ttc after mc- the best shit place to be! #2

chasing I had very bad pain for about 5 days in the wtf cycle. I was panicking it might be an ectopic after reading your history. Not even sure I did ovulate in the end.

gr33dy I've done similar - was sat feeling mopey about the MC, so decided to go raid the fridge for the stuff I would have avoided if I'd been pregnant, and used that to cheer me up till I get on the scales then I'll be sad haha

guy so sorry you're having such a difficult time. I'm up and down on ttc anyway without the added pressure of serious illness around you

stocking I know how you feel. Yesterday I was at an indoor event and saw a lady with a lovely little bump and I was thinking 'I should have one too'. Rather unusually for me however, I took a positive from it and went on rides 'unsuitable for pregnant women'

chasing glad it looks like you're ovulating again even though you can't ttc yet.

northdown not sure what else you could for.

lazyrohazy a sad welcome. Is it a serous ovarian cyst? Have they drained it?

Its hard taking a 'laid back' approach to TTC. I'm finding myself trying to work out AF and when I could test but no real symptoms - still got tingly nipples from b4 mc and I have had some heartburn but have been overindulging!

I'm afraid I haven't yet RTFT but can I jump aboard? We're TTC # 2 but have had two miscarriages over the last 18 mos. I had another MC before our DD and my lovely GP sent me for recurrent MC testing despite it not being 3 in a row because there is a lot of miscarriage in the maternal line. All tests were clear, other than a small serious cyst and a single small fibroid.

Anyway, we're back on the TTC wagon. 1 dpo and already driving myself crazy. Meh.

Ah, I can feel the dull achey throb in my stomach, I'm sure AF is on her way.

north I'd say February is a reasonable time to expect the GP to start investigating what (if anything) is/isn't happening, but I have no clue of what to ask for I'm afraid.

AF arrived on Boxing Day and it's fit me thinking. My periods now are very different to before my MC. I used to have about 5d not too heavy. Now it's 2d quite heavy with a few clots, and a day or 2very light possibly even just spotting.
I've been wondering if this could be a symptom of my lining being too thin?
Been trying for 5 months now and previously always caught within 2 months of trying, and that was without all the time tabling and POAS.

I've decided to make an appointment with the doc for February. that'll be six months of trying and since I'll be 40 in March yhetes really no time to wait.
Anyone got any tips on what I should be asking? Hormone checks at various days in the month, an ultrasound to check uterine lining thickness... Anything else?

To everyone having an utterly shit time right now.

Once AF arrives, which I think she will, I'm planning to order more OPKs and a BBTT and get a little bit more militant about this TTC thing. If I'd never conceived I would still be very relaxed about the whole thing, but I just want a baby and I already had to hang around 18 months longer than I actually wanted to. Sigh.

Back into see the Nurse on Wednesday to double check this UTI has gone, fingers crossed, these antibiotics have knocked me for six over the festive period.

Guy , I understand how you feel. My mother in law died on 4th Dec (cancer) and her funeral was on Monday, me and DH were so happy when we found out we were expecting a baby, especially because we thought we'd be able to tell her she'd be a grandma. Now she's gone and we'll never be able to do that. Hope so much 2015 has a hello, sick of goodbyes

Sorry everybody is having such a tough time, especially for Stocking, BB01 and Guy.

Mummy definitely get in touch with epu tomorrow, I really hope it's the result you want.

Haribo, I got a bfp on a frer from superdrug at 11dpo. They are definitely the tests to get. Will keep everything crossed for you and keep checking in.

I'm just so angry today. Sat doing another test today, which was a BFN as expected as its my WTF cycle, we weren't really trying, and I'm only 12 DPO.
But I was just hit by a rage I've never felt before. I should be 8/9 weeks pregnant now, I should have had my first midwife appointment, I should be gearing up ready for our 12 week scan and I'm not I should not be sat here peeing on sticks when I was already pregnant just a few weeks ago.

I haven't felt like this before.

Haven't caught up on all the posts yet but just wanted to say Guybrush though my mum's situation is different to your dad's, she was diagnosed with cancer a few weeks ago and it was awful coming not long after the mc. It is horrible having to give people bad news instead of good news especially at a time when they really need nice things to think about. Thinking of you x

Well test still showing positive so going to ring epac in the morning see if I can get some bloods done , still confused x

Sorry to see some new ladies here, I hope your getting lots of TLC in RL.

Rest this morning (10dpo) was a BFN on a Sainsburys cheapy. I know it's early and now I'm cross with myself for not waiting a few more days! My boobs are so painful and swollen that Iv convinced myself I'm pregnant. Hope I'm not eating my words in a few days. We're in London and driving home to Yorkshire tonight so will pick up a first response (are they the best ones for early detection?) for the morning. Fingers crossed for anyone else due to test!

Hi all, sorry to see lots of sad news on here today.
Guy I'm sorry about your dad. You really don't need to feel guilty about the miscarriage. It's not your fault. I know that's easier said than done.

I've tried keeping off here a bit this month as ttc is driving me crazy. Currently on Cd15 and will probably ovulate in the next few days, not that I expect anything!

Guy I am so sorry about your dad. I am in the wtf cycle and I think I ovulated last week too as I had ewcm but I was all over the place and just didn't even dtd in the end. I still haven't done a post-mc test to check it's negative although it must be if I ovd. I've also been drinking over Xmas and not taking vitamins so will use the new year to get back on the folic acid.

guy maybe just try taking each day as it comes. One at a time. I'm so sorry about your dad. But you aren't a failure for miscarrying. And your mum is probably very very grateful that you are ok, if that makes sense. And it is only natural to be feeling all over the place. All of it is a big deal. You. Him. We're all here if you need to get stuff off your chest. However crazy it seems.

I'm at my folks who know nothing about what we've been through this year. Don't see them very often. I just want to shout it out, but they have so much on their plates. I feel so rubbish and fake holding it together. Just got to make it through the new year now.

Hello to the newbies. Sorry you find yourself here. Here's to some cheerier posts and lots of good news in the NY.

Hi mummy, it was the mw that advised this and only because it is easier to date the pregnancy if you wait until you have had one period. The doctor told me to come back once I stopped bleeding and she would put me back on the pill!!!! Even at that point, I felt numb and heart broken, but I definitely don't want to go back on the pill, it was horrendous coming off it.

Teenie I wasn't advised to wait but wasent as far on as you x

The last bloods they did the level was 4 and they did 2 pregnancy tests at that time and both were negative , I assume hospital urine tests are the same as home kits x I have my fingers crossed but am way to anxious to feel happy, I am already stressing cos I have back ache and I only did the test 5 hours ago :(