The Pregvember bus- With Frolic dog as our mascot and ov dance lessons we can all get our BFPs (Thread 3)

Thank you blueberry and Genni I've left work early and just come home and cried. It's just hit me so hard this time. I was hoping to catch my mum as she has been around in my area today and was going to invite her around for a cuppa and tell her everything but I was too late and she was already home and I don't want to do it over the phone.

Genni it would be great to keep in touch as we are at very similar stages and seem to feel the same about things

lucie hugs to you. Please do PM me if you would ever like to chat away from the buses. I think you already know this but I too have low AMH and everything you've said is how I feel so if you ever want a chat (or a rant) please do message me.

I made the decision to tell my mum a month or so ago. Like you I had dreamed of telling my parents the good news, they are such amazing parents and they will be the best grandparents. They are so looking forward to grandchildren too so I didn't want my mum to worry but it's honestly been the best thing to have told her. My mum has been amazing, so supportive and it's really helped. I don't really have any friends I can tell though and I needed to tell someone so my mum it was. Whilst I know she is worried, it really helps to know that she is there when I'm having a bad day.

victoria I am keeping my fingers crossed for you too. Hope he appointment goes well. I think you are right - it's about moving forwards and one step closer to our dream.

pikz fx for you too.

Waves at blueberry how are you finding clomid this cycle? Any symptoms or just the nausea?

We will all get there, just for some of us, sadly it's a longer and tougher route. It's not fair at all but it will be worth it when we have our little bundles of joy.

Thanks beautician and victoria, sorry to take over the thread with my problems! My mum and I are close so maybe I will tell her soon. We have had tests and DH has low sperm motility and my amh is quite low (7.2) so basically don't have time to waste. I also had a pelvic ultrasound but everything looked ok with that. We have been looking into private treatment as the waiting time is too long on the nhs. The clinic have suggested trying half ivf and half icsi.

Lucie I know it feels awful, I'm there myself. I get good patches and bad patches and so does dh. I think the men get it easier though of course as they don't have to feel all the changes in their bodies etc. But they have got to stand around feeling helpless and useless. All my dh can do when I get af is go "there, there"!

I'm guessing you've had the tests and appointments and been offered treatment. We are 'unexplained' and have been offered 3 iui 1 ivf on the nhs. Its daunting but its all about heading forward. Best of luck on your journey x

Good luck to you too genni with your assisted route.

Bluesky I hope you get good news at your scan. I'll have my fx for you.

Lucie sorry you are feeling so down about it all. A break may do you the world of good. Are you very close to your mum if you are I would tell her. I wouldn't worry about the surprise element. When you get your BFP it will be so deserved and your mum will be able to share that extra excitement knowing that for you and DH it's been a longer journey. I really wish you luck.

Thank you so much, you ladies are so supportive. I'm sat in my car at the moment having a break away from my desk. Feeling very teary today. I'm trying to decide whether it's time to tell my mum that we are struggling as it would be some real life support for me. So far I've only told two close friends and one of them has just got pregnant herself so I don't want to put her on a downer. The thing is I wanted to surprise my parents so much with a pregnancy, it's how I've always dreamed it would be to make a big announcement and for everyone to be really happy. If I tell her now she is going to worry for months and if we do have treatment she will know when it's happening and it just won't be the same. Really don't know what to do.

Not silly Lucie. I think when it's not working you feel like that. I feel like it about dc#2 and I felt like it about DS. Just remember there is sooooo much they can do to help

Thanks pikz that is true, I think once I get pregnant it won't matter to us so much how it got there and we will be like everybody else. It just terrifies me that it might not work and we won't have children. Silly maybe.

Bluesky good luck for the scan

Lucie I don't know if this helps but I had lots of help to have DS and looks like the process starts again for me next Friday and I often felt like I've failed.

But a close friend said to me once you are pregnant no one will ask how you got there. It's only a personal feeling. He is so right as no one asks oh was DS a natural conception.

Thank you Bluesky it means a lot I really hope everything turns out well at your scan, will be checking on you

Lucieloos massive hugs and I really hope you get your BFP in the next few months, but if you don't then I wish you so much luck with a quick BFP with the treatment. You've been an excellent conductor, I totally understand your stepping back from the bus but I look forward to seeing you post your BFP soon.

Good morning, thank you all so much for thinking about me. I did a cb digital today which shows 'pregnant 1-2 weeks' I've been to the Dr and she has referred me to the EPU so I'm going for a scan tomorrow to see what's happening. She said it sounded like not enough bleeding to be a miscarriage but I personally think I've lost it already, I think I'd rather feel like that than get my hopes up only for them to be dashed.

You've all been amazing, I'm going to read back now about what everyone else has been up to after my pure 'me me me' posts for the last two days.

Thanks Genni and I hope your appt goes well. I meant to respond to your earlier post and say that I know exactly how you feel. I don't think it's going to happen for us either and I'm just counting down the months now until we can begin treatment. That makes me sad as well the thought that we couldn't achieve a natural pregnancy but then I tell myself so long as we manage to have a baby none of that will matter. It's just it all makes me very nervous as I don't know what would happen if that wasn't successful either. I think I've decided to keep trying for December and then we should get 2 tries in Jan which will take us to 13 months(plus 2 months in 2013) and if still nothing we will book in and hopefully start when af arrives in feb so that will give us 4 more cycles before we start.

Sorry for the depressing post but sometimes it's hard to be positive all the time and I think it's ok to express worries and concerns as well.

I'm going to be taking a step back from the buses this month. I will still pop in from time to time to check on bfps but have decided not to be so active and to have a month where ttc is not the only thing I think about. I will therefore hand my conductor duties over to somebody else. Good luck everyone x

morning all

just wanted to say bluesky try not to worry, the risk of ectopic being tyre cause is very low but please do go to the doctors. Keeping my fingers crossed for you!

Morning All.

victoria and lucie so so sorry AF has turned up. The monthly disappointment is just awful.

bluesky I hope you get some answers. You must be so worried.

I didn't bother temping this morning as I'm certain AF is on her way. We have a meeting with our clinic later to discuss next steps - so mixed feelings here today about it all.

Sorry af has arrived lucue and Victoria .
Have a fab holiday spinning.
Good luck at dr bkuesky.
Fx for implantation Nutella.
I hope af hokds off cariad.
ninja the uterus expanding can squish other irgans and cause heartburn. I had heart burn 5dpo and 6dpo.

Woken up this morning at 4.19 with horrible pains and bleeding. Glad I'm off work today, although can't slob about too much as have electrician coming for most of the day.

Good luck at the docs today bluesky be checking in later so see what they say x

After blood when wiping yesterday evening I went to bed at 8.30 feeling a little fed up. Won't up this morning and nothing so it's either AF teasing me or implantation. I'm guessing AF as it feels like it's looming but let's see what today brings! X

Waves at Frolic. I'm fairly confident AF will be here tomorrow, so I'm not going to waste a hpt unless she's still AWOL at the weekend. Only time will tell I guess, but as I have zero symptoms and my usual PMT, I suspect AF is lurking in the wings, ready to pounce.

Just hopping over from the December bus to say hi.

Congratulations mzzf
I hope you get a positive outcome tomorrow bluesky
Are you testing tomorrow cariad. Fingers, toes and everything crossed for you.

Good luck to everyone else still in with a shot at pregvember. Frolicdog and I are cheering you on x

Huge congratulations Mzzzzf - such awesome news. Here's to a very happy and healthy eight months.

Sorry AF has arrived Treacle and Lucie. Enormous hugs Why is this ttc malarkey so very difficult?

Have a fabulous holiday Spinning - Tenerife at this time of year sounds like bliss.

Bluesky - I second Pikz's advice about going to an EPU. In my experience they were far more helpful than the GP when I had issues after my BFP. You might want to call your GP in the morning to check whether you can self-refer to your local EPU or need them to refer you (I think this varies depending on where you live). Keeping everything crossed for you.

I'm in agreement with Sunbathing on the ectopic front - they really are quite rare, so much so that the bleeding is far more likely than not to be caused by something else. Although they might not be able to meaningfully scan you under 5 weeks, they may well do a pregnancy test and take your bloods over a series of days to see whether your hcg is rising as it should.

Hello ladies, bit of a roller coaster this bus. Congratulations to all the mums to be and sending hugs to everyone who needs one. Am in limbo land tonight I think AF is on her way as have cramps but unusually they started about 3 days ago. Manically symptom spotting although not sure heartburn and farting really count! ? ! Trying to gear myself up to stay positive if I'm off at the next stop. We shall see what tomorrow brings.

Thanks sunbathing we were thinking of trying around march time as will have been about a year for us then. I have decided I won't do temping in December although I do like to confirm ovulation but I can't be bothered with it anymore, I will still use opks and we will just dtd as much as possible around them.