ttc after mc- the best shit place to be! #2

Hi molly, so sorry to hear what's happening. I would have been 10 weeks when I lost my little one too. From my experience, I had light cramping and bleeding that lead to heavy bleeding. It also came with a lot of pain so make sure you've got paracetamol and ibuprofen with you. Mine hit a peak when I went through a bit of labour for an hour or so before I passed the baby. After the baby had passed, the pain stopped straight away. II don't mean to scare you and your experience may be very different but it's best to be prepared. I did have a medically management MC though so with yours (if it is) being natural, it might take a bit longer. Buy some super thick pads, the night time ones were the best for me, stay near your bed and toilet (I just alternated between the two when it was all happening) and have some support with you if/when it starts to get heavier. Keeping eating as the bloody loss can make you feel dizzy. So sorry this is happening, especially over christmas. Hope your okay and I hope this helps xx

Hello all. I heard that you are a very supportive lot so I hope you don't mind if I join you and ask some practical advice. I started mc-ing yesterday. I would have been 10 weeks today. They did a trans-abdominal scan in the hospital and didn't find a hb. But they didn't have the facilities in the emergency clinic to do an internal scan and won't diagnose officially (or do anything about it) until I get an internal and the next available appt was the 29th. However I am 100% sure it's gone as I had an early scan a week and a half ago and the bean was bigger then than it was yesterday, and had a strong hb. I'm at my parents for Christmas which is not in the UK which adds an extra layer of complication. I have some intermittent light bleeding and cramping now, and what I was wondering if I could ask you guys what I should expect for the next few days. Does the bleeding tend to go on for days/weeks and does it get very very heavy? I suppose it might stop altogether, it has been kind of starting and stopping. Thank-you in advance

Also, my head is all over the place and I can't think. To those of you who were due December, big hugs and support. It's a hard time of year not to be pregnant, especially after mc. But we will get there xxx

Thank you xxx
I haven't spoken to DH about it yet. I got pretty upset last night when we went to the panto. Still, ive got lots to do and keep me busy.

Thinking of you today treacle hope you're getting plenty of hugs and support.

Big hugs Treacle xx

Thank you so much ladies, it means so much that you've remembered.

I'm going to spend all day cooking yummy food for us to take to dh's parents tonight.
We will toast Little Seed with a brandy later.

Sending you enormous unmumsnetty hugs Treacle. Thinking of you.

Congratulations Happy - here's to a healthy pregnancy.

Symptoms are sounding positive Envious - keeping everything crossed for you.

Monten - I'm with you in hopping 2015 will be better. How fab would it be if we all gave birth to happy, healthy babies in 2015? Currently clinging onto the hope that it WILL happen for us all next year.

Also hugs from me treacle xx

Congratulations daisy !!! Brilliant.

Fx for you llama.

Thanks ladies for all your support this year. I hope next year is a better one for us all xx

treacle, just popping on to say I'm thinking of you today. Much unMNy love and hugs sweet xxxxxxx

envious that all sounds really promising. Fingers crossed for you.

Congratulations Daisey!

Thinking of you today Treacle, I hope you can do something nice xx

I'm 5dpo and it's dragging! We're away visiting family so that helps. (TMI) I'm getting tons of discharge, a few pains in my boobs and feeling tired. Trying not to get my hopes up though. Good luck to anyone else in their 2ww!

Hey just wanted to check in, I got a bfp early in dec after a blighted ovum in September. I don't have sore boobs but I am still hopeful as I have other symptoms. We have all been here before and wanted to say thanks for all the support xxx

Sorry meant to say congratulations Daisy, fantastic news. Hopefully that's the start of a whole lot of bfps to come.

Just wanted to say thinking of you today Treacle, hope the day goes as well as it can and you can enjoy tomorrow. Thinking of everybody else having a tough time too. for you all.
Sounds promising Envious, will keep my fingers crossed for you.

Congrats Daisy :) so pleased for you.

Mrsfaz, I ended up telling more people I'd miscarried than I did that I was pregnant. It really helped me cope to talk about it.
Hand holding from me xxx

Well AF has got me. That's at 10dpo making it a short cycle for me at 24 days. Pleased to not be worrying about whether to drink or not but absolutely gutted. Bah bloody humbug! Been busy baking although my chocolate log is definitely not bake off worthy!

Sorry you've ended up here mrsfaz but you're in good company here. There is no right or wrong way to be feeling. The tears will come when they're meant to. Probably at the most inconvenient time!

What a super Xmas pressie for you daisy! Congratulations!!

Congrats Daisy!

So sorry to hear that Mrsfaz. I do hope you're ok. I had a blighted ovum too and also felt weirdly like I needed to cry but just couldn't for a few days. Then I felt much better for about a month or so then felt myself getting teary again. I think it's completely normal to feel like this though. Sometimes it's like you almost don't let yourself cry as a defence mechanism but then something triggers it. Please post whenever you need to and feel free to pm me anytime (I had some lovely lovely mumsnetters to support me and it really helped)

Thanks cariad it is good to know im not a freak :-)
I will certainly be indulging in a few glasses as consolation xx

mrsfaz (hugs) I felt like that for a while - I had a cry when I woke in the middle of the night covered in blood and then didn't cry again until I saw my big sister, and then I cried a lot. In between I wanted to cry but just couldn't?!

Here for hand holding until someone wiser comes along.

Can I join you all!! Got a BFP around 6 weeks ago and just felt in my gut something wasn't right and when I started dark drown spotting I got more anxious! Went to EPAU and after 3 weeks of scans had a blighted ovum confirmed yesterday! Had a medical miscarriage and struggling today! It all happened pretty quickly and feel really low tonight .... What's wierd is I feel like a good cry but no tears are coming!!! :-( rubbish time of year and my best friend who was the only person to know is also 9weeks so feel like I can't explode it all onto her!!!

Terrified about the thought of TTC again and all your posts seem so supportive so thought I'd write down how I feel and get it out!!

((hugs for everyone))

I can't believe how fantastic and supportive this thread is. I just want to say a huge thankyou to all of you for being so bloody wonderful. I wouldn't have made it through the last few weeks without this thread.

Nearly lost it earlier when aforementioned cousin started spouting about appreciating and loving her DD more cos she struggled to get pregnant and I just wanted to scream yes it took you 9 months to get pregnant but thats a relatively normal amount of time, try being in the shoes of women who try for years and are on their umpteenth round of IVF and also you didn't conceive and then lose one so stfu... I didn't though. I disengaged and walked away. Sigh.

My best friend is arriving shortly to spend Christmas week with us and I can't bloody wait for her to get here. Baking galore and Elf for DDs us and thats our evening.

daisy