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Please will you have a look at this please?

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TulipChewlip · 07/10/2014 11:42

www.canyouseealine.com/view_home_pregnancy_test.php?testID=55988

It is what I think it is, isn't it?

We are not ttc. I have been taking cerazette religiously, I don't think we can cope with another child. I'm anti-abortion.... Oh god :(

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ByTheWishingWell · 14/10/2014 20:37

I'm so sorry for your loss Tulip.

Take all the time you need and be kind to yourself. I hope you get plenty of RL support and hugs! Flowers

AlpacaYourThings · 14/10/2014 17:18

Enjoy your Wine and Cake

It's a horrible feeling, it took me quite a few months to come to terms with my miscarriage so not be hard on yourself if you still feel down for a while.

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TulipChewlip · 14/10/2014 16:48

Thanks Alpaca.

:(

Onwards and upwards though. DH is taking us all put for tea, then it's Cake and Wine tonight for me. :)

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AlpacaYourThings · 14/10/2014 16:21

I'm so sorry for your loss Tulip Sad

Thanks
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TulipChewlip · 14/10/2014 15:41

Thank you bythe.

It's over, I tested negative today. Definitely miscarried.

:(

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ByTheWishingWell · 14/10/2014 10:16

Hi Tulip.

I'm sorry to hear you're still having such a hard time. I'm surprised at your EPAU, mine was quite good when I had an early miscarriage. There's no harm in asking to be seen earlier if you decide that's what you want, this is a hard enough week for you as it is without the stress of not knowing.

Thinking of you today. Thanks

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TulipChewlip · 14/10/2014 09:17

I said yesterday my pregnancy symptoms had vanished but thinking about it I was/am still very very tired and I do have a little nausea, not actually throwing up however.

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TulipChewlip · 14/10/2014 08:58

That's great they took such good care of you Alpaca, sorry to hear about your mc though. Flowers

Thank you sweepthehalls. :)
I think I'm just going to wait it out, til maybe Friday. If nothing else happens and I still get a positive test on Friday morning I will ring my doctors/EPAU for an appointment. Surely they would do a blood test then? It will still be too early to scan me I expect.

Yep, wait and see I think x

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SweepTheHalls · 13/10/2014 22:20

Thinking of you today Thanks Thanks

AlpacaYourThings · 13/10/2014 21:11

Well, there's nothing they can do for a MC at 6 weeks either! I would push them for a scan.

When I went to the EPAU they seen me but couldn't find anything when they scanned me so they done blood tests every 48 hours to see if my beta HCG levels were increasing. Unfortunately, I miscarried but they still done a very thorough investigation.

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TulipChewlip · 13/10/2014 20:10

I think I'm going to ask them Alpaca, last time I mc'd they would see me until 6 weeks because there's nothing they can do regardless of what they see.

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AlpacaYourThings · 13/10/2014 20:08

That's still quite a clear positive.

I'm surprised the EPAU won't see you until 6 weeks. Could you convince the GP to refer you to another one?

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TulipChewlip · 13/10/2014 20:08

No I haven't been seen by anyone yet hun. I did go and give my urine sample to the reception at my doctors surgery today, I warned them I might need a referral to the EPAU rather than a midwife appointment though :(

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mumxof3x · 13/10/2014 19:29

Oh no tulip, hope your ok. Have you been seen by anyone? Iv had bleeding in all of mine xx

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TulipChewlip · 13/10/2014 15:31

Off boys??

odd bits

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TulipChewlip · 13/10/2014 15:30

Sorry to spam, just keeping track of what's happening. Was bleeding again yesterday but it was brown again with just off boys of red.
Today nothing.
But every pregnancy symptom I had has vanished so I think it's just a matter of time. Pregnancy test I took half hour ago is still positive (just) so there's something still there.

Please will you have a look at this please?
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TulipChewlip · 12/10/2014 06:50

Thank you bythewishingwell, if bleeding gets any worse I'll ring them next week, if bleeding stops or at least stays like this then I'll do another pregnancy test next week and go from there.

Just pulled up at work now, cried the whole way here so I look ridiculous. Could really have done with staying home bit if I did I know I'd just be sad all day, at least this is a distraction. xxx

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ByTheWishingWell · 11/10/2014 21:17

Surely the EPAU would see you if you were concerned about bleeding?

I know you don't want to get your hopes up, but try not to give up completely- lots of people who have minor bleeding go on to have healthy babies. It doesn't sound like much if you don't need a pad?

I hope you manage to get some rest tonight. Thanks

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TulipChewlip · 11/10/2014 19:10

Sorry, should say DH isn't sad at losing the pregnancy.

Meh, :(

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TulipChewlip · 11/10/2014 18:51

I really don't know, I keep wanting to think 'maybe it's implantation' or something, it mostly brown with the occasional pink/red spot. Started at 11:30 ish this morning. I don't need a pad or anything with it. Trying not to get my hopes up. My doctors wants a urine sample from me on Monday morning anyway so I'll go in with it and explain, then they know. I think I'm still to early for EPAU to be interested in seeing me, they don't see anyone until at least 6 weeks here. It doesn't feel like when I miscarried before, I had pains and cramps and heavy'ish bleeding right from the get-go. I have niggles in my abdomen but not pain, closest I could describe them to is cramps, but not quite - hard to describe really.
DH is trying to be supportive, really trying. But he sad at all about losing the pregnancy, which makes me even sadder :(

Thank you for answering my post. Flowers

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AlpacaYourThings · 11/10/2014 17:37

Lots of people have bleeding in early pregnancy. Are you going to visit an EPAU to be sure?

ByTheWishingWell · 11/10/2014 17:13

Oh, Tulip Sad Are you sure?

I'm so sorry. Make sure your DH knows how you feel about it. I miscarried the first time, and my DP at the time was relieved; I think he didn't really realise how upset I was, and so wasn't very supportive.

We're here if you want to offload.

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TulipChewlip · 11/10/2014 16:29

We'll I started bleeding this morning. It's over, DH is relieved but sad for me. I feel so shit and sad.
I just want to cry, I really wanted this unexpected baby.

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TulipChewlip · 10/10/2014 10:26

Hey mumxof3x, I do feel like I'm pushing him away, or that he's distancing himself. :(
Things have a way of working out so I'm not worrying too much, well, I'm trying not to worry too much. It's difficult.
I'm ok really though, thank you. I've got my head around it, I'm mentally preparing for it, I'm not going to give birth tomorrow anyway so he has time to do the same.
He's not going to force me to terminate, he's told me that already.
Crossing my fingers, he's at work now, he had a good talk to his boss yesterday about it all so at least he has someone he can go to, like I come here. Xxx

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mumxof3x · 09/10/2014 10:12

Mine reacted same way tulip, as did my mother and me and dp have barely spoke about it since, everything seems so strained at the moment. But I have said to him that I do understsnd how he feels and he is right in someways, however it is me thats got to live with my choices so I would understand if he wanted to walk away. Hes chose not to obviously but I feel like iv pushed him away. Can totally sympathise with you. Hope you are ok xxx

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