ttc after mc- the best shit place to be! #2

*stressy even

Yeah im a very stress person and work is crazy atm. To be honest though when I conceived last time I was in the same state so try not to worry.

Stocking, i feel the same. The thought of mc scares me but I'm 7 months on now and so desperate to be pregnant again that I'm regretting the one or two months we didn't try very hard due to worrying.

Also, one of my most exciting symptoms this month is that I've gone off those lindt truffles! I normally adore them.

My DDs are at their Dads this weekend. I am supposed to be sorting various household things out, doing some baking (which I am crap at and have brought stuff do it with this weekend to keep me occupied) and general Christmas sorting.

Instead, however, I am in my pyjamas with my robe on, watching Elementary and scoffing Lindt truffles.

Sigh. I want to jump my DH but every time the thought crosses my mind I instantly panic that I will get pregnant. It makes me because a few weeks ago I wanted so badly to have a baby and now I don't, and I know its not "being pregnant" that scares me but the thought of another MC that does.

I didn't either really treacle but it's the small part of you that hangs on isn't it. I'm trying to be positive. Have a little bit of time off over Xmas so can be more relaxed and less tired. I do wonder if stress is a huge factor for me. I have had a really hard year work wise, like when you can almost feel your blood pressure going up. I don't suppose that helps at all.

So sorry allthequeens :(

I went to my Xmas meal yesterday. I was 8dpo so only had a few drinks.
There was a colleague who is about 13 weeks pregnant there. Gah.

I haven't got high hopes for a bfp to be honest. Probs get af tomorrow.

Morning ladies, hoping everyone has a good weekend.

Af got me yesterday, and a member of staff announced their unexpected bfp, sigh. That actually upset me more than I expected it to.

Works Xmas do tonight, will have to watch my vino intake! I am in the mood for a drink but probably best not to tonight as I will no doubt start crying.

What's everyone else up to?

Maybe I should try baking a cake today northdownmummy because we cracked under the TTC pressure last night and got a positive opk this morning .

We've managed to hold it together this far but now my head is spinning. Got a busy day so hopefully that will help me get through today. Just feel like such a bloody failure.

Morning ladies!

Feeling really positive at the moment, think I might just be turning a corner. Work is mental, in fact I'm up and working already but loads of fun family stuff going on. Spent last night baking a birthday cake for my dd was a lovely way to spend time with my DH. Lots of giggles and fun is taking a bit of pressure off.

Positive OPK on Thursday so fingers crossed

Ah right, thanks treacle I shall do that tomorrow morning. Flying visit to the board as I have 23 month old DNiece here and my DD who's almost 4 and they are a combination of whirlwind/hurricane this afternoon DNiece is the main reason I am/was broody - DH and SIL are the double of each other and DNiece looks like them both. She's currently stood looking at my tree saying "Pretties"

Called emergency gynae to update them and they would have signed off with a hcg below 25. Also I asked if I got pregnant again what to do and she said GP can refer there for early monitoring. Thats made me feel a bit better! Just to sort out the cysts now.....

fifi sorry AF arrived, but glad you're not feeling too bad.
cakebaker I've just seen your post. How sad.

So dr called and my hcg is 11 so not considered negative and I need to go back for another. How have I had a period if I can't ovulate FFS? So much conflicting info! On a plus side they fitted me in today to check my cyst.

I've just read your post Cakebaker I'm so sorry to hear about your son. I cannot begin to imagine how heart breaking it must have been for you to lose him.

guy I had an erpc as I had an mmc at 10 wks but things had stopped developing about 6 wks. I was offered all the options but consultant did say erpc would be best as my body was doing nothing at all to do things naturally and I too told them to jog on about medical management as really didn't like the sound of that, but each to their own. In the end as it was a twin pregnancy it was felt erpc was best as there was quite a lot to come out, sorry for tmi. Very glad I had the erpc, was quick and for me I was glad it was physically over.

Sadly, here I am having lost my son at 27 weeks nearly 7 weeks ago. So I'm lurking here wishing you all sticky bfps rather than ttc'ing.

It looks like I can have plenty of Brie, pate and wine this Christmas. No BFP for me this month.
Strangely I don't feel nearly as gutted as I did the last time AF arrived.
This was my first proper cycle after my wtf cycle and MMC in October.
Just thought is post to let other people know that it does get easier. It definitely is the first AF following a MC that is heart breaking and makes you realise that you really aren't pg.
I know it's partly my fault that we didn't get our BFP this month as we didn't try enough this month, I just wanted to take a more relaxed approach.
I know that I'll be cuddling my new baby by this time next year.

Great news brummie x

Yes mummytogoldie its normal, sadly. Try taking spatone sachets available from supermarkets to increase iron and a multi vitamin for a bit. It can take a few months to physically feel better.

Feeling a bit down tonight :( Still git brown dis charge (11 days after mc) and just generally feel wiped out and absolutely shattered :( really getting me down, is this normal? X

Do you mean once you've miscarried? You should test to check it's negative. That way any future pregnancy won't be confused with the miscarriage.

I was wondering about re-testing after MC. I haven't. Few friends said I should. Unsure why?!

Elley you are not being at all unreasonable to feel like that. I am know how lucky I am to have DS but now he is two, announcements are starting and I am finding that hard. There was a scan picture on fb during the time I was recovering from the mc and anyone announcing now will be due around the time I should have been. I am still pleased for them but I can't help feeling that stab of pain. Especially being older at 38 and feeling that time is running out, it feels so unfair.

I think my bleeding is at an end so I have ordered some pg & ov tests on Amazon. Not really looking forward to testing.

Evening all.

elleybear that's a lot to have to deal with when you're going through MC and ttc. Completely understandable.

I was really good last pregnancy not drinking and reducing caffeine and still MC so I'm not completely abstaining, just not getting wrecked.

Today I had complete baby brain, despite no pregnancy or current baby, and lost my car. I had no idea the Trafford centre had 2 multi stories and had parked on the other one to my friend and was rather panicking until we worked it out!

AF still with me so no dtd yet. We've always done it b4, but now I've found out there's a slightly increased risk of infection with it so that's off the cards now too.

Nearly weekend. Woohoo.

Stocking, you and I sound very similar!
Thank you for that, I'll just have a few drinks and try not to worry. After all, ive been trying over a year and only got pregnant once.

elley thats totally normal, a lot of women I know are announcing their 2nd/3rd pregnancies at the moment and I'm but mostly and

Christ thats a long post!