ttc after mc- the best shit place to be! #2

Thank you so much for sharing your stories.
So sorry to hog the thread when there has been such happy news brummie!

Thanks all for lovely messages - we are both v apprehensive..

And Cariad it's great for house move, new start. I've lost two babies in this flat and I've no real desire to return to Women's Hospital

Oh Guy you must be so scared.

The ERPC actually was really ok - as much as it can be I guess. I was adamant I was having it. Got taken down to theatre about 2.45. A nurse inserted some pessaries vaginally about an hour before to soften the cervix ( which can raise your temp slightly and make you feel a bit hot) however the damned things didn't work!!
Anyway, got down to theatre - anaesthetic through cannula and next thing I knew it was 3.30pm and I was in recovery. My throat actually hurt more than anything else from the tube.

4pm I was back in my room and with DP. Had tea and toast and probably went home about 6pm.

That was it. I found it way less traumatic than my natural one.

After that the bleeding and pain stopped really quickly. You will be ok and I found the ERPC way better.

Big hugs xx

guy I had Erpc on August - had to be there 7am (Saturday surgery as it was bank Hol), various bloods, checks and talks then off to surgery around noon. General anaesthetic, woke up about 45 mins later. I freaked out about needing DH there so they took me out of recovery really quickly. I was pretty woozy for a few hours and they didn't let me home until I had wee-ed twice, bleeding slowed and was less wobbly but still got home that night. Other ladies bounced back quicker and were home within hours.

Afterwards I was fairly wiped out but bleeding was less than I expected and very little pain. Having now compared natural with op I prefer op.

Hope that helps!

guy I had an erpc in August after my baby died at 8.5w. I found out right beforehand at 8w that it wasn't going to make it (via private scan) as the HB was very very slow. Once the MC was confirmed a week later, the hospital (UCH in London) recommended ERPC as they didn't know how long it would take to pass naturally (it could have been up to 6 weeks).
I got to the hospital 3pm for the evening list. At 4pm I had to insert a couple of tablets to soften the cervix. At 5ish I went to pre-op and went immediately under, pretty much. I was lucky, there was a girl after me who had to wait in pre-op (our husbands were not allowed to wait there) for me to be finished. So I was put under general at about 5.30 and woke up about 6.30. I was given tea, water and biscuits for about another 1.5 hours while they checked I had recovered from surgery ok (my husband was with me by then). Left to go home about 8pm.
So it's pretty fast. I found the parts where I had to insert the pills upsetting, and couldn't stop crying as they put me under, I was still freaking out, but I felt a lot better once it was done. I didn't bleed much after, but there was a bit of blood when I went to the loo for the next day or so. 2nd what metal said...there's a lot of relief afterwards as I felt that I could begin the healing process. The idea that the baby was still inside me after the mc was very difficult to deal with - I couldn't possibly have waited for it to happen naturally, especially after losing another baby naturally earlier in the year (measuring 5.4). I wasn't offered medical management, only waiting or surgery so it was an easy choice for me.
I still had some pregnancy symptoms for a few days afterwards and tested negative a couple of weeks later, although I wasn't testing regularly. My wtf cycle was normal, 30 days, then it went a bit weird - 13 days, then 28 days, but the next cycle I got pregnant again (I'm 4w5d today) so I obviously recovered pretty quickly.
Sorry that's a bit of a novel but I hope it helps, it's as comprehensive as possible!

guy I'm sorry you're going through this. I had an erpc in February, and the op itself was fine, I was home a couple of hours later and didn't really have much pain or bleeding afterwards and was very relieved that it was all over.

However, just make sure you're aware of all the risk involved. I've just been diagnosed with Asherman's syndrome, which is basically adhesions in the uterus as a result of surgery and it can impact your fertility. I don't mean to scare you as it is rare, but no one mentioned this to me at all at the time, and I might have chosen a different route if I'd known about it. Good luck with whatever you decide.

I phoned the hospital and they said it was just policy based on saving resources for pregnancies which had progressed further.

I called BUPA and I'm covered for surgical so I think I'll book it in for the end of this week and then just cancel if it happens naturally.

Can't see how it could be riskier when the surgery is used to remove any tiny amounts left if miscarriage is incomplete. It must be fine for tiny amounts. I understand though- my pregnancy hasn't progressed past 6 weeks (although I would currently be 11 weeks). Understand that the NHS would need the surgery spots for someone losing an 11 week pregnancy as presumably that can be more physically traumatic.

Feel better with a deadline in mind as it really doesn't feel like my body is going to work it out.

Does anyone have erpc experiences that they wouldn't mind sharing? I've never had any kind of surgery so I'm scared.

Huge congratulations Brummie - such awesome news (and just in time for your house move!) Keeping everything crossed that you have a healthy, sticky bean and a very boring and uneventful 8 months.

I don't blame you at all for not wanting to leave this thread. I was absolutely petrified after my second BFP and know I will be even more of a nervous wreck next time round. Here's hoping your house move and Christmas prove to be welcome distractions.

How are you cake? Was thinking about you lots this week and hoping you were still getting comfort from loved ones xx

Marking my place.

Fantastic news brummie x

Guy, I've had this with my second and third mc - basically, if the sac is too small, there is too much risk that they could cause damage when removing it.

Congrats, brummie!

Oh my gosh how did i miss that? Congrats brummie :)

Just marking place, thanks for new thread

* guy* I don't know. My first mc was 9weeks measuring 6 and from what I recall I was only given a week for things to happen naturally and then was told I would need intervention and both surgical and medical mentioned. This was 5 years ago but the 'service' differences nationwide are shocking.
Have you tried natural things to encourage it? I went on a long walk and drank lots of pineapple juice. The waiting is awful.

Thanks for all congrats peeps - early days yet but come on little bean please stick this time

Hi Guy I'm so sorry you are still waiting.

I had an ERPC with my 2nd. I was 9 wks but had stopped growing at 6 wks. They tried to encourage me to have medical management but I pretty much told them to jog on.

I'd been in horrendous pain and I just wanted it all over but I had to really push and stamp my feet and basically say I was traumatised at thought of more pain.

I eventually got it but Christ I had to push for it. It comes down to cost and resources as you aren't considered an emergency. Shocking I know.

Try and insist and see how far you get. Big hugs

Huge congratulations brummie.

I just asked this question on the miscarriage forum but thought I'd post it here too in case any of you clever people can give any information:

"I have had a mmc confirmed this week. I would be 11 weeks now but it stopped developing at about 6 weeks. There was hardly anything in the sac.

The hospital said they couldn't offer erpc because it was too small. To be honest, I was hoping for surgical management because the waiting between scans has been awful.

Does anyone know why they wouldn't offer it? Is it just that they physically can't do it if that small or could it just be that they have a policy not to offer it because it's the NHS and they are under-resourced? I'm only wondering because I actually have private insurance which would cover the procedure and am trying to consider all my options.
I still have no pain or bleeding.
Thanks."

Congratulations Brummie

Thanks for the new thread Chasing, hope you guys don't mind if I hang around a little longer
Congratulations Brummie!