40+ and TTC? Join the club...

Everything is still crossed for you Jass x
So sorry for your loss Sebs. How heartbreaking. Particular hard for you after a good 9 week scan. Hope everything goes ok on Tuesday x

Hi Girls, been up since 4am, watched TV for a bit and now back in bed just waiting for daylight.

I know someone on here kindly posted my good news re. BFP a few months ago, sadly the baby died at 11 weeks, pretty much bang on my 40th birthday, so that was devastating news to receive on Thursday at our 12 week scan.

They are going to test the foetus, chromosomal abnormalities are expected due to our 9 week scan showing heartbeat and baby measuring ahead of dates. All looked great.

I'm having a MVA under general on Tuesday. My body still thinks it's pregnant at the moment so the wait isn't too bad as I'm not bleeding or in pain.

I think we will carry on TTC unless they find something worrying when they do our genetic testing etc. I'm just so upset that it took us eight months to conceive, we finally thought we were going to have a baby and now I'm back to square one again. I just wish life had panned out differently and I had met my partner earlier and TTC at a younger age - totally pointless thing to think but it goes round and round my head on a loop.

Sorry for the AFs.......
I am back home and I had set myself a deadline of today, 5w6d, as a cut-off for digi 3+. Most women have it by 5+6, if they are going to have a real baby. I made it! it is second pg in a row which goes to digi 3+,'but the previous one only reached there at six and half weeks, about. Of course I do not do these tests daily, so I know last time I had it sometime after 6w and this time 5+2'was still saying 2-3. I think I am seeing my immune problem reverting itself, slowly, but it may not yet be overcome totally. Will try to see a doc and have US next week Wednesday,when I am passing through home country and can easily have it....

Sorry AF showed notso. It's worse when she messes about & gives us a bit of hope.
Cd 11 for me. Trying to work out if it's possible to dtd tomorrow morning because dh is going to football all day & I'm convinced an early one is better than all the late night ones we usually do. I suppose dd is a bit too young to send out for bacon butties while we get it on!! Lol

reni ...I will be joining you in the corner after AF turned up....

fromwest I am a hopeless temper. Always wake up and have to run to the loo, or to deal with DS, and if I don't I quite often have a dry mouth and can't take my temp without a drink of water first. So I have lost my way with it. But others here have got a good handle on it and would probably advise better. Just posting as someone else who finds it all harder than it's supposed to be!

joey, reni and others got by AF, commiserations. I'm just at the end of mine and currently on a get together with friends expecting their second baby, so it's all about keeping my chin up and poker face (nice as it is to see them) for certain passages of conversation.

Sorry to hear that Reni.
As I'm nearing the end of my first cycle temping I'm gaining increased admiration for you ladies who stick this process out month after month. It's starting to feel burdensome to me and I only just started!
This morning I woke too early again, at 5am. I took my temperature knowing it would be marked as taken at wrong time on FF. It was 36.33. Then I dozed for the next 50 minutes, I didn't get out of bed in that time and when I woke again at ten to six this was within my normal waking time. I took my temp again for sake of comparison and by then it was 36.59, which is the highest it has ever been.
Does anyone else have this? When you wake too early should you record that temp, or doze till normal waking time and record that one?

AF is here. A day early. Thoroughly depressed. We have left it too late and I shall be sitting in a corner grumping now.

And I have another cold. But instead of taking medicine for it my mind says.." but maybe I am pg after all" ....sorry for being down...

Hiya there!!!
joey I know the feeling having gone through that in the past. Taking a break might be the right thing for your peace of mind...
Jass fx for you...

So I think I have another wtf cycle. We dtd 15 19 20 and 21 (days 21and 22 were high fertility according to cbfm).....
Now day 33 bfn no symptoms at all. No cm ( sorry tmi) and jo af . I had spots few days ago and thought that af was around the corner but no.... it is not my month is it???

Cloud, I am supposed to ski with colleagues in March,too. If I stay pg I will be 9weeks. It will have to be more holiday than skiing. March is guaranteed sunshine if we are talking about French Alps, I think. Feb can be trickier and January is fresh snow special:-)

So good to hear you are hanging on jass
I got a huge parcel in the post today from the clearblue trial. Includes a box of posh opks - I'm always too tight to buy them! The only problem is that I can't even muster up the enthusiasm to read what I am meant to be doing. Maybe this is what happen? Gradually you stop thinking about ttc and accept what you have.

Oh cloud, those bladder infections- lie there for ages to give the swimmers a chance, risk bladder infection. Go to the loo right after dtd, bladder fine, swimmers gone . Another shared joy of ttc-ers.

Morning all. Again, it's been a while! Life seems to be hurtling along so fast.

Well af turned up this morning, day 25 which is at least better then last cycle . But things are getting shorter which is not a good sign. Still, I just keep telling myself to keep my nerve. Am going to start with agnus castus, although it's not the luteal phase that is the problem. Also I was planning to have a day last week in my half term to sort me and my life out (will only take one day ) but of course DS decided to be ill so I spent two days working and three days with marmoset boy attached. So I am going to take next Thursday instead. I just need to get organised and clear my head a bit.

And I just might be here a little more, as I feel like I need the support that you lot give!

Sorry about AF feelings, Reni! I am rattling with today's supplements and pills:-)

Sorry about AF, Joey, such a depressing time every bloody month. I can feel her come as well, due on Saturday. I kind of knew it really for the last few days, I have so many preg "symptoms" that I knew she'll come. Never had any when actually pregnant resulting in a baby; at least not until I felt her move anyway. That and going from size 10 to almost as big as the washing machine.

Fingers crossed Jasss.

Has everybody taken the supplements today?

Grizzer, I would absolutely trust doctors when there is the need to take something and there is a situation where there is no choice. I am more talking about necking stuff casually for not so serious things, and I read here on Mn how people take pred 10 days every cycle then stop without weaning and restart next month. That sounds truly scary.....

Joey, I think it is important sometimes to step away from doing it so intensely, sometimes the will returns, but if not, it is OK also. I have gone through ups and downs in this business quite long now..,I think everybody does.

I should be somewhere where there is cold wind and gale, but in fact we have nothing but sunshine. I have never had a skiing holiday with all-week sunshine yet. I was 5+2!yesterday and stupidly did a digi. It said 2-3 weeks still. of course as I am keeping myself well hydrated with all the ski going on, I might blame this. But if by Sunday,5+6, I have no 3+, I think it is most likely over. But, 2 weeks from positive test and no dropping hcgs is my new personal best certainly...I think they are ever so slowly still rising.

Hi all. Been away for a few days, so just trying to catch up on the thread.

Jass - glad to hear that you are hanging on in there, and every day that passes would seem to make things look a bit more positive.

Fridge - sorry that AF got you this cycle. She got me too - day 27 - boom out of nowhere. Had no symptoms or spotting, just straight into full flow without any warning.

I'm feeling very confused about the whole thing this month. I feel like I have hit a point where we've been ttc for a long enough period without any success, that realistically it's not going to happen for us. The longer it goes on, the less enthusiastic I feel about having another baby, as it seems like a much bigger step backwards now that ds is nearly 3. I think therefore I'm pretty certain that I am not going to consider any interventions e.g. IVF, and I'm going to scale back on the level of trying. Not going to give up completely, but for the next couple of cycles at least, I will stop with the temps and opks. It's just so all-consuming, and I have done it with great gusto and enthusiasm, but have achieved nothing, so am wondering what is the point.

Just feeling very down about it all at the moment. Sorry for the negativity!!

Thanks Reni. Dd is still being monitored so I shouldn't worry really, I just hadn't considered what meds we were being given! I often avoid reading the info because it is so off putting.

We're loving it Gerald! Sitting in it with gale force winds & freezing temps around us. Getting out & running back inside is not so much fun though!!

Ooohhh grizzer enjoy the hot tub!

Grizzer, your dd's natural cortisol production should be back to normal by now, I agree you were right to trust them, kidney disease from HSP how frightening for you all.

I feel like I'm not taking enough!! I only take folic acid & do that just as I'm getting in to bed with the lip balm, hand cream ritual.
Jass you're terrifying me about the pred. DD was prescribed it last April when she was diagnosed with HSP (long German name I can't spell!!) we did wean her off it gradually but she took it for 6 months because of kidney damage. I would know by now if there were any side effects wouldn't I? I should have researched it more but I was so shocked that a fairly minor illness caused her major complications I just blindly trusted the drs (it was Great Ormond St so I think I was right to trust them....) feeling slightly nervous when I read what you say about the effects. She was only just 4 when she started taking it!
I don't have much hope for this month. We are on a week's holiday & have a hot tub which dh is in every night - that can't be good for the sperm can it? It is lovely though so I have no chance of persuading him not to use it!!

Maybe we have to do a daily "Everybody take the pills now" post on here.