ttc after mc- the best shit place to be! #2

Guy ... That makes sense! That would be too cruel to think I was testing positive for something I'm hoping I can put behind me.

Stocking ... I'm sure it wasn't your intention, but I've just had a right giggle at your post. It warmed my heart that you and your OH did it just because ... And not because it's time to try. Gives me great hope

UpNorth sorry you're here. As far as I know you can ttc as soon as you're ready. Only thing is you must make sure you have had a negative pregnancy test to avoid the hideous doubt you might experience if you get a positive in a month and don't know if it is a new pregnancy or still the mc. I've decided to just wait one cycle to ttc just so I can feel sure that my body has healed properly. There isn't any evidence to suggest you should wait, or any to suggest you shouldn't do just see how you feel.

I definitely did not want to be doing this till at least February, I just thought, if the Mirena naffed up my womb lining so its not strong enough to hold an implantation, that we should give it a few months to "recover" (as suggested by my GP and a quick Google confirms as much) and then try... Now I am crapping myself and kicking myself. It might be sticky, it might not. Sigh. What an idiot.

UpNorth So sorry I have no answers re physically waiting, its only been 2 weeks since I had a MC at 4/5 weeks. Bleeding very heavy for the first 3 days and then tailed off over the next 2 days after that. I'm sure one of the lovely ladies on here will be able to advise.

DH & DTD last night I had no intention, mentally, of having unprotected sex any time soon, yet last night we just... Did. I feel very silly, being a married woman of 28 years old, surely I should be able to control myself?! Apparently not though MAP not an option, OPK shows clearly that I am ovulating/have ovulated (will know more with tomorrows OPK) so I guess we're on the 2WW now to see if anythings going to come of it.

Hi all! Like SashaKerr I'm warming my seat for 2015.
1st pregnancy, 1st MC over the weekend at 7weeks5days. The wind has truly been taken out of my sails. But looking forward to joining you all in the highs and lows of TTC soon!

Quick question - I opted to go home and let the MC take its course rather than pills or surgery, scan in 2 weeks to make sure all is well. When is sensible to resume trying again? I've read conflicting things about doing it soon. I'm no where near mentally ready yet, but in terms of physically - do I have to wait a whole cycle? Or can we dive on in there as soon as I feel ready?

Hi Ladies

stockings that looks like a nice clear positive to me. I found that the time of day made a big difference for me - early evening gave the best results

I'm now in the 2ww again, Not feeling too hopeful this month but strangely not to stressed about it.

I do have a question though.
I have a constant ache - not really pain, but always there, in where I'm guessing my left ovary is.
I've realised that this is something I notice every month from just after I ovulate until AF arrives. It was there in my latest pregnancy up until about 8 weeks but I can remember ever noticing it before ( then again I never really paid as much attention as I do now!!)

Has anyone else noticed anything similar? Trying to refrain from Dr Google cause there are bound to be lots of scare stories

I love FF - until I paid for the Premium Version and now I just sit looking at it like this

Hi ladies!

I am so far behind on the thread so sorry, I will have a proper read through when I get enough time. I have had a super busy weekend! I had my works night out which I was dreading as I was so looking forward to having a bump and being able to get away early :( nevermind.. it didn't go as bad as expected.

I've started using an app called 'My Days' and according to that I should be ovulating Wednesday, although I feel like I had ov pains yesterday so we DTD. I'm not so keen on the app though, does anyone use another app that would track ov?

Anyway hope you're all well. I'll have a read back through later on and hope I see some BFPs! And hopefully no newbies :(

x

mortified It took a Clearblue Digital to get a BFP last month, I don't hold much stock in cheapo pregnancy tests, did 3 different ones before Clearblue.

Totally at how dark that line is!

Sasha :( I'm sorry. X

Stocking, I never even get a line that dark! I've never had a pos OPK cheapy and the cheapy pregnancy tests where barely showing a line even though I knew my hcg was really high. I just think they don't work for some.

Oh Sasha Big hugs. UMNetty ones, obvs.

So... Heres the OPK I have just done. I've never had one that dark before usually barely visible. Cervical mucus/position/texture all indicate fertile time.

Well and truly threw caution to the wind last night by the looks of it!

Stocking I have used those (and just bought a new bundle). It says on them a faint line is no good but I think that just means you've missed the actual moment of ovulation. If it has changed from nothing one day to a faint line the next then I would think ov has or is just about to take place.

Do you test at different times of day? Apparently the most likely time for a strong result is the afternoon, not FMU. But lots of people test two or three (or 5!) x a day on their likely days.

stocking I've no idea on opks but sorry you're upset. Conflicting emotions are shit.

chasing glad to hear you've been signed off and feeling a bit better.

Ladies: can I pick your brains re OPKs? I have a bag of them, One Test eBay cheapies. I only ever get faint lines on them. Never one as strong as the test line. Does this mean anything? According to FF I should be ovulating around now just DTD with no protection and well, one thing led to another this evening, its the first time since the MC and I'm lying in bed crying wtf DH is thankfully fast asleep and not witnessing my snotty meltdown.

chasing and I think that is entirely normal and its good that you can differentiate - its okay, more than okay to feel the way you do.

I got so angry last week when DHs friend said she'd reported her exDH and his newDP for drug us, mcat to be more specific, and she is pregnant using drugs, hence friend reporting them. I almost Hulked out. How can someone be so bloody careless with the life growing inside them?!

Hey all. Hope everyone's okish. Year from Hell gets worse. DFIL is waiting in A and E for a psych assessment. To be honest, I'm glad AF showed up this month. Starting to come to terms with the fact that it might not happen and it's not the end of the world if it doesn't. Whilst there's no such thing as a perfect time at the moment it would be not far off the worst time. So, I think I'm finally a year after the MC in the right place to actually calm down and try again without it being a BIG DEAL. It's not the end of the world whatever happens. Good luck all and let's see some bfps or happy endings of whatever type!

Hello everyone.

Sorry to see so many people feeling down. It's my work Christmas party tonight and I'm not going.

On the plus side I had a completely negative test today less than two weeks after th erpc, so at least this is a completely clean slate.

Has anyone used opks on their wtf cycle? I can't even guess what my normal cycle would be as the miscarriage was straight off of the pill, so when would you recommend testing?! I can't temp because of shift work

Bloody bfn and temp drop (not below coverline yet) at 10dpo.
Af should arrive today. So fed up :(

I love Lindt too! Especially straight from the fridge. I believe they also have medicinal properties

Another lindt chocolate fan here!

Glad you're feeling happier northdown and sorry some of us aren't Allthequeenshorses, stocking and treacle.
I definitely want to try again asap, but like stocking the fear of another mc is strong.

I have a great brave face but find myself crying a bit when I am on my own atm.

I've only recently discovered them and I am sure I am going to be putting on half a stone due to eating them