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Please will you have a look at this please?

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TulipChewlip · 07/10/2014 11:42

www.canyouseealine.com/view_home_pregnancy_test.php?testID=55988

It is what I think it is, isn't it?

We are not ttc. I have been taking cerazette religiously, I don't think we can cope with another child. I'm anti-abortion.... Oh god :(

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TulipChewlip · 09/10/2014 08:03

Well, there's no denying it. I'm definitely pregnant. I want to be happy about it, but feel desperately guilty that DH really doesn't see a way to be happy about it.
I do think he's accepted that I cannot end this pregnancy, I think he's trying I get his head around it but I feel so bad. I know I'm not a bad person for wanting to keep this baby but I do feel like one.

Thank you to everyone who has replied, I'm grateful Flowers Flowers Flowers

Please will you have a look at this please?
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TulipChewlip · 08/10/2014 16:08

He's said the same thing all day wanttobeamummy :(
He's been really upset all day about it, crying and generally sad.

What will be will be now. Before we decide anything we need to check with his med nurse to see if the new medication could affect an unborn baby, I've tried googling and it has varying answers wrt birth defects and such :(
Best thing is to speak to her first. Then go from there. I have an appointment with my own nurse practitioner on Friday (ironic Hmm) so will talk things over with her.

Bah what a situation. Most people would be thrilled! And so would we if the timing was better.
I feel so guilty posting on this board about it when so many people are trying :( I think I'm going to ask mnhq to move the thread somewhere else... Where though?

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wanttobeamummyin2015 · 08/10/2014 15:58

Oh Tulip :(

He might have just said it as a refex reaction as it was so unexpected. Maybe leave it a couple days or so to sink in and then talk to him again. Thanks

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TulipChewlip · 08/10/2014 15:40

Thanks mumxof3x, congratulations on your pregnancy. :)

I caved and told DH this morning, I couldn't help it really, I was feeling so sick (not sure if pregnancy related or worry) and if had strange not-quite-crampy feelings in my abdomen.

He's devastated as I expected. He wants to me to have an abortion. :( :( :(
I don't know if I can.
He keeps saying he wanted us to buy a new house and for him to be working less hours (he works crazy stupid hours, about 70 a week!)... I can understand all this and he's not wrong in what he's saying. He's on anti-depressants so obviously that's a factor plus he has an autoimmune disease that flares up when he's stressed out.
I'm scared to tell him I want to keep the baby. I don't agree with abortion and he knows that. I know the timing of this is absolutely terrible but it is what it is... Totally unplanned.

I think he probably knows deep down that I can't have an abortion. I would resent him so much afterwards. And if I don't have an abortion then he would resent me and probably the baby as well.

:(

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mumxof3x · 08/10/2014 09:49

This was me last month, found out so unexpectedly I was pregnant with no4 I only took the test cause I saw itin cuboard and something in my head was saying just take the test lol, come up positive straight away. Partner was not happy, neither was my mum. But i couldnt even think about an abortion, I said everything happens for a reason. Il still only be 24 when the babys born and my youngest is 14mo and im supposed to be starting uni next year, it is tough to get your head round at first but im feeling ok about it now I suppose. Good luck :) xx

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TulipChewlip · 08/10/2014 07:53

No I've not told him yet. I have a doctors appointment on Friday for my next prescription of cerazette, they'll ask me if I could be pregnant etc, so I'm going to use that as my opportunity to tell him I think.

In sure it will all be fine, I've had time to sleep on it now and I'm not as panicked as I was yesterday, it will definitely be a struggle but lots of things in life are.

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ByTheWishingWell · 07/10/2014 20:02

Hopefully your doctor will be more understanding than mine! They know that no contraception is 100% effective, and while a lot of accidental pregnancies may well be due to not using contraception effectively, they shouldn't automatically assume that to be the case.
Your DH at least should definitely be on your side. Have you told him yet?

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TulipChewlip · 07/10/2014 16:53

Thank you bythewishingwell. I'm worried that my gp and DH will say that! I know I've definitely not forgotten a pill. Definitely!

I don't think we'll be trusting it again now. Hmm

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ByTheWishingWell · 07/10/2014 16:34

I have been pregnant while taking Cerazette twice. My GP insisted that I must have forgotten a pill, but I'm very sure I didn't. I wouldn't trust it again!

Good luck with telling your husband. Flowers

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TulipChewlip · 07/10/2014 16:32

Phew :)

I was worried all over again there titsalina Grin

Congratulations on your pregnancy. Flowers
I'm sure we will be fine, he's a sensible fella and he knows how babies are made. I think it's gonna knock him down in shock though.

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TulipChewlip · 07/10/2014 16:30

Surely of I had been taking it wrong it would have failed on me before now... The timing of my vomiting bug/cold and this bfp are too coincidental really. My bug was 2 and a half weeks ago.

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Titsalinabumsquash · 07/10/2014 16:30

It does have a 12 hour window! I just made sure to take it at the same time everyday when I do my sons medication so I didn't forget a day. I'm sure you did it right, i know so many stories of ot failing.

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TulipChewlip · 07/10/2014 16:28

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TulipChewlip · 07/10/2014 16:27

My doctor said there was a 12 hour window to take it, not at the same time everyday! Shock.
She said it was the mini pill that had to be taken at the same time everyday but definitely not this! I've been taking mine between 5am and sometimes as late as 4pm! (If I've been working and didn't take the strip of pills with me).
It's nearly always been at 11am though as that's when I have my cuppa.

My doctor is the family planning do actor at my surgery too, soo... Confused
Oh heck.

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Titsalinabumsquash · 07/10/2014 16:22

I'm currently pregnant with an unplanned Cerazette baby, as is my sister, I really question it's effectiveness, I know I took my pill everyday at the same time and had no stomach upsets or other medication..

Anyway, I hope you work things out with your OH, he has no right to hit the roof, he's an adult who had sex as are you, he's 50% responsible, you'll be fine if you support each other. There's always a way. Thanks

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TulipChewlip · 07/10/2014 16:20

Thank you specialsubject
I don't think he will actually hit the roof, as in explode in temper. He will be gutted though, I'm almost certain of that.

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specialsubject · 07/10/2014 16:18

he was part of the tango, and it is always a possibility that contraception can fail.

scared/worried is ok. 'hitting the roof' with you is not.

wishing you the best.

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TulipChewlip · 07/10/2014 16:16

When we had a 'scare' a few years ago (false positive on tesco digital test) he was devastated. :(
He's going to be the same this time. He's such a worrier at the best of times. Plus he's just started a new medication (adalimumab/humira) and I don't know of that will have any effect on a pregnancy/unborn baby. That's something I really need to check up on.

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TulipChewlip · 07/10/2014 16:12

And thank you, I'm hoping all works out well too. :)
I have always wanted a big family but DH really didn't! I'm a bit scared/worried of what he's going to say if I I'm honest....

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TulipChewlip · 07/10/2014 16:09

cheese I had to call to order my next prescription of cerazette and they always ask me if I've done a pregnancy test, I guess it jut spring to mind.
I bought a twin pack of first response about 6 months ago (as I don't get periods) just to check, this was the other in the pack.

Symptoms wise, I guess I have been more tired lately, and possibly a little more hormonal, I've noticed have been quite snappy with DH over the last week. All adds up doesn't it?

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cheeseandpineapple · 07/10/2014 15:59

Being part of a big brood sounds lovely to me, once you get the hard yards out of the way. At least you'll have older children to help you out, sounds like there will be enough of an age gap for your others to be a team of helpers! there is a pretty big gap between me and my youngest sibling, my mum says he was brought up by the whole family and she hardly had to do anything! Early days but hope it works out well for you all, whatever the outcome.

cheeseandpineapple · 07/10/2014 15:52

Faint but can just about make a pink line out (presume it's the second one you're asking about, been a long time since I took a test).

What made you do a test if you haven't been having periods anyway, do you have pregnancy symptoms too?

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TulipChewlip · 07/10/2014 15:50

You're right, it will. Just a big shock to the system today! I'm a bit calmer than I was earlier, just off to pick the kiddos up from the school bus now. My eldest will be very excited when we eventually tell her (weeks/months away yet!) - she's been asking for years!

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TulipChewlip · 07/10/2014 15:49

wanttobeamummy That's my motto too believe it or not! :)
Thank you xx

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wanttobeamummyin2015 · 07/10/2014 15:49

And tulip there is always freecycle and eBay it will work out in the end :)

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