ttc after mc- the best shit place to be! #2

Sorry to hear it mooley. I'm sure you've got pads but just to say I did have a couple more episodes of cramping (not as bad as the first) so make sure you've got some painkillers at hand and give yourself time and space to recover.

Allthefours that sounds completely normal to me - you've been through a horrible time. I am dreading a party I have to go to in a couple of weeks as there will be a lot of baby talk and if there are any surprise 'announcements' I know I will struggle to plaster on any semblance of a smile (more likely I'll make a dash for the loo).

Hello ladies - haven't posted in a while but very much a long time lurker. I'm so sorry to see so many new people here, but this thread was a godsend in the weeks that followed my first MMC in June and subsequent MC in August. I'm sorry that so many are Going through such a tough time right now.

We're still in the TTC journey and AF got me yesterday, which is only the second cycle since my second MC but over a period of 14 weeks as my cycles are irregular to say the least. I did think yesterday that AF was the start of a new cycle and had lots of positivity about this time would be our time and that DH and I are both off over Christmas and will have lots of time to DTD etc!! But the reality is, it hurt like hell. My first due date is 8th Jan, due to my very long cycles it's unlikely I will have a BFP before then.

Tonight we went to DH works
Christmas party. One of his colleagues wives is pregnant, a few weeks behind where I should be. I'm disappointed that I couldn't hold back the tears, I couldn't make small talk and I resented her very existence. I know it's not her fault but I resented that her baby is growing and mine didn't life is so unfair and MC is just shit. DH was great and even offered to go straight home, but I consoled myself with wine which very smugly knew this woman couldn't indulge. Please tell me I'm Not a complete bitch and totally unreasonable. It hurt me More than I ever could have realised and the envy was unbelievable.

Apologies for the pity party, me me me post but there are few
People In this world who could ever comprehend the feelings that MC brings.

Thoughts are with you mooley. So sorry for your loss. Take care of yourself. X

mooley so sorty to hear of your loss. You've found an amazing group of ladies here, so wise and lovely. There's no easy way through, it's a horrid horrid thing that's happened to you. Be kind to yourself, take the time you need and come here any time you need.

Welcome and sorry to see you here mooley

Hi ladies hope you don't mind me joining.

I started bleeding yesterday morning at 10+5 and went to the EPAU. They scanned me and discovered that the sac was only measuring 6 weeks. Utterly devastated.

Bleeding got worse this morning and by the afternoon (in the middle of Tesco) the cramping was unbearable. DH drove me home (left DD with my mum who was shopping!) and over the following couple of hours I miscarried.

I feel lost, empty and utterly devastated. Not sure what to do now. I did call the hospital and they said to come in if I was bleeding through pads every 20 mins. I wasn't and I'm sure I passed everything as after the last big clot (sorry tmi!) the pain disappeared completely.

Will call midwife on Monday morning but just not sure what to do!

Am really sorry for everyone's loss. It really sucks! Lots of and

Oh guy so sorry to hear about your dad, how awful to have all these things at once. Gin definitely needed, and lots of and . None of this is your fault. Lots of TLC
jupiter don't listen to her, you poor poor thing. You're an amazing strong woman to try to sort things out. Much respect!
Hospital phoned, hcg at 91 so cancelled scan and said get more bloods done next week. Presuming that's good!

Hi all, thanks for the positive messages.

MrsJ your colleague is a cunt. Ignore ignore ignore. Some people are just fucking believable.

MrsC I'm so sorry your still slightly in limbo. It's so hard. Hope you have some answers soon.

So my dad is really poorly. It's cancer and it's very advanced. Just diagnosed a few days ago although it is the result I expected. He's having major major surgery this week. I'm at their house now and it's so awful being here. Don't know how to help.

This last month can just fuck right off. Christmas can fuck off too.

I could really do with some good news. We're not ttc this month just because we felt it would be good to wait to make sure my cycle was back on track. Plus I'm consoling myself with a lot of gin at the moment. I do want to get pg soon... So much. Desperately. But I don't know. So much going on. It's actually a really hard decision.

Hi new to this site and of course this thread but my message is for Guy I had a similar thing happen my pregnancy stopped at 7 weeks and my gyno gave me an option of having a d&c or doing it naturally. I chose naturally cuz frankly hospital freak me out but I was 9 wks when I was confirmed that it had stopped and had the natural mc and what would of been 12 wks at home on 2 Tylenol hope this helps

Thanks allthequeens but sorry to hear about the letter, that is really insensitive of them to invite you to the pregnancy unit. At my hospital there is a joint unit for early pg and gynae - I would assume they would invite a woman to the latter after a mc or for further investigations.

Aww Msjupiter, that's awful. I did not see your post about what happened but anyone who reacts like that after you explained is an arse and not worth another thought. God that makes me really angry!!! How dare she. Some people just have no idea at all.

Hello to everyone and sorry to those joining us. I'm grumpy tonight as I have had a looonnnnggg week and just want a soak with a glass of wine. Unfortunately we have to go to a drinks party and I am designated driver. Super. On the upside though if I get my turn out the way tonight that's me done for the next few weeks as there are 6 of us to take turns.

I came home from work today to find a follow up appointment for the pregnancy assessment unit at the larger hospital. slightly thoughtless in its title but I assume this is of or investigative blood tests. Also not a great deal of notice and I'm flat out in court at this time of year. I'm going to try and go but if it's the same consultant as last time I will be straight out the door.

I will catch up properly tomorrow but thinking of you all.

Hi everyone and sorry to those who have joined us. It's been a busy week as DS has been poorly which while horrible has been a distraction. Just a nasty cough/cold but hard for a toddler, sleepless nights etc. It also meant I didn't have to go into work for full days which helped the transition back.

My bleeding has now almost stopped (day 14) so I guess I will test this week and maybe start thinking about ttc again or at least dtd - it has been a while now. It has been interesting to read others' experiences of the wtf cycle.

I just went into the cafe where I work (I am off today) and there is a girl who has blanked me since I snapped at her a few weeks ago, when I had first started bleeding and she didn't tell me my mum had come in to see me - she was waiting an hour before I realised as I work in the back office. I decided to explain why I had snapped that day and try to make amends, so I told her the whole truth about what had happened and that ultimately I had had a mc. She basically laughed in my face and told me she had no sympathy. I left and cried in the car park. I feel so stupid for opening up to her and showing some vulnerability but I wanted to explain and sort things out, it's horrible working with someone who isn't speaking to you and although I shouldn't have snapped I kind of assumed she would take some responsibility too and it would be a fairly easy thing to sort. She's obviously been harbouring a lot of anger about what happened and no matter what I had told her she would have thrown it back at me. I am pretty devastated.

Awww mrsconfusion I hope you get your results soon.

I had a bad morning, it was DHs first day back at work after compassionate leave. We work on the same team so everyone knows what's going on.

Haven't been doing too well by myself (still In my dressing gown) but I just did a test and it's nearly negative! I mean, if things were the other way round I'd convince myself it's an early positive but it's going the right way! Now I just have to wait for this brown spotting nonsense to stop, hope these pimples on my neck clear up and seduce DH!

Right I'm going to get dressed

Just realised I've been updating wrong thread

Today is 3 weeks since passing sac in mc (at 7 weeks), did test this morning, still positive grrrr so phoned gynae ward, spoke to nurse, then to doc, then went up there for bloods (2 hr wait not ideal), should get results tomorrow but they've booked scan for Monday anyway. Then had to dash back to work, get festive face on for team Xmas quiz and dinner (I head up team on 20 so lots of people to convince). Utterly wiped out. Why isn't this over yet????

Guy i've just got my 1st period after mc (and it's super heavy!) and it was exactly 5 weeks since 1st bleed of the mc.

I'v also tortured myself with wondering if it was anything i did. We traveled to London the heartbeat stopped and i keep thinking, 'if i'd have just stayed home and rested'.. but how was i to know? With my DS i didn't know i was pregnant and went on a big sunday session of drinking for DP's birthday at 4 weeks ish and he's a perfectly healthy little boy. I guess it's just bad luck.

Struggling with the emotion of the first af as i really wanted to conceive in the wtf cycle and i'm worried i wont conceive very quickly. Only positive is that i can track ovulation, follow the sperm meets egg theory and have some control. When we did this last time i got a BFP the first month, only issue is no drinking over Christmas 'just incase' but don't want the family thinking it's because i'm pregnant again!

Sorry to see more people joining, it really is the absolute pits.

Mine was a 25 day wtf cycle.
Hope all are ok. Off to read back.

My first af was 24 days after first red blood so it sounds like it could come any time.
I think most of us have questioned why it happened and if we could have done anything differently. The day my mc started I had had a particularly difficult and physical couple of weeks with dd, especially the day it happened and I couldn't help wondering if that had an effect but logically I know it didn't. We were all just very unlucky.

I'm 27 days from '1st red blood' so AF due anytime soon. I've had pregnancy symptoms of tingly nipples, bloating and some nausea but now have (tmi) pink/brown sticky cm. Had a blood pregnancy test today, results Monday, but likely AF will be here tomorrow. Confusing signals.

First AF for most recent wtf cycle was 24 days after erpc. I bled lightly for about a week after erpc. Weird discharge rather than blood really. It was about the same after my first natural mc. My cycles Are usually pretty clockwork around 27 or 28 days. Both times I still felt my usual ov pain but had a shorter luteal phase. Not sure if I really ovulated. First cycle can be annovulatory and I never checked.

guy please don't think it was anything you did that caused the mc. With my first pregnancy I thought AF had arrived, went out and got hideously drunk, only to get my BFP 2 days later - that pregnancy was completely trouble-free and DD is now a very bright 4.5 year old!

As for first AF, I got mine 3 weeks after I'd stopped bleeding from the erpc.

Guy, I know what you mean about thinking was there something you shouldn't have done but please don't feel guilty.
If you look at my previous posts you'll see what I do for a living and I didn't tell them I was pregnant for a few weeks, in that time I had physical fights, spent a lot of time in hospitals, came in to contact with addicts and people with very infection possible. I worked night shifts and I stupidly trusted that the hospital would know the importance of testing my thyroid levels and not leave it six weeks with no results.

Logically I know that the likelihood of any of this causing the miscarriage is slim but next time, and please God let there be a next time soon, I will tell my employers straight away and I will go to my GP for blood tests.