Any over 35's ttc #1?

patience I can imagine how excited everyone in your family must be. Ah bless! I'm really hoping I get a good news too before Xmas. I've been distracted with the baby making business lately that I haven't done much Xmas shopping. This will make the best present for many including our parents and DH!:)
The holiday wasn't work related and I really enjoyed the sun! Now 1w down and 1w to go. I'm pretty sure AF is on the way as I have the usual bloating, spots and the whole lot. Ah well.. One day, it will come. Hopefully soon. Enjoy the pregnancy!! X

Come and join the Elderberry Pavlovas (known as the berries) www.mumsnet.com/Talk/conception/2228595-Roll-up-Roll-up-Mount-those-uni-cycles-and-shake-those-pom-poms-The-Elderberry-Pavlovas-are-drumming-away-in-the-hope-of-a-Christmas-clusterdiff-Thread-24?

We are a group of women all trying from number one and over 30.
As a rule we say you need to be trying for 12 months + but I think over 6 months will be OK.

We are a lovely an supportive bunch. I would never have coped without them.

Wow, congratulations patienceisvirtuous!

I have been using opks & got a positive on Sunday, so we have been at it like rabbits! I am keeping my fingers & toes crossed.

patience OMG congratulations!! sorry I was away for few days and only saw the good news. My 2ww starts today. Yikes. Massive congrats, fingers x everything goes well!!

patiencevirtuous Congratulationt! Your patience has payed off!

Now I'll introduce myself:

I turned 37 las month and my partner will turn 45 in a couple of weeks (panic). TTC #1 since January 2014. Met Mr right late and decided to go for a baby even later!

Cycles fairly regular 30-31 days but periods getting shorter. Spottings, then less than 36 hours of propper bleeding and then a couple of days of more ennoying spotting.

I'm on my first cycle of Clomid, next week I have a scan to see if it's working or not.

Good luck to everybody!

Oh patience! How exciting :) fx for you!

Oooh fingers x'd patience x

Hair your life sounds like mine lol. Deffo feel better after chatting and hearing all your stories. I can't really talk about all this in real world so thanks. Not went to dogs about periods think I'll wait and see if they settle back I was only on the pill about 12 months max so would have thot all effects would have gone since stopping in January. However I have had lot of different meds pumped thru me over last 6 months so could be that. Anyway ladies thanks for sharing and let's hope we all get our bfp soon xx

Hi everyone,

I am 36, 37 on Sunday (eek!) & have been ttc for about 3 years now. Neither of us have any children yet. I was ready to start trying years ago, but dh wasn't, then I had crazy menstrual problems, which delayed us for a couple of years. Now we are both ready & it isn't happening. Sod's law! I did have a bfp in the summer, but lost it after a couple of weeks.

I have just finished my first cycle of Clomid, so am really hoping I actually ovulate this month. Am checking with opk's every day. Nothing yet, but according to my fertility app, my most fertile day should be our wedding anniversary, so I am really hoping it brings us luck!

I can really sympathise with all the comments above about how frustrating it is & being scared you have left it too late. I feel exactly the same. It is especially hard when friends & relatives fall 'accidentally' pregnant & you can't seem to do it, even though desperately trying.

I really hope you all get your happy endings soon.

Oh my goodness so many things you ladies are saying resonate with me. The pressure of getting older, every month means more pressure..... The joy of step children in the equation, not only will mine not sleep when we are trying to DTD but its a constant reminder of what we are trying to do and what DH has already lived through... also I have really short periods after coming off the pill. I thought it was just my weirdo body but 24 hours of heavy bleeding then nothing much, Mikeysmum if you work that one out give me a shout! ... and finally the many new mums around me and the many more insensitive comments by people who keep going on about it...!

Thank you ladies this thread has helped me to know I am not alone or a freak for trying this late in life or for finding it tough. x

Hi I just turned 38 and I am on my journey to conceive, I wish everyone lots of luck and baby dust. :-)

Glad your better patience. Is it silly to foot docs about the lighter periods. They come regular but it's like 1 really heavy day then hardly anything for next 4 days. I'm worried about wasting time too. I have an older dp he's 47 but has kids. I'm trying hard not to focus too much on ttc but it's hard when people at work etc keep on about it and I know my dp would love more kids. We are getting married in the spring so I'm trying to focus more on this than babies but it's always nagging away at back of my mind. I'm trying the cbfm touch screen for second month. Felt but bit better as it indicated peaks so hopefully I'm ovulating and the short af is nothing.

patience I know exactly what you mean. I too have a younger DH (though only 4 years, not 8, respect to you!) and we didn't meet until I was 37. Never for a minute did I take any conscious decision to delay babies or relationships for career or anything like that, just had a really hard time meeting the right man.

Though it was a huge relief that everything finally clicked into place on the relationship front, after I had almost resigned myself to it never happening, I really didn't want to push him into thinking about babies too soon. Anyway, after a wedding this summer and then a bit of indecision on both our parts about whether children were the right thing for us I now find myself 41 and only just embarking on TTC for the first time ever in my life. And of course now that we've made the decision I can't even remember what it was like to be unsure and am massively impatient to be a Mum and regretting leaving it so late.

Fortunately my cycles seem to be pretty good, had no problem getting into a regular 28 day cycle after stopping the pill and ovulation seems to be happening at the right time. I did have a blood test about 2 years ago and the doc said my hormne leveks were more akin to early than late thirties so I'm hoping that my body isn't aware it's 41 and thinks it's about 34!

We've only done one proper cycle and I am stupidly gutted that nothing happened, AF turned up like clockwork yesterday. I know this is entirley normal even if you're half my age but every failed month is just a louder ticking of the clock. I'd kind of like DH to get checked out sooner rather than later as I would be very annoyed if it turns out he has issues and we have been wasting my good eggs, but I think I'll have to be diplomatic about that one.

Anyway that's a very long post, really just wanted to wave hello to everyone and wish you all good luck!

Hi ladies I'm 35 and been ttc on and off since January 2014. However I've had a rollercoaster time with health issues all year and these have probably hampered ttc. I have had the all clear in last few weeks so hoping over time I'll get lucky. It's taken me too to meet mr right. I am getting myself anxious and have this feeling that time is running out. Doing my best to stay positive but I keep having health set backs and af still arrives every month. i'm wee bit worried as periods seem to be much shorter since I came off the pill. I hoe this isn't a sign of my feetility dropping lol. Anyway ladies good luck and i hope we can all get our bfp's soon

babydream15 I think stress plays such a huge part of infertility.. more than we realise. I'm convinced that starting a new job has cost us a whole year of TTC without success. Have been thinking of resigning as there is a call for voluntery redundancy at work currently .. But then we won't be as comfortable as we are now financially. I think these days you want everything, that is the problem. Money, baby, career ...

Hi ladies, I'm in a similar situation. Turned 37 last month, TTC #1. I'm guilty of putting my career before man, children or family, hence leaving the fertility window very narrow. In fact, I've been trying to avoid pregnancy all my life until about a year ago. Never been pregnant- not so sure if my body is able to conceive at all! There is a male factor-low motility but DH has a 5 yr old daughter from previous marriage. We spend three weekends a month with her. I find it increasingly more difficult spending time with her because having a child in my own space makes me feel deeply sad that I can't have my own and the child is my DH's with another woman. I know it sounds awfully selfish and terrible but I secretively blame the stress caused by her presence for my difficulty conceiving. I think I'm turning into an evil!!