ttc after mc- the best shit place to be! #2

Is there any risks associated with conceiving during wtf?

Guy I TTC during the wtf cycle because my view was if I didn't expect anything then that was ok but you never know.

Carry on as normal was my mantra!!!

What is the deal on ttc during the wtf cycle? Yay or nay? Evidence? Still thinking might leave it for a month to help me heal emotionally but I'm feeling really indecisive. Think dh will let me decide when I'm ready.

So sorry everybody is having such a tough time at the moment, thinking of you all.
Really glad your appointment went well Brummie and he agreed with your decision. It has got you this far!
Haribo so sorry you are feeling so down, totally understandable. I felt much the same when I got my af after the wtf cycle, but actually it was the beginning of me being in control of the situation. I'm sure it won't be long for you now and your little ones will still be close in age. I know that doesn't help right now though

aww MrsJ sending hugs. Its horrible isn't it, not fair at all. Not that I would wish anyone to go through this, but wonder why we have been so unlucky.

I had to go for that meal with our 'pregnant couple' friends at the weekend who were very much pregnant and it broke my heart. Don't get me wrong they were very sensitive and babies were not mentioned at all which I was grateful for but watching her rub her bump was just awful for me.

I mean I'm almost sure it will happen for us one day and we will have a beautiful healthy baby, but I wanted this baby :( hey ho.

So sorry Haribo. I am expecting my AF to arrive somewhere are around Xmas and already dreading it. I think it is probably one of the first horrible milestones we all face.

I have been semi- 'baby bombed' but luckily only on fb and I'm home alone. It's someone from my post-natal group, due a few weeks earlier than I would have been. She's had a horrible year and I don't begrudge her it (not that I would if she hadn't) but still, I wish my scan had looked like that. Have shed a few tears.

that's good news brummie- good to know that you're making all the right decisions and giving yourself the best possible chance.

Pleased it went well Brummie x

Glad it went well Brummie x

Docs was ok this morning and he was surprisingly ok that I was taking aspirin. He said it was the first thing they'd do if I'd had 3 miscarriages.

So I feel much better about taking it. All he said was that without being tested there was no guarantee that was the cause and if aspirin isn't the answer then I still could have an mc.

But I feel like I've increased my chances so that makes me feel better.

haribo feeling your pain too, it's so awful isn't it :( sending hugs x

brummie hope you're holding up ok, yesterday must have been tough for you. Hope everything goes well at the docs this morning x

Oh Haribo

I know that feeling. I sobbed and sobbed whenever I got my AF. But as the very wise Monten said to me, remember it's a fresh start and you can try again.

Feeling for everyone feeling so low and so shit.

I'm sat waiting at doctors. I survived long enough to make it to docs. So at least if anything happens now, the NHS have it recorded. The doc will probably go bat shit crazy that I'm taking aspirin.

I also got to my first milestone yesterday - the day I lost my first one.

If I make it to Christmas Day, I'll have it made it further than my last pregnancy.

Big hugs to you all

Haribo, I really feel for you! it hit my like a tonne of bricks when AF appeared a couple of weeks ago. I was convinced that I would get pg straight away and was absolutely gutted when I didn't.
What it does mean is that your body is getting back to normal and that you're coming to the end of your wtf cycle. It's onwards and upwards from here. Take it easy this week.

I think I'm getting my period :(
I'm so sad. I don't want a period, I want a baby. I want the baby I lost who I had all those hopes and dreams for. I want the small age gap. I guess we don't get what we want.

Sorry to everyone else feeling down, it really is really shit.

snoopy I'm only just starting to get my head around some of the testing that's done to investigate rm so not able to give any advice on the test in the posters. I can understand where your dh is coming from with your family's history in mind. Maybe someone else can help on here or it might be worth asking on the mc board. Don't rush feeling better. Make sure you take as long as you need.

guy it's a big thing that's happened. You're allowed to feel sad. It's completely natural. Which doesn't make it any easier. Things will get easier with time. In the meanwhile, you're not alone. We're all here. take as much time as you need to deal with this.

Thanks for all the advice ladies, since my last post it's more or less started properly and I've had a little cramping so will class today as cd1.

Sorry to the ladies feeling down tonight :( there must be something in the air I feel rubbish too :( I don't think af is helping, I felt fine this morning, now I can't help but think that I've now lost any physical evidence of being pregnant, anything that may have remained however small is now on it's way out of my body so what do I hve to show for my baby? Sorry to be so depressive I just hate this 'getting back to normal' shit. And to make things worse I was trying to talk to OH about how I won't be able to drink over Christmas just incase we get pg and he just kept changing the topic until I asked him why he wouldn't talk about it and he just said 'well I just don't understand ovulating' but that wasn't it. I hate to think he might not be ready to try again but he won't admit it, although who knows!

amyyy I work in IVF and cd1 there is considered as the 1st day you wake up with red blood.

thanks cake and mrsdiddly - okay, the ov sticks might make me crazy then! My last two cycles were 31 and 33 days, and I haven't a clue when I ovulate - I seem to get stabby pains right after the end of my period, which doesn't make any sense. Maybe we'll just try the every other day thing, although I do think I'll end up trying the sticks out because my curiosity will take over!

hugs to everyone having a shitty day. sorry

So sorry guy as others have said it's completely natural. Allow yourself time and to feel as shit as you need x

I feel crappy tonight. Don't feel well, I'm upset again, overwhelmed at work and generally just had enough :(
The TA in my class is off ill. If she wasn't I'd be debating not going in tomorrow.

Oh Guy, I think that's completely natural. I read somewhere that being logical about what happened being 'the right thing' won't make things any less painful because that image of what your life was going to be is so powerful. You're grieving the loss of your hopes and dreams and that will take time to come to terms with.

Guy sorry to that that you're feeling so down. I think that it's a combination of roller lasted emotions and crazy hormones. Don't bottle it up, cry if you need to. Things will get better.
Take care Snoopy

I'm feeling really sad.

Mostly I think I'm doing ok. Physically it is over which is a huge relief. Emotionally I'm coming to terms with the loss and I'm mostly ok that it happened. It was obviously the right thing to happen because, for whatever reason that embryo was just not going to develop.

But right now I just feel so sad and I don't quite know what to do with myself. I don't even know why I feel so sad.

Luckily I'm home now, with my lovely husband.

I'm going to give it a week to heal and then hopefully we'll be ready to try again.

I asked the Doctor the questions I posted here and he didn't have a clue what I was talking about and told me it was best not to ask questions because 'it's of no clinical benefit'. What does that mean

Hubby thinks we should just go private to get a blood test but now I feel scared.

I'm sorry people are having a hard time with family. I text my brother to explain what's going on and I wasn't being a bitch by not travelling to his place for Xmas but he told my mum he never got any text from me, so it's apparently lost in the ether somewhere

snoopy that's awful really. They should have known. Are you home now? Hope you've got some RL support and treats to help keep you strong.

Amy I'd prob count today as CD 1 assuming AF continues and bear in mind that it can take a few cycles for things to settle down for some ladies.