ttc after mc- the best shit place to be! #2

I was phasing a smaller age gap too. But I get such a lot of comfort from my dd- I think this would have been a million times harder without her.

Big hugs treacle. It sucks.

Had my work Christmas lunch yesterday. There was a girl there announcing that she was due in June. She'd just had her healthy 12 week scan last week. That should have been me. I'm mostly ok with what happened- fairly philosophical about it- but that made me feel a bit sad.

Oh treacle hun thinking of you! What a difficult time it must be but we are here X

Thanks chasing how are you feeling? Xx

Congrats nic that's a line alright!! How fantastic! Fx for a healthy boring 8 months! :)

Bb so sorry for your loss x

Oh dear ladies :( I've had too much port to come and properly talk to you all.
Stocking, that was lovely of your sister.

Greedy, it will end. It's just a hard time at the moment :(

I am really feeling not being pregnant tonight. Dreading my due date - xmas eve.
Especially now knowing I won't be pregnant. Definitely.

Hi BB01 this thread is a great place for support after MC. How are you doing? I completely agree with the emotions in your post, the past few months have made me more grateful than ever for my DS. I'm very much aware of the increasing age gasp (DS is 4) but in the longer term, a few more months won't make a difference (yes, I am trying to convince myself).
2015 is going to be the year for sticky beans and beautiful babies.
stocking that really is a heartfelt beautiful thing for your sister to have said to you.

Yes guy I mc naturally at 11 weeks. I don't remember what happened after my first mc and I don't think I had a period months (maybe even a year) after DS due to breastfeeding. I had been so regular prior to this. Even had AF 4 weeks from the mc. It all just gets a bit much. Made worse by my 5 yr old seeing the blood because he was brushing his teeth and I wasn't expecting anything untoward so had a wee at the same time.

Sorry your cycles seem a bit screwy gr33dy. I remember after having dd nine took a good couple of months to settle back down so it's probably just normal hormonal nonsense. I'm still in wtf cycle now so can't really give you anything helpful based on that. Remind me, did you mc naturally?

Gr33dyeggs I'm not sure that I can help much but I've found that my cycles have been all over the place since my MMC. My wtf cycle was only 2 weeks long and ended with a light AF. The next cycle I had a +ve OPK on day 18 then spotting 3 days later. AF arrived in style on day 27. I think that our hormones are still settling- I certainly feeling so much better now. I've been taking B6 as it's meant to help regulate hormone levels and EPO.

Ladies I need advice / reassurance!
Monday and today I've had red mucus on wiping - anyone else had this? I'm on cd 11 of 1st cycle after wtf cycle. I'm supposed to be having my swab tomorrow which was postponed from last week coz I was on. And another hcg blood test outstanding too.
When will it all end?!?
Anyone?

BB I know what you mean about already having DC. I have 2 DDs, and I honestly thought my youngest would be my last, and then when me and their Dad split up, I had the Mirena in as I had no intention of having more kids, and my DH was very, very anti-more children considering what he went through with his DS.

I blame SIL for having such a bloody scrummy, adorable, baby (shes almost 2 now) and has made DH & I broody - it hit us all of a sudden over summer, but I was the reluctant one due to my reliance on my MH meds, but have been reassured they pose no danger to a baby.

My DSis said to me yesterday: Please don't stop TTC because you've had a MC. Its awful, but... Look what happens when a pregnancy ends with a healthy baby, all the joy and experiences that brings. And it will happen. You've had that before and you can have it again.

For a ditzy 22YO that is possibly the wisest most profound thing she has ever said (and is a single Mum herself to her 4YO disabled son) and I had a bit of a cry.

I said I felt greedy, that I've got 2, DH has got 2 (he always refers to himself as a father of 2 regardless of the face that youngest DS isn't alive) and we are being greedy, wanting more than our fair share.

Sorry you've found yourself here BB01 but its not a bad place to hang out and drink . The age gap thing isn't as important as we often thing it is. And I was obsessed with a close one. It sucks. But hey ho. I'd be grateful with any age gap these days.

snoopy if you feel you are struggling at work please go back to your gp. It doesn't make you weak or a bad person to need to take time out to look after yourself. Your boss sounds like a right dickhead. Sorry it needs to be said. Don't mean to offend. Today at our Xmas lunch I was reflecting on how glad I am that I took my GPs advice and was signed off for a couple of weeks. I feel stronger for it in dealing with certain situations. Re baby aspirin... Views on taking it differ even between different medical profession peeps. Some take a 'it can't hurt' approach but others believe it can cause implantation issues if you don't have a blood clotting disorder. Comes up on the recurrent mc thread every so often.

brummie great scan news!

nic I can see something. Congratulations!!

Waves at everyone else. Is it the weekend yet?

Thanks for the welcomes! A few familiar faces here which is nice yet sad at the same time. Just been reading through a few posts. Many congrats to those of you with positive results or scans! Really hope they are sticky beans.

Thanks for the reassurance I'm not alone feeling these things, too. It is odd to feel so genuinely happy for someone and yet so sad for yourself and, bugger it, more than a bit jealous too. Esp when someone keeps conceiving by mistake!

I honestly feel more grateful than ever before for DD. I do think mc is very different when you already have a DC. But at the same time I had in my head an idea of the age gap we wanted and it's starting to slip away. And now I know how amazing it is to have a child whereas before I wasn't 100% convinced I'd like it!

Glad to see others are sensibly sipping their vinos. Think I read a Mumsnet phrase once that went something like 'Don't Stop the Wine Until There's a Line'

BB01 sorry to see you here, i remember you from the May thread before i jumped onto the June one. We must have MC'd around the same time and everything your feeling is exactly how i've felt too. I had a good cry yesterday about it which was unexpected, i'm very weepy. No one has mentioned it for weeks now other than DP. Big hugs xx

Congrats nic that's a line to me!!

Brummie so glad you saw a heartbeat, your post made me tear up.

Positive OPK today. I'm excited that i'm ovulating but apprehensive for the journey we are about to embark on. TTC, possible BFP, worried and anxious pregnancy.. It was just exciting last time round.

I'd say so nic89. Congrats! Wishing you a thoroughly uneventful 8 months.

Hey ladies can you help ? Is this a faint BFP ! I look so hard I think I'm seeing things!

What Treacle said about baby aspirin, I made decision to take it. 75mg a day from Boots. It's £1.79 for a month.

Now I have absolutely no idea if the aspirin made a difference or if it was better luck this time round and I guess we'll never know. But I felt if I had a 3rd mc I would kick myself for not taking something that I could buy in Boots.

As it happens for my ERPC they tested the tissue and there was nothing genetically wrong with the baby, it wasn't chromosomal. Therefore had to be me.

My doc wasn't too bothered by me taking it and just said it's one of the first things they look for after 3 mc's but obviously as I hadn't been tested I could still have an mc if sticky blood wasn't the cause.

Thanks for all your kind words though. I think it will seem more real in 2 more weeks when hopefully everything is still ok and little one has grown. Then of course hanging on until 12 weeks

Great news so far brummie

Hugs chasing

A sad welcome to our group BB01 all those things are happening to you! Its perfectly normal. We're here for you to rant at when the rl people think you should have moved on!

Ah thanks everyone, I worded that badly though it was Sunday just gone... so Christmas Eve would be 10dpo! Gah. I doubt it anyway, I'm having sharp pains down in my tummy today and they don't feel like good pains. Its so horrible what MC does to you I can't even get excited at the thought of poas now as my mind wants to stick to 'don't get your hopes up' :(

Brummie Fantastic! Over the moon for you hun! :D

Please can I join?? Had first mc at the end of October. I already have an 18-month-old DD. TTC again but not very actively so far with illness being constantly rife in our household!

I'm actually finding it more sad as I get further away from when the mc happened and further towards the due date. Meanwhile, nobody ever mentions it. Some friends didn't even mention it the first time they saw me after I texted them to say it happened. Did anyone else find that? I'm also noticing that 1) everyone seems to be pg and 2) I swear a few of my friends are but haven't told me yet 3) I could just be being ultra-paranoid!