TTC for 10 months, and all the rest. 10 plussers welcome.

Thanks Berry - judging by the cramps I'd say I'm out this month anyway, but we'll see. Starting to feel sad again now... I hate this part of the cycle :(.

Great news, Fluffy. That all sounds positive and I hope you have a great birthday.

Sam, I found it varied from month to month. Some months it would plummet the day of AF (which was always a bit cruel as I would get my hopes up) and other months it would gradually decrease. The month I got pregnant it stayed fairly constant and then rocketed higher than I'd ever seen it before but everyone's charts can look differen.

Hi Nelly

Yes still temping. It has dropped a bit over the last couple of days, but not below the cover line. How long before af does the temp dip happen?

How are you doing? X

fluffy that sounds excellent. Could well be the one. Good for you.

nels you don't have a rep. What's a bit of knob sucking between friends? Yes indeed the Arts and Dolls met lucky that no one got weirdly blind drunk and threw up because that couldn't happen

hi all. had my down reg scan today. It showed my down reg was a success so I can go ahead with stimming on thurs. They saw 10 folies one side and 5 the other.

so I'm really happy with that and feel in the mood to celebrate my birthday now.

Hope everyone else is having a nice day x

Hehe to the drunken and non drunken typos!
Hope everyone's doing okay?

I'm currently 10dpo and wasted my first test this morning. Bfn of course. I've got near constant mild cramping and slightly sore boobs, but nothing that's screams bfp at me.

Some friends had their second baby today which is lovely and I'm so pleased for them, but 'Ouchy' for us at the same time. Xx

Critter, i think it's good and healthy to go to ground when you need to. I hope you've had a relaxing time at home. It's lovely to think that the woolly hug can be used as a blanket for James' sibling.

Welcome Pikz. I had a diagnostic laparoscopy and hysteroscopy a few months ago and it was fine. I couldn't get comfortable for a few days afterwards and took a few days off work but that was it. It's good that your consultant is helpful.

Mad, thank you for your very kind message. It's really nice to hear from a fellow endo sufferer. I long for the day when I can have a few months of no periods!

Welcome Emily. Sorry you find yourself here and sorry to hear about your miscarriages.

Good to see some thread drunkeness from Ray and some fake drinking from Nelly.

Lemon, sorry you've been poorly. Hope you have a speedy recovery.

Hello again :)

I can have the tests without pushing, I'm not on the NHS. The reason I'm not (I think) is because I'm in infertility denial haha.

How long do you think you have to be TTC for before you are classed as 'having a problem'?

On the NHS website it says 92% of 19-26 year olds conceive within one year, 98% conceive within two years so maybe I'm just part of the unlucky 8% from the first year. Reading that makes me think maybe I do have a problem.

I started TTC in September '13 and I thought that I would have a baby by this christmas, then I was even more confident that I would at least be pregnant by this christmas. I'm on day 6 and I will be due my period on 23rd December so I suppose there is still hope ;). I am more relaxed this month I think, it's probably the realisation that it's been 16 months so I might as well take it easy lol. When I eventually get a positive test I'll only be worrying for another 36 weeks about miscarrying/stillbirth so I should probably take this opportunity to be calm!

A hood time that's a thing of course.

ray I didn't notice any typos, glad that you had a hood time and am with lemon and art in not thinking the knob sucking was a typo either. Nice one nelly
I've seen art's baby in real life and she is totally more than average. The hair is a wig though (obviously).
Hugs to old and new.

Poor you, lemons. I hope you're able to take if easy for a while and have lots of help with Lembie. Had the gallbladder been causing you a problem for a while?

I'm nursing a bit of a hangover this morning, I very rarely drink and I remember why now. Lazy Sunday in order :)

Morning lovelies! Just trying to catch up. Good vibes to newbies (waves at Emily), fingers crossed for newly diffed (I wouldn't look at the screen for my first lembie scan and then just wept), loving the drunkeness, ray! Second everyone about being pushy with clinics, but no more than you can hack yourself!

Spent the week in hospital, am home convalescing sans gall bladder. Normally a straightforward issue, in my case triply complicated but will be off work to cheer you on for the next week or two. It turns out SB and lembie can manage by themselves, but it was hideous to be away and in pain for most of the week.

I think the level of typos in that post might give away my current inebriated state,

Welcome to Emily and pikz. My only bit of advice is to push for tests and referrals. Don't let doctors fob you off because even when you're on the system it still takes forever.

Nelly, good news about no more spotting. I am away, in a place I feel very much af home but it's also where sll this ttc shut started.

Art, I've just spent then evening with a child free by choice couple. They really do have an envious lifestyle.

I'm a bit tipsy, hic.

Wrote a phone post. Lost it. Bollocks. Here goes again...

Joy, Mini Art is now 15 months old . A friend commented the other day that I was pregnant for longer than that. Certainly felt like it. Anyway, she is a delight, especially now she has learnt that sleep exists which is a very recent thing . Mr A and I are on our way back from a rare night out with brilliant child free friends, they endured many years of treatment and more miscarriages than anyone should have to deal with but still have been our most steadfast supporters through TTC shite and were my poster couple for how life would be had IVF turned out differently. I feel very lucky to have such good friends.

I had stuff to say but can't remember it all. Hugs to Ray, Cos and Fox was a definite. Critter I had been wondering what happened to your woolly hug so am very glad to hear it's on its way to you. I shall look out for pictures

Nelly you are officially a slut . I have an extra large sombrero oven ready for when you discover it's twins

Hi Emily

Welcome to the thread. I'm a newbie here but have found the ladies so helpful and supportive, so hopefully you will too!
I'm on month 13 so know the feeling (although no mc) of 'why is this taking so long'
My blood tests were fine too, and dh as was ok (all high except morph, but all fine on repeat test). We're just waiting for our referral appointment now. X

Thank you Critter, and Fluffy - I'm going to... I think I've said before, I'm not very good at waiting so will do everything I can to make sure this happens as quickly as possible!

Hi, can i join this thread?

I have just started month 16 (day 3) :( My husband has had tests which have come back okay and as i have conceived twice but had two miscarriages (one was borderline chemical pregnancy but i don't like to think of it as 'only' a chemical), my doctor says i should be able to conceive so i haven't had any tests yet. I was thinking about using pre-seed or conceive plus this month. i used conceive plus when i conceived my second mc/cp first month.

I'm still young, so is my husband and neither of us smoke, drink, are overweight etc so why is it taking so long :(

Evening all. So lovely to see the thread busy - if sad that it has to be here at all. I have forgotten loads so will be a short and very incomplete catch up...

critter your visit sounds like exactly what you needed and I hope that the woolly hug will give you both some comfort when it arroves - and a good warm place to snuggle for the rest of your pregnancy until it's ready to be used for James' brother or sister.

Nelly the first few weeks are so stressful and I know I was holding my breath at the scan, convinced there would be nothing there. You are going to be OK and I am down the road if ever you need a real hand to hold. Time will speed up again though and you won't know how you ended up out the other side of this sh*t. I am still laughing at the sucking though, especially the fact that people thought you intended to say that and weren't surprised

berry so sorry about the announcement. When my friend (an instadiffer of the highest order) fell pregnant when we had been trying for a little while I was still at the place where I was setting myself deadlines - I would be pregnant by the time she had that baby so it was fine. On the way home from visiting them in hospital I cried harder than I have ever cried I think. MrM was seriously freaked out but it was cathartic. Sometimes you just need to let it all out. I also hear you on being taken by surprise when you didn't think they were trying yet. Another friend said they were going to start trying at Xmas and then sent the 12 wk scan photo by text in January. It shouldn't have made a difference but blindsided me in a way. I hope that makes sense. And on the AF discussions - I haven't had one since the cycle after my first failed ivf cycle. Was downregged for 2 months, pg for 9 and now breastfeeding for almost 7. Has been bliss. You will get some respite from the hellishness of an endo AF. Just hang in there xx

ray I hope my counselling question didn't offend. It's advice I've been giving myself and not listening to for years. I have often thought that I should go talk to someone about a bunch of stuff that happened when I was growing up as well as the infertility stuff but I've always chickened out. I do think that it would be really difficult to find the right person with the right demeanour and approach and the ladies on this thread are definitely womderful therapists (and are here almost 24 hours a day if needed).

I am so sorry to be such a rubbish catcher upper but thinking of you all as ever. I agree with art. Once a ten plusser always a ten plusser.

Thank you for the welcome

Consultant confirmed he wants to do a hysteroscopy and laparoscopy asap. He has helped me manage to sneak it through on BUPA so it may happen quicker than I thought.

Any advice on the lap? It's been 6 years since I had one
Wishing all those starting treat luck.

Nelly I had lots of bleeding on and off in the first 8 weeks and he's now asleep upstairs in bed aged 2!