ttc after mc- the best shit place to be! #2

MsJ what a complete pyscho, she is the one that is going to come out of this looking ridiculous. Hard I know but try not to let it get to you.

MrsJ what the FUCK is your colleague's problem?!

Allthe that is great news. Well done for speaking up. I wonder if that is the standard reply or if that consultant has a reputation.

Gr33dy sorry you are having an additional worry and uncertainty to deal with. This is hard enough without that.

Amyy I hope this cycle goes well for you. It's so hard I know when you are sort of not-not trying, your brain can't help hoping though.

Hade sorry you are joining us but very best of luck on the 2ww.

I received a copy of the letter sent to my GP today. It didn't say anything new but said I had tested positive for strep b. It doesn't sound like they thought that was the cause though.

The colleague who upset me at the weekend made a formal grievance against me and emailed my boss and the chairman of the board, including telling them about my mc. So today at work was fun. Thankfully I had written out exactly what happened and was able to give my side. My boss was really nice and couldn't believe the colleague was doing this either. Talk about kicking someone when they are down.

Great you've been able to change consultants allthe. From the nurses reaction it sounds like a common request!

I called the Dr's to rearrange swab because they won't do it when I'm on, and asked if hcg test was back. It is but the dr needs to call me about it. Wtf? If its neg why wouldn't they be able to tell me? So now worried its not neg so why am I bleeding? Any thoughts? And I've got another cyst. And a achy hip. My body is broken.

That's great news allthe and well done you for asking!

Hello ladies,

Hope you are all well today? Thinking of you all.

Af seems to be stopping thankfully, although I don't know how I feel about ttc this month. I had eventually decided on trying ASAP but I think this month we will just 'wait and see', if it happens I will be over the moon but I don't want to add pressure onto us both. Then again, the way my mind is working lately I will have probably changed my mind again by tomorrow!

Not sure if I have missed anything but have we had any more BFPs this month? And to the previous BFP'ers hope you are both well!

Hello all, just a quick update whilst I grab a quick lunch and I will catch up properly at weekend. Mega busy at work sorting out hundreds of Christmas contact arrangements, just what I need!!
I had the blood appointment yesterday at the bigger hospital and it was the nurse who I saw when I had first MC and a male trainee doctor. Both were lovely and I was brave enough at the end to ask if I could change consultant. She looked me straight in the eye and said "absolutely and you need give no explanation", so I have been changed to another consultant with immediate effect. I almost skipped to the car which is saying something given the wind just now!!
Plan is to just keep ttc and these tests will take around 6 weeks. If I get a positive I have to call nice nurse and she will do a scan at 6 weeks. AF due Friday and not really been trying this month so we can start afresh December. Christmas spirit and all that!!

I am very grumpy so know af is imminent but a small part of me still hopes for nothing on Friday. I have a spooky family history where every baby on my side has been born in August, ie, grandparents, mum, dad, me and 2 siblings and all my sisters 3 children. I was the same last year at this time!
Thinking of you all and many thanks for reading.

Thanks Treaclepie

So having spent at least an hour of google time this morning it seems I should be trying to persuade OH to dtd again tonight, any ideas without him feeling like hes performing to a timetable lol? xx

Thanks Haribo, i really really hope so.

Sorry you've had to join us hadepop, the ladies here are brilliant for support x

Hiya can I join please?
Had MMC ending with an ERPC at what would have been 11+ 2 on 11/11...I am 34 & it was my first pregnancy :-(
Anyway after - HPT & HCG

eggs i'm sorry AF got you. I cried all day the day AF got me after my WTF cycle, it's so hard to handle. I'm on CD5 now though and i'm feeling more positive and in control, i hope your okay xx

Treacle thinking of you. I really really want this to be your month.

Sorry to see new faces here and i hope your holding up okay.

I feel like when my AF came it also brought with it some really raw emotions from the miscarriage. I would have loved to have known the sex so i could say 'he' or 'she' instead of 'it'. I've been questioning why i got as far as 9 weeks before it all stopped, why not earlier if it wasn't a viable pregnancy? I've had some fab support but other than DP it's become old news and i'm still struggling. MC is so shit. I started ttc straight away because i had too and i'll continue to until i'm pregnant again. I was telling DP 'the plan' and he just said, 'Tell me when you need me, i'm there'. At least he's onboard!

Thanks fifi

My SIL looked at me like I was crazy I am a bit But its just the ruminating element of my bipolar disorder rearing its bloody ugly head again as it tends to do in times of stress. I'm very aware of when I am doing it but it doesn't seem to do any good

DH & I discussed it this evening and he doesn't know how he feels at the moment either. SIGH.

Cross posted Stocking then my next post disappeared. It will happen, you will have a beautiful baby with your DH.

Cross posted Stocking. It is natural to analyse past events (ie delays in taking Mirena out) but unfortunately they can't be changed. Looking to the future, everything is going to get much better from here.

Guy it really is a tough time let alone receiving the devastating news of your dad's illness.
It really is a grieving process post MC, coupled with hormones and shattered plans. I can completely understand your desperation to be pregnant again. The time between cycles and ovulation seems to drag. It makes things more difficult in that actively TTC you are acknowledging that you are no longer pregnant. I just wanted to be pg again immediately so that I didn't have to think about it.
There is only a 4% chance of it happening again. Don't apologise for moaning, this is the place for it.
Stocking you'll be in your wtf cycle so just go for it whenever the urge takes you. It may or may not happen this cycle but will do again soon.

I feel like I don't ever want to be pregnant ever again.

Getting/being pregnant/giving birth/being a Mum is all I know. Its the one thing I have confidence in and its been well and truly shattered.

My OU materials were delivered today. This is stupid but I feel like, with the MC, me being anxious about a baby anyway due to meds I have to take, the fact that I had to re-arrange having my Mirena out 3 times due to things being out of my control (emergency dental appointment, child sick and child being in surprise assembly) and my degree materials landing in my lap today that maybe DH & I just aren't meant to have a child of our own.

I feel that need to be pregnant too. I feel very empty today :(

Someone I was close to on here who had a due date of a week before me had her baby today and it's hit me hard.
Ho hum :(
I'm so fed up of moaning.

Quiet here today

allchat have you seen a dr about your early mc? Could it have been incomplete even though it was early. My bleeding stopped and started a bit with 11 week mc. Perhaps see if you're getting a neg test and if not try and see someone?

Thanks for your thoughts and support ladies. I just feel numb and on autopilot. I'll definitely be TTC this month - sod the downsides to an autumn baby - at least we'd have one!

guy so sorry you've got the additional stress of your dad being very poorly.

stocking you just have to wait til you're ready. My OH recently wrote a short story ( hes a copy writer) on mc from a male perspective and he commented how he can't believe how women just want to get back on TTC. For me I just feel empty and need to be pg again. I have a nearly 6 yr old and don't want the age gap any bigger. Make sure you're both ready.
Hugs to all.

Morning everyone, thank you so much for the supportive welcome, it really has made me feel better.

My bleeding has stopped now after exactly a week. Now to get back on the ttc horse (dp).

I feel the same guy and that's 8 months on from my mc.
Sending you hugs.

Hi ladies. Just jumping on placemarking as the bleeding from my mc stopped yesterday. And am now wondering what to do. In terms of TTC after mc, how do you do it? I have anxiety and take meds for it but have had to double my beta blockers to get through this week. All I know at this point is that I want to be physically close to my DH, we're very affectionate and obvs haven't been able to DTD but I need to this weekend, I can't stand not being intimate with him for this length of time God bless the Mirena for lack of periods for years and I'm obviously aware that DTD could end with a BFP. Which is what I want, I still want to continue TTC I'm just not sure how I can handle. I apologise for talking such utter rubbish and babbling.

for you all.