInAutumnLover · 26/11/2014 12:29

Gamerchick, it's the first time I've picked up that you're a Geordie Grin

52. It sounds like your hormones are already in a spin...!! Carry on like that and you might find yourself a single parent to your 6 yo DD. Madness. Calm the hell down and leave nature to it. At least try to conceive this baby in a natural loving relationship for a while. Leave the 'getting it done technically' if you don't 'catch on' after a while. 3 months is nothing.

Apologise to you DH.

52States · 26/11/2014 12:29

i've tracked my periods for the last 5 years, i have a 31 day cycle so it's pretty certain it'll be friday, although as i said, last month i ovulated a day earlier.

i can't help but feel stressed that we have probably missed the opportunity this month. i will certainly apologise to him. i really don't like ttc!

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patienceisvirtuous · 26/11/2014 12:28

You really can't schedule pregnancy with as much precision as you're hoping!

WreckTheHalls · 26/11/2014 12:27

You REALLY need to relax. Three months is nothing. Sex under duress is crap. And planning a baby to fit in with nursery is bonkers.

But you know all this.

Honestly, if I were you, I'd forget you're even TTC over December and just have some wine and shag loads because you enjoy sex with your husband.

WipsGlitter · 26/11/2014 12:25

Also your body is not a machine you may ovulate this Friday and you may not. Just have sex the next time you see him!

TurnOverTheTv · 26/11/2014 12:22

Calm the fuck down. You're not doing yourself, or your marriage any favours.

52States · 26/11/2014 12:21

i've messed up haven't i?

last week it wasn't on a schedule, it was fun and natural. but as i know ovulation is approaching i panicked and thought with him being away it needed to be done.

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Bumpedbonce · 26/11/2014 12:21

Please try and calm down, nursery fees really suck but you've only been trying 3 months. Sex when everyone is angry is no fun

gamerchick · 26/11/2014 12:19

Howay man you can't go on like that.

Huge massive apology to your husband or you might not get any at all at the weekend.

WipsGlitter · 26/11/2014 12:18

You really need to chillax about it! But you know that. Sex on a schedule is never ever fun!

TheAlias · 26/11/2014 12:10

Gosh. Is this really how you want to live and what you want sex to be like?

If DH had reacted like that to me, I wouldn't be sleeping with him on Saturday.