ttc after mc- the best shit place to be! #2

That's really interesting sebs. I am also concerned about my age and fertility (I'm 38). I was taking high dose folic acid with the pregnancy I lost and part of my brain doesn't want to replicate anything from that time even though I know that's stupid. I do get really confused about what supplements to take so will look for your list on the other thread.

I might look into acupuncture. I have never had it before and I think it is worth a try.

Allthefours I am 40 in February and felt exactly the same way. I honestly believe that it was the combination of supplements (bloody expensive ones) and acupuncture that lengthened my cycle and allowed me enough time to mature the egg that ended up getting fertilised.

I wrote a really long post in Conception that listed the supplements I was taking and I found a fertility acupuncturist local to me that was affiliated with Zita West.

I think at our age it's totally possible but we do have to do more than just take folic acid.

Happy New Year ladies. Fingers crossed that 2015 brings an abundance of sticky BFP's.

I'm sorry to see many new faces since I joined the thread following my first MMC in June (although I'm more of a lurker), it sad that MC is so common.

Am having a particularly tough time at the moment, my due date is in 6 days and as I would have had a c-section at 39 weeks I should be holding my new born baby. As it stands I'm not, I'm not even pregnant as the stark white BFN that was this morning. I shed so many tears yesterday it was unreal, I'm dreading going back to work on Monday, instead of being on maternity leave.

This TTC malarkey is not much fun especially with PCOS. I did conceive again in the WTF cycle but MC at 5+3. Since that MC in August i have had 3 cycles, 1 of 56 days, 1 of 43 days and the present cycle current in CD28. I just wish I knew what my body was doing. I have been taking Soy isoflavones for the last 2 cycles and EPO this cycle. This cycle I had EWCM on CDs 12-16 so DTD plenty during that time and thought the timing was perfect. But since then, zero symptoms and a BFN today. I'm gutted to say the least. I'm just waiting for AF to rear her ugly head but when is anyone's guess. I am
Becoming obsessive about becoming pregnant, too obsessive I think but at 40 time is not on my side.

Brummie I am so sorry to hear your news . I don't understand why life has to be so fucking cruel sometimes.

If your ERPC is today it will be too late probably, but I wondered if you could ask that they perform tests on the foetus and find out if there were any problems. I think it's really important that they refer you now and as someone said up thread there is a thread within Conception I think, that is about recurrent miscarriages and tests, referrals etc. if your GP isn't sympathetic then find one that is.

My GP couldn't give a shit about the two MCs I've had this year. I asked if they would test my progesterone levels to check they are high enough and they said they are prepared to do precisely nothing. I've decided that if I lose this pregnancy and they won't refer me I shall move doctors as I'm sick of the attitude of supposed health professionals.

Lots of love to you and to everyone else on here that is suffering xx

sebsmummy/ NewEra

Thanks guys, and sending out thoughts to everybody else who is suffering too. This thread is amazing and I couldn't have coped without it xx

The pain eased through the night a little, did a test this morning and still showing as positive. Called epu and they've booked a scan for me on Monday. I still have a bearing down feeling pretty much all the time. Perhaps I'll lose whatever is left before the scan? X

P.s. Sorry to all those having a hard time at the moment - sending enormous unmumsnetty hugs to everyone who needs them.

Allthequeens - I totally understand your fear of another BFP. After two early losses, the only thing that keeps me going is the belief that at some stage I will have a pregnancy that will actually work. That having been said, I'm not sure how I'll cope if my next pregnancy turns out to be another ectopic. I really hope that you get a BFP and a healthy, sticky bean very soon.

Loving NorthDown's NYE. Sounds idyllic. In a bid to start 2015 on a positive note, for the first time in about a decade I found myself writing a list of new year's resolutions, which are all things I hope to achieve in 2015 and none of which are pregnancy related. Although I'd love to get pregnant with a healthy, sticky bean in the next few cycles such that 2015 becomes the year of the baby for me and DH, if I don't, I'm hoping that the list can serve as a reminder that there are plenty of other positives in my life that I should be grateful for, even if the thing I want the most at the moment is eluding me.

Just checking in to say that I'm thinking of you today Brummie. Hope the ERPC goes as well as it can do and that you have lots of support in RL.

Oof. My first period after mc and erpc is heavier than usual.

Just checking in epskie. Hope you are ok.
I was terrified of the general anaesthetic too and had never had one before. It is fine though. Honestly am erpc is a million times easier than mc naturally. It is a simple routine procedure and the general is just so quick. Hope you are ok this morning.

I would call EPU first thing tomorrow and they should arrange a scan to check all is clear. But in the meantime please monitor yourself and any severe pain or bleeding or any temp or feverish symptoms please go to A&E straight away.

I went to hospital during my mc and received excellent care, I was treated for possible infection with ABs but had no medical or surgical management for the mc so please don't think you have no option but to have a GA if you go to hospital.

epskie darling please call now. Please. I had to call nhs 24 with one of my mc and I am glad I did. Please don't put yourself at risk. I had simaler pains but at the early stages as others have said. Just call them. Hand holding here.

Thank you. I started bleeding on 21st December and lost large amount of tissue on Xmas eve and Xmas day. I'm terrified of general anaesthetic which is why I opted for trying to pass naturally. Should I call them tomorrow? I'm so fed up and sad x

Epskie I had a complete mc with labour-like contractions and then had further episodes of these over the following week. They were weaker than the original one though. In each case I had a couple of hours or so or contractions and then passed clots etc (apart from the original episode which was 5-6 hrs)

However I had had a scan so I knew I had passed the sac and these were just clots. I'm not sure from your previous posts what medical care you have had. If you are having unbearable pain or severe bleeding you should go to hospital.

Sorry you are going through this and to anyone who has joined us over Christmas. Also to Brummie, so sad.

Still thinking of you brummie. Hope erpc is smooth tomorrow so you can find a way to begin healing. Sending you huge hugs. Miscarriages can fucking fuck off.

epskie, iirc you were still having positive pregnancy tests weren't you? I would imagine this could be remaining tissue. My natural mc involved contractions increasing in frequency and intensity, exactly like my labour with dd. Very very painful. I then passed the sac and tissue and had a lot of blood loss. I was scanned the next day and there was remaining tissue so I had an erpc the following day. If I hadn't had the erpc, I would most likely have experienced another labour-like experience for the rest.
Remember that even though contractions like that are INCREDIBLY fucking painful, this is actually your body being really really clever. This is what your uterus is supposed to do- contract, open the cervix and push out the contents.
Remember to keep an eye on the blood loss and if you are soaking through a pad really quickly or are feeling unwell or dizzy, seek medical attention. Is there someone there with you?
Regardless of whether you do pass tissue tonight, I would give the epu a call and remember to mention how long this has been going on. When did you start to miscarry? The longer your cervix is open, the bigger the risk of infection so just make sure the epu can make an informed decision. If this is really prolonged, they should be scanning you tomorrow and booking in surgery if scan shows anything remaining.

Sorry you are still in the middle of this. This means it's nearly over though. Sending strength.

epskie I've not had that but both my miscarriages were complete. Its possible yours wasn't and this is remaining tissue . I'd try and get a scan if you haven't already. Hot water bottle and painkillers may help. So sorry, big hugs.

Hi guys, me again. It would seem my ordeal isn't over :-( I now have severe contraction like pains, any body else experienced this? Thanks in advance x

Thanks stocking. I worried that sounded like he was horrible, he's not. He's just my dh, big hug. And I extend that to you all, in an unmumsnetty way. I ignore that here anyways, I think we all need a hug. I certainly do.

allthe Yes I know exactly what you mean. It's only been over Christmas that he's started to show it, prior to that he just didn't seem bothered at all, almost as if he shrugged it off whilst I was breaking apart.

Sorry to see some new names on here and that some of you are having a rough start to 2015.

We celebrated the new year with a few bottles of fizz, just DH and I sat in on the sofa with the tv off. We had such a lovely evening, reminiscing about all the wonderful experiences we had last year. I tried to think of my favourite thing each month.
It's been too easy to let the MC dominate but horrendous as it was, it brought us closer than ever. And considering we got married in May, even with that, 2014 was one of the best of my life.

Been making some future plans too. Going to book to see the doc in Feb which will be 6 months. Also going to get serious about planning and financing an extension. I feel much lighter looking forward instead of back ..... Just need to keep it up