ttc after mc- the best shit place to be! #2

Coming to the end of first AF after MC today. Think I have an abscess on my gum. Taking another urine sample in tomorrow to the GPs. Physically I feel like a bag of crap. Emotionally... I have no idea if we'll continue TTC.

Ah I see, yeah it could be... Will have to stock my work bag full of pads and tampons just in case it comes when I'm there. Dreading it but also want it over with so I can start tracking my cycles and ttc again.

That's interesting Chasing, I haven't heard that but thanks for the heads up! Not had any bleeding/spotting for a few days now but been feeling very AF-y. Will ask at my scan if ovaries showing any signs of gearing up for ovulation.

Had a lovely friend and her family surprise me by showing up and taking me out for lunch today. Was nice to get out for a bit and just unwind.

Had quite a heavy bleed and cramping last night and today. Hard to describe, but different from AF pain. I guess that is to due with the ERPC procedure and everything being bruised/inflamed.
Controlling the pain with paracetamol and a hot water bottle, but still doesn't feel nice.

Good luck for those having scans, I hope everything is ok. Has anyone heard from Brummie? Sending hugs her way.

Guy, have read that first AF after mc can be very very heavy and painful. Am dreading it but also want it to come so I can start ttc again.

Epskie I also have my scan tomorrow to make sure everything has passed. FX for you, let me know how you get on.

guy thankyou I feel silly for thinking the way I do but can't help reflecting on it in that way.

The situation isn't helped by DP who hates talking about ttc as he thinks we aren't in the position to ba having a baby and when he had his son it was all arse about face ( and his sons mother can only be described as a jackle and Hyde mimic!) so next time round he wants to do it 'properly'. Poor man doesn't get the my hormones and emotions can't wait for 3 years until he feels ready

Woke up feeling like my womb was swollen today. Not getting hopes up as an finished yesterday but we haven't been to careful when dtd and was t taking pill due to af. Feel really naughty for keeping my fingers crossed and dreaming that this will end in a BFP.

Thank you for your replies

A sad welcome to bumblepops & mrsb
We didn't not TTC in the WTF cycle but had no success. OH wasn't keen but the dr said there was no need to wait a cycle, just until the bleeding had stopped.

Hi everybody, just checking in.I've got my scan tomorrow to check that everything has passed - fingers crossed for me. I'm so keen to try again straight away but so nervous too! I've read a lot of conflicting opinions about ttc in the wtf cycle - any body here have any experience of it? Many Thanks in advance xx thoughts to all who are sad or struggling xx

bumble 'young and stupid and didn't deserve to go full term'; please remove thoughts like this from your head. That isn't how it works. Plenty of young stupid people, or accidental pregnancies or pregnancies spent smoking and drinking go to full term. Equally plenty of perfectly timed more mature pregnancies don't. No one deserves to mc. Mc is just a thing which happens and there is nothing anyone can do or be to change it. Out of the several million sperm which are released, some of them are bound to not work properly. The cells don't divide properly and that embryo will never develop into a pregnancy- it never would have been a baby. It's a terrible thing to go through but it is just a thing which happens, regardless of circumstances.
I understand the feeling though. I got pregnant first cycle off the pill and was surprised. I had had a few drinks the weekend before and definitely felt shocked and not ready to be pregnant. When I mc at 11 weeks I was devastated and had the feeling that I hadn't deserved the pregnancy because I hadn't wanted it enough initially. But it just doesn't work like that.

Sorry mrsb. Thinking of you.
Re trying again, as far as I am aware there is no evidence to say you shouldn't- it's just up to you. I did lots of googling and the main reason to wait is to be able to date a next pregnancy. I found some people who had been told that after erpc, the uterine lining is thin and could cause a mc if you didn't wait a few months. But there is absolutely zero evidence to back this up whatsoever and it's is a theory which doesn't make sense to me as you shed the lining every month anyway! Personally I decided to wait a month because I wanted to feel sure my body and mind has healed. Also I guess I felt that even though there is no evidence that you shouldn't try again first cycle, if I DID get pregnant first cycle and mc again, I would not be able to forgive myself for not waiting a month iyswim. It's totally up to you though- whenever you feel ready.

Hi ladies.
Well, my ending to 2014 was rathe shit...I had an ERPC on New Years eve due to my MMC. 2014 was supposed to be our year, married in August, BFP first time around in November.....left feeling tired and sore and just plain sorry for myself.
I know it's one day at a time, but it's hit DH and I physically, emotionally...all of the above.
I do want to try again though, I just worry what if it takes a long time,what if it happens again - all reasonable.,silly thoughts for going through this mess.

What are thoughts of waiting for my first AF and then trying? Is there any harm in TTC before then? I think we might just see how I feel when I stop bleeding and go from there. Maybe not actively try, but just go with it?
Lots of mixed feelings at the moment.

I'm been off work for 3 weeks now and have another week off - that's not helping with the stress either as they've not ever been overly understanding.

Here's hoping 2015 is a better year for us all. Step by step really.

Hi all, new to the page and thread.

Thinking about ttc not actively doing anything about it as DP is being horrifically practical and not listening to my hormones or emotions and I feel like a cow for being mean to him when we talk about this subject.

I've had 2 MC's first I was young and stupid so didn't deserve to go full term. 2nd was last August and didn't know I was pg just knew when ad turns up it wasn't normal. Doctors refused to believe me finally went to hosp and the confirmed I was right. Since then I'm stupidly obsessed with getting pg.

Constantly feel down when af comes but when it's late I shit myself! I'm 22 DP is 27 and has a DS already and it's got to the point I can't go to see DS-S because I get stupidly emotional that we don't have our own little family.

Sorry to hear that we are all here for the same reason thoughts are with you all. Hoping for BFP's this year xx

chasing If cycle is back on track AF due monday so I'll wait til Thursday when I'm off work. Got symptoms for pg of sensitive nipples and symptoms of AF with the red mist.
guy I feel like you. We have been lucky and conceived quickly 3 times and the thought of it taking longer is really hard. I so feel for couples ttc for months and years unsuccessfully.

Thinking of you ladies. Brummie I hope you got a bed.
I agree with the bus discussion. I feel like i don't really want to post on there anymore either.
I'm sooo tired.
Obviously hoping it's pregnancy but I'm only a few dpo. Not completely sure as we've been incredibly relaxed this cycle.

Gr33dyeggs don't feel left out of the January bus- I'm on there too! There are lots of first timers but also plenty of familiar names.

brummie still thinking of you. Hoping you are sorted today.

Day 3 of first period and it is the worst period I've ever had. Heavy, painful. Feeling rough. Still pleased it is here though- and 15 days after I think I ovulated so hopefully cycle isn't too screwy. Think we'll start to ttc from now. Have always conceived quickly so not sure how I will cope if it takes a while. Really want to stay relaxed about it though. I've never done any tracking and I don't think I want to start! I'm a bit obsessive by nature so have to be careful what I start.
Hope your all doing ok.

How is everyone doing? Feeling better or worse as festivities end?

I'm a bit down again thinking should have had a bump while taking decs down. Weird what triggers things.

I'm cd25 and not even sure if I ovulated this month. But still symptom spotting and wondering when I'd test. I tried joining the Jan bus, but felt a little left out of it so haven't posted since. Paranoia too!

Brummie I hope you got a bed today. The waiting must be awful.
Allthefours thinking of you this week.

Oh Brummie, that's terrible. I really feel for you. It was very touch and go as to whether I'd have my surgery for my ectopic on the day I was admitted (due to competition for theatre slots as opposed to beds) and the waiting without knowing whether it would go ahead or not was agony (I definitely think it was the worst part) - I was just desperate to have it over and done with.

Thinking of you. Keeping everything crossed that it goes ahead tomorrow.

Hi all. Well it didn't happen today - got cancelled as there are just no beds at Worcester. Plenty of theatre slots but no beds. Wards are full of medical patients - as its winter.

Got cancelled at 5pm after I'd eaten nothing for 21 hours!!!!! So chowed down a Dominos pizza, wedges and half a Terry's choc Orange. DP made a right face when I saud I wanted Dominos but let's face it, what was he going to say? No???

I start on nil by mouth again at midnight and hopefully get a bed tomorrow. And yes, I've signed all the paperwork for testing.

The waiting is agony