ttc after mc- the best shit place to be! #2

So sorry to read your awful news Brummie. You should now push for investigations as you've had 3 mc. There is a recurrent mc thread on the mc board which you may find useful.
I've been lurking on this thread feeling like a proper oldie (over 40) amongst all of you! But I've just delurked as I was struck by what Gr33 said above- you mean you had a period within 5 weeks of your mc despite still having a positive test?
I'm just coming out of an anembryonic pregnancy, a twin one so hormones were high. Just before Christmas I had a scan and the sacs had shrunk away, although remains were still there. Doctor said no further treatment needed and I should wait for my period. Started bleeding yesterday ( just over 3 weeks since previous bleeding ceased). I thought it must be my period, but did a pg test this morning and it's still positive. From that I thought must be still mc bleeding, but your experience was that it's possible to have a period in such circumstances? So confused!

I'm so sorry brummie. Horrible news.

Awe brummie my heart is breaking for you. I am so so sorry and also sending you massive hugs.

Oh Brummie How awful for you, especially after the assurance you get from an early scan. That is absolutely shit and I am so sorry

Brummie - I am so so sorry. As Allthefours said, there really are no words. Thinking of you. Sending enormous un-mumsnetty hugs

Brummie, I am so so sorry. Really shit news. Life is so very cruel. There really are no words, but I'm thinking of you. Hugs. Xx

Hi all. Shit shit news. 9 weeks tomorrow - had my follow up scan this morning. Baby has died. There was no heartbeat this time.

ERPC scheduled for Friday morning.

3rd mc in a row. Fucking devastated doesn't even close. Why is this happening????

We saw a heartbeat at 7 weeks but it seems baby died soon after. Numb with grief and shock

Just read back a bit.
epskie I had to seriously persuade my OH to try ttc no2, but when we lost it he was very much 'we can try again'. Like others have said, honest conversations are the best way about trying again. Then get on here to discuss all your crazy and irrational feelings - not sure my OH needs to know all of those!

epskie I was still getting positives after 3 weeks with an 11 week mc. Ended up having 2 blood tests a week apart which came at 11 and 5. So officially negative after 5 weeks. Oddly I'd had a period and I still had HCG around!

stocking sorry AF got you. I've had 2 mc now and was told I could get an early scan next time.

Thanks guys

Private scan it is then.

AF just showed up. Feeling very relieved.

I doubt you would to be honest. Most of them (early pregnancy unit) wing do anything unless you've had multiple miscarriages. I'll be booking an early private scan about 8 weeks next time.

guybrush I caught within 7 weeks with both DDs and I caught within 7 weeks this time... It just never occurred to me that I could lose the baby I've been POAS morning and evening and getting BFNs. Before I started testing I was feeling panicky and sick about the thought of being PG again, but the longer the BFNs have gone on, the sadder it makes me that I'm not PG.

I'm not holding out any hope as we weren't supposed to be trying this month, and I know if I get a BFP I will have major anxiety with it being so close to the MC.

I've been wondering if I can get referral to the local EPU when I do get a BFP, just so that I can get some reassurance? But I have no clue what an EPU does? What would they do if I did manage to get a referral?

I am suddenly desperate to ttc. I was uncertain so we left it for this month but I definitely want to get started after my period- which should be in the next few days. Glad we left it for the wtf month. I found the mc (discovered at 9 weeks, mc at 11 weeks then erpc a few days later) physically very traumatic so hoping my body has healed.
DH and I have had a couple of days away with dd at mil's. I miss her so much I ache. It has really clarified for me that I want another baby and I want it soon. I have felt so unsure since the mc. I even felt like it might have been the right thing because I reacted with such shock and fear when I got the bfp.
Sorry and welcome to the new people.
Want my period so I can start ttc now. Conceived second month first time and first month this recent time so might get my hopes up that it will happen quickly.
Such a fucking rollercoaster. None of us deserve to be here. No one bloody does. But it is what it is I guess.

epskie DH had to talk me into TTC in the first place - I was so wobbly, back and forth, then got PG then MCd - and its sealed my decision - I want a baby with my DH. However. Since the MC, we have drifted a little. (Physically, I mean) due to a UTI and the antibs making me feel gross, we've only DTD three times this cycle and it was three days in a row, all over OPK+ days. I had decided to leave it a month or two and get the Pill, then decided I couldn't be bothered with the hassle of it, and we both just sort of decided to continue but not really talk about it head in sand for us both I suspect

haribo I feel exactly the same. 13DPO and AF due to arrive tomorrow and still getting BFNs on my One Step tests but I've read some reviews on the One Step tests and it would seem they are utter shite and people have had weeks of BFNs with them and then used ClearBlue Digi or FRER and got BFPs and been further along than they though due to the BFNs on One Step... So they may be wrong?!

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So sorry for your loss epskie, an awful thing to happen at any time but Christmas sucks.

Haribo so disappointed for you hon, I was convinced this was your month. I just know it will happen soon for you but that doesn't help right now. Hope you are ok.

Hi epskie. So sorry for your loss and what a horrid experience to have at christmas.

My DH was the same, I wanted to try straight away after the MC but he was more cautious. At the time I was devastated and I just wanted to replace the baby we'd lost, looking back I can see why DH wanted to wait. As it turned out it took 4 months for AF to come back anyway so we're just ttc again now. Every couple is different so really you need to have a blunt and honest conversation with him, which is so hard when your emotions are all over the place.

Still getting BFN 12dpo on the super drug FRER so losing hope for this cycle :( i just want to be pregnant! I couldn't even bring myself to hold DP's 3 month old niece over the weekend, it just felt unbearable.

epskie so sorry to hear about your MC, especially over Christmas you poor thing. Would a good long chat about how you feel maybe help DH to come round to the idea of TTC? I've been lucky with DP, he's never needed any persuasion so i'm sorry you've got that to deal with too. We didn't catch on my WTF but i did help me to be doing something by TTC during it. Although that first period was very very difficult.

snoopy you really need to look after yourself, you've been through a big trauma and have a lot on your plate. Could it be worth speaking to your GP about some counselling? Are you talking to anyone in RL about how you feel?

Hi everybody, I've just came over here after being recommended to do so on my own thread. I had a mc on Xmas day at 11 weeks. I spent last night and this morning poring over this thread and I feel so much better knowing I'm not as alone as I felt before.
I desperately want to start ttc straight away (even during my wtf cycle since I've read on this thread that many do) but I am afraid dh won't agree.
Has any body else had to convince their dh?
Sorry for everybody's losses and thanks so much for all sharing your stories xx

gr33dy No, they aren't suggesting any treatment for the cyst and seem wholly unconcerned by it. I've basically been told to go away and come back when I'm pregnant so they can scan me at 7 wks. Now I just have to actually get pregnant.

According to temp and OPKs I've ovulated 2 days later than usual this month so now I'm paranoid my luteal phase won't be long enough (10 days ish).

Sorry to hear so many people are having a hard time

I'm afraid I'm not going to add much sunshine and happiness.

My grandad had cancer a couple of years ago and a scan has revealed some more growths.

I feel so depressed. The job I'm doing currently does not occupy me mentally at all which just leads to dark thoughts but I'm dreading going back to my old job because I kind of feel like I've lost 'it'. I'm not myself anymore, I'm just this timid failure. I don't think I could deal with the physical nature or the aggression let alone the hostility that is now flowing down from senior management.

I got upset because we didn't DTD last night even though we've been doing it nearly every night since I stopped bleeding. Different apps are telling me I'm fertile at different times. I have this irrational fear I'll never be pregnant again and I know I'll breakdown if my period arrives.

I'm mentally drained and physically exhausted. I've been starting work at 0630hrs and then going to my mums all evening because I don't want to be on my own when DH is working so I'm not sleeping at all.

I loathe my body. It's become soft and bloated because I'm comfort eating. To top it all off the acne that popped up on my chest and neck still isn't getting better.

I just don't know what to do. I don't remember what it is to be me anymore. I'm lost