40+ and TTC? Join the club...

Fingers crossed, Grizzer. We're in the DTD phase, too, DrDiva. Cd9, feeling almost like ovulation is here. How early is too early for ovulation? Cd 11 or 12 is usual for me, I have a 24d cycle.

Talking of preggo symtoms, Gerald, my only one was feeling a bit weird, and just knowing taking a preganancy test was the right thing to do.

Grizzer I am keeping my fingers crossed for you.

Jass congrats on another BFP, I hope things keep going well for you.

I feel so gutted by the number of women from my various ante-natal groups who've had another one or two DCs. Even the one who is only a year younger than me. I really thought she'd stick at just one DC. I am considering giving DHEA a go. I was strongly anti it, but it seemed to work for Lol and she was 47 when she conceived.

I mentioned up-thread a bit that I'd cut back on supps, basically as was feeling too tight, a bit bogged down with other stuff etc, and found AF much much lighter. Had been getting horrendous. I am wondering which supp was making it so much heavier.

Also, this month, Ovd on day 14, which is quite late for me, and not good news for a 24 day cycle, I think. Unless my cycle is extending... I guess I will find out sooner or later.

Better go to be or I will never get on top of this eternal feeling of weariness!! I went back through the thread and started reading in more detail from start of Feb, but just can't keep up with all the chat. Will try and keep up with you all better as there has been some really useful chat going on in here recently.

Going to check lottery numbers before getting into bed. Just hope that winning streak extends to the full quote of 3 things...

slinki just thought I would say that with my second pregnancy (lovely ds) the only symptom before Af was.......... I felt really hot. I remember it clearly because I am always cold and Dh was confused when I asked him to turn the heat down in the car.

Things seem cautiously positive Jass. I wouldn't be able to help going for scans though even though, as others have found, it can give false hope. I think you have to go though don't you? So you can take meds accordingly?
I wouldn't say this to anyone who knows me but I'm having 'abdominal feelings!' It's stupid because I'm only 5 or 6 dpo but I feel lots of pressure & tingles. Today I was putting together dd's new bed & lugging the mattress up the stairs something was telling me I need to be careful! Just wishful thinking I know but I'm feeling hopeful (another big crash coming no doubt!)

Slinky, come on, menopause does not just descend on you like that! Maybe you have a cold simply?

Next scan next Wednesday. And I am thinking of cancelling and psotponing by at least two weeks. But probably will not be able to, even if it might be better for my mental state. I have zero mc symptoms, I saw yolk sac at 5+6 LMP, every normal pg woman would be totally confidently simply pg. Not going to doc next week might be much better idea, but I am afraid in Luxembourg they would reslly not want to let me go without US until 9-10 weeks, even if I know I am not ectopic.

Evening. Still bfn and boobs not sore now. Also come down with a cold now. Keep getting really hot and can't figure out if it's the cold or early Menopause!!!! Bit dramatic i know. When is yournext scan jass? Meditation is a great idea.
Night all. X

jass fx for you...xx

Report for duty but that is no chance of dtd with Mr DH coughing like a maniac....so off to watch telly....

Sorry about Af Gerald and bfn Slinky. And indeed, having babies and old parents at the same time is tricky. But what choice do we have?

I went to cinema today with my heavily pg daughter. My own boobs hurt like hell, and She does not know nothing of my mcs of course.

I have been doing some meditation to help my baby grow and get a heartbeat. I guess I sound desperate, but hey, nothing to lose and keeping positive attitude is so important....

Many of us with elderly loved ones abroad it seems. Another thing that can come with doing this baby thing late- have really young kids when caring for the past generation. Also leaves years to leave your country and make sure you have to travel the globe, middle aged and (hopefully) pregnant or a toddler on hip visiting mum. Do tell us about the party fireflies!

Good morning all. Love the description of the ttc month reni very apt! And welcome slinki - what a head wreck the waiting is, yes? And you have so much extra at the moment. I didn't get a + until 6 weeks with one pg so hope it's just a late one and all is plain sailing thereafter.

Not much going on here. Have just passed due date for the twins so feel like I can hope its a new era now. Taking supplements when I remember, doing acupuncture, lc-ing, and naturally, dtd! Oh, and obsessing. But I guess that goes without saying...

cloud sorry to hear about your mum. I too have elderly parents abroad, it can be so worrying. Hope she is feeling better after her fall.

Hi, fireflies ! Congratulations on your ticket, please come back and spill the beans!

Am not doing v well at keeping up with you, am I?! Am feeling slightly more optimistic about conceiving #2 as we managed to DTD, twice before ovulation too. But I am feeling pre-menstrual again already.

Still, who cares! I was a last minute entry for the Mumsnet 15th Anniversary birthday party competition... and have won a ticket. I feel like Charlie!!

Cloud-pm-ed you the name for snooping

Cloud I get cystitis easily especially with the prolonged lie down after dtd. I tend to drink loads of water during the week in question, it seems to help. Slinki, I had the af late + bfn twice, one turned into a preg ending in mc at 11 weeks, the other turned into my dd. Was a week late at bfp.

Sorry about af, Gerald.

Sorry, 3rd post. Af just made an appearance so I will start my weeing in pots tomorrow. One good thing I guess. We have a big holiday booked for August and I have been worried what would happen if I was very pregnant.

cloud I've never had cystitis but I wonder if it would help you if you used something like a softcup after dtd? I've been using one as it means I can get straight up afterwards and go for a wee without everything ending up dripping down my leg! Lovely!

This thread is so lovely at the moment. I've got my fingers crossed for you all.

chewy the box is huge! I was going to try to keep it all to myself and not tell Dh but once I saw the size of the box and realised the wee would need to be kept in the fridge then I had to come clean. My big hurdle now is that I live in a small village and the the post office couple are the nicest but nosiest ever. They are always commenting on my online shopping returns so I wonder what they will make of these packages!

I am just waiting for AF to come and then will start the wee collection.was expecting it yesterday ( days from +ve opk) but nothing yet. No sore boobs though either so not experiencing severe pregnochondria as of yet.

Just saw your ttc month, Joey , I gave up on the subtlety a while ago, I just tell dh the week (it's block-booked).

Yeah, I'm not that hopeful but it's hard to give up hope when you want it so much. I keep wondering if my wanting to be pg is delaying af.
I do have a consolation prize though, as part of my birthday Mum and I are staying at a spa hotel for a couple of nights and so want to enjoy a good massage and a bottle or 2 of wine, something I can't do if preggers! Every cloud eh!
It does feel a bit like living 2 lives at the moment. I'll leave it a week or so then if no news I might see the Doc. We always said we would not go down the ivf route but if there is anything we can do to boost our chances then we'll consider it.
Since mc last year my periods have been pretty regular at 29 days. I've heard so much about people getting pg when they stop trying and would love to throw the diary and test sticks away but I can see myself cheating!

I'm allowing myself a glass of wine tonight on medical grounds, you know, if it helps me relax then it can't do too much damage!...
Signing off now. Another POAS announcement tomorrow am then I'll probably found in the sulky corner! X

Hi Slinki, a similar thing happened to me several years ago. AF unusually late, had some pg type symptoms, tested once I was about a week late, but it was neg. AF turned up a few days later. Was just one of those odd things in my case.
Hope yours is just a shy bfp though!

Hi all. Quick update POAS arrived today. Still neg. Still no AF. I think it's just wishful thinking. Will try and forget about it for a while now. Will be back with an update either way. Xx

Done the ff VIP thing. Do you find the ff forum useful? I find them hard to read, they have so much information on each poster after each post! There is a footer with poster's age, dh age, dc ages, all mcs with dates and gestation, IVF history and then there is the cd/dpo box and for many users additional tickers for all of the above as well. Maybe I have too short an attention span, but when I flick through I have difficulties finding the actual post text.

reni out of my corner now although no chance of dtd ecause I have another cold. Need to sleep now will check in later xxxx