ttc after mc- the best shit place to be! #2

And a colleague has just told me her daughter is expecting a baby in June :-( She hasn't told me because she didn't want me to be upset. But I am.

Hugs to us all!

Well swab came back normal so really wondering what this spotting, stringy type pink stuff is now.

Thanks Daisy I really hope so. I was supposed to test tomorrow at 10dpo but I'm too damn impatient! I'm going to attempt to wait for af to not arrive before testing again! xx

Thank you everyone

amyy I know how you feel, but if it helps, I got a BFN at 9dpo (FMU) with this one and then got a BFN at 10dpo in the morning (FMU) then decided to test in the afternoon (to torture myself) and got a faint but there BFP.. Don't give up xxxxxx

Daisy That's lovely news I am so so happy for you!

Sorry I haven't been on much so hope you lovely ladies are well.

I'm just really struggling atm I don't feel like I can get through Christmas without a BFP :( I am only around 9dpo but was hoping for a miracle BFP but nope... couldn't have been a whiter test not even the faintest of faint line to obsess over :( I had so many symptoms (and still having twinges/mini cramps and lower back ache) but I think everything else was just in my head. My OH is trying to keep me positive that its too early and even if we are out this month its not the end of the world... but you know how hard it is im sure :(

I can't get my little angel baby out my head either :( should have been a happy Christmas with a little bump not all these sad horrible feelings.

Gah, sorry for the self-indulgent post! How is everyone else doing??

Enormous hugs Hadepop - I found the first AF after both my losses to be the most difficult (they felt so final) so can totally relate with how you feel.

I hope you manage to make the most of not being pregnant over Christmas (I for one am looking forward to sipping champagne and eating soft cheese), and that your 2015 ttc journey is short and sweet.

Morning all
well today signals the end of my tww and wtf cycle :-(
The positive is that is back on track for my original cycle.
Gutted, feels like I really have to accept that I am not pregnant anymore for some reason, even though ERPC was 11/11..
DH not going to be impressed that he has to perform again...happy christmas :-(
Good luck to everyone else x

Thanks for the welcome. I guess I'll just need to see what the GP is prepared to do. First challenge is to remember to turn up to the appointment - my head is mince today for some reason. I'll investigate private options too - we're a very long way from London, so options will be limited if that route seems wise.

Congratulations to those with BFPs, and hope the next 8 months are utterly uneventful.

I'm trying to convince myself that it's a good thing not being pregnant at Christmas, because then I can drink, eat pâté and blue cheese and so on. It's not really working though. Last year I was pregnant at Christmas and didn't know it - theoretically could be this year too, but I'm working on not getting my hopes up.

Gr33dyeggs I have no idea about spotting, but know that post-mc cycles can be up the spout for a while so it might just be one of those things. I'd get to the GP though if you're worried - better to be checked out and reassured than leave something that might then become more of a problem.

I'm not even tempted to do a test because I have zero symptoms of pregnancy and I just can't handle a BFN, even though we weren't officially trying this month. AF due on NYE so I'm just going to wait for that to arrive which I'm 99% sure it will. Although I think FF have naffed up the AF due date as so far I've had 26 day cycles

BFN for me this morning, should gave been 32 weeks at Christmas and instead not even pregnant at all.

I'm comfort baking and waiting for the chaos when my family all arrive on this afternoons ferry.

Trying to focus on what I have rather than what I've lost cause I'm so lucky in lots of ways, but you ladies know how tonight that is to do.

Thanks to fifi and guy who replied last week! Just worried it might be another infection.

Lovely news daisy Congrats!

So day 15 now of 2nd cycle after MC and I'm spotting again same as last week. FFS. I don't remember this happening with the first. Has anyone else experienced this?

That's awesome news Daisy - you must be so relieved.

Oh daisy I'm so happy for you. Makes me feel a bit more hopeful for the rest of us.

I'm going to POAS first thing tomorrow, I'm expecting to be drowning my sorrows in a few glasses of bubbles at Christmas. Not feeling very positive about it, I've bought loads of soft and blues cheeses for a cheeseboard to go with the yummy port . Trying to find a silver lining

That's great news NewEra. Congratulations. Also to Daisy, it really is wonderful to feel there might be a future baby for us all.

Welcome to Stick and hello again to everyone else, it's been busy and I haven't posted much lately.

I was handed a baby at a party on Sat and just froze, I couldn't really look at him. I had met him before when he was only a few days old and I was pregnant so the contrast of emotions was too much.

I think I might have ovulated in the last couple of days but I haven't been able to bring myself to dtd since it all happened. So we will wait until next cycle I guess. I haven't even checked to make sure I get a negative pg test despite buying some. I stopped taking folic acid too which was stupid but I avoid anything that reminds me of the situation. I am ok as long as I can pretend nothing has happened.

Hello lovely ladies I just wanted to share some news with you to let you all know there is hope! To those who don't know me I had a miscarriage at 6 weeks in September after TTC for 14 months then got a BFP at the end of November (totally advise using preseed, OPKs and softcups!) anyway I was really worried that things would go wrong/there wouldn't actually be a baby there so booked a private scan. I had the scan this afternoon and it showed a little bean with a heartbeat measuring 7 weeks exactly, I absolutely cried my eyes out because I was so relieved there was a baby (although DH swears it looks more like a rabbit... He may have a point but...men!) all of you will have your rainbow babies and your the strongest most amazing women, massive hugs to you all and keep DTD! ;) xxxx

Symptom spotting gah yes! I have a dull achey sicky feeling, not unlike a hangover from what I remember them feeling like but am thinking thats due to the antibiotics.

Hello stick I've recently spoken to my gp after mc 2 and although they won't refer me to rmc unless it happens again, they have agreed to some blood tests checking my general health, thyroid function and other bits which I unhelpfully can't remember right now. Oh... Blood clotting disorders. I asked them about if there was anything I could do to help my situation and generally got the 'bad luck' line. Lame. I was concerned about wasting time if it happens again. And was prepared to get pushy but was offered the blood tests so didn't have to. I would suggest being honest with them about your concerns and tell them you were told to come back.

Hugs Chasing, it's so hard. I was talking to my best friend yesterday about it all. She's not started TTC yet but she was fab. She told me it's okay to have bad days, weeks, months, it's natural and not to beat myself up about it and try to be strong. It's okay to crumble and when you feel strong enough, dust yourself off and get back up again. The knocks are hard and usually unexpected but we know how you feel.

I'm in my 2ww, 4dpo and already i'm symptom spotting. Need to get a grip!

It's our 2 year anniversary today.

DH has just been sat making pom poms for my DDs I tried and they were rubbish and I've hid to have a little cry. Its exactly this sort of thing that makes me want a DC with him.

He got up at at 4:30am, completely blitzed the downstairs so it was sparkling when I got up, went to work at 6am, got home at midday, went on the 3 hour round train trip to drop his son at his Mums for Christmas (they alternate years) battled the city to pick me some bits up and still found time/energy to indulge my DDs with some crafts. I'm very teary right now.

Hi stick welcome and sorry you've had such a tough time. I know what you mean about staying away from the boards to avoid obsessing, I need to step away sometimes too.

You didn't say how old you are in your post, but as you know technically its three mcs in a row or over 6 months trying ( if over 35) that will get you a referral. However, you never know and if you don't ask you don't get so I would absolutely ask your GP and see what he/she is willing to do. I got a referral to the recurrent miscarriage clinic after just two losses, for example, for no apparent reason.

If you don't have any luck you could also consider going private. A private appt at a fertility clinic isn't cheap, but neither is it extortionately expensive (I appreciate this is very subjective and depends very much on your personal circumstances). Where are you based? If near London there are quite a few to choose from.

Hugs to you both chasing and stocking. This time of year is especially tough.

Hugs chasing and stocking I felt like that last week :-(

stick according to guidelines unfortunately I don't think they would investigate you for fertility problems because you have managed to get pregnant and neither for miscarriage until you have had 3. Its seems so unfair. Perhaps a nice GP may recommend some blood tests to check ovulation or thyroid function.

chasing I feel very empty and sad today. Its the first time I've felt empty since the MC.

child I have no idea but someone else will be along shortly with some advice I'm sure.