November bus opening doors- all aboard for BFPs!!!

Hi all! First time on a bus here on mumsnet! Feel like I need a bit if support after 2 recent miscarriages and af that's just arrived!
Stats are ttc#2, bfp planned on November 13th. Love to all! X

Oh yes, and stats:

TheProofIsInThePudding, 29, TTC#1, cycle #2, BFP due: 14th November.

Hello! I've transferred from the Pregtober bus.

AF arrived today in quite dramatic style with major cramps, leaving me feeling nauseous, shakey and dizzy and going home early from work. It's never happened like that before, so it's all a bit odd. I also hardly ever get ill or take time off. I've been resting in bed and I'm feeling better, so I hope that's the end of it!

This month we're going to be trying OPKs and Conceive Plus. Last month's 'just DTD and don't get stressed out about it' didn't really work, so I might as well take up POAS as a hobby!

I had an evap on my frer. .. I'm gutted as I thought for a second..

Blueberry, stuff like that's a regular thing for us, I'm not sure how much more adventurous we could get!

I have super niggly pains today..

Afternoon Ladies,

Dozy From what I can gather from Dr Google any amount of saliva can damage and slow down the sperm significantly reducing the chances that any sperm will get where it needs to go.

Welcome Toots Im not funny or witty so dont worry lol....it often takes a body a long time to settle after the pill and you might not have ovulated yet sorry your in limbo though.

Secret Grape fruit is supposed to be good for cm but it tastes so horrible I prefer the epo lol...you drink it up till ovulation and pineapple is good for after ovulation.

Seafoam have you tried outfits and toys to spice things up...it works with my dp and keeps if going for the week! Hard when you dont know when your ovulating though is there anything the docs can do to help?
I cant stand to take a break after 18 months I need one but I cant do it!

Jessica sorry your joining us.

CD8 here so will start opks in a couple of days and scan on Tuesday to see if clomid is doing what its supposed to im so nervous!!

Morning all! Hopping over from the October bus, will catch up in a min.

My stats:
Jessica, 29, ttc#1, cycle 3, bfp due 11th November (ish)

We had said this was our last month before taking an indefinite break so I guess this month feels extra precious, because we do need a break. . X

Secret, pink grapefruit juice (well, grapefruit juice in general) is meant to increase CM.

I've just remembered I meant to start temping again this cycle, but I never seem to remember in the mornings.

Sorry you're feeling low seafoam It must be so difficult just having no idea when you might ov . Have you considered just throwing away the sticks for a month or two and taking a mental break from ttc? Dtd just when you want to and have some date nights like a previous poster suggested? Might help stress-wise? Or treat yourselves to a weekend away?

Have decided to put my energies into trying to lose half a stone and get a bit more exercise before Christmas to try and take my mind off the ttc. Also sod's law, if I do lose a bit of weight, am bound to get upduffed and put it all on again!

I'm feeling low today. I don't know why I keep peeing on a stick.

We haven't dtd since wed now. I just feel like I'm putting in all the effort. DH says his sex drive is slowing as per cosy winter nights and his energy levels low. I feel that too, but I worry and think about needing to dtd every day. This would be so much easier if I knew when ov was.. turns out dtd every other day for a 50odd day cycle isn't sustainable for us. (Not surprised!)

I'm beginning to think it's never going to happen and I should make peace with it. I do have the most incredible dd already.

toots it's fairly normal for periods to take a while to settle back to normal after stopping pill... Imagine you were on a combined one given the ectropion. GP won't do anything until 3-6 months of no period (depending which GP you see!)! So enjoy dtd ;)

misty what does pink grapefruit juice do?? Not heard of that being used.

I learnt of the whole sperm killing saliva recently too dozy . Have stocked up on sperm friendly lube for November

Welcome toots . Ttc certainly seems so much harder than we are led to believe. I am constantly amazed that anyone gets pregnant. Ever.

I'm feeling crap today. I want af to hurry up so we can make an actual start on ttc. Although I'm irrationally annoyed with OH today. He's done nothing wrong but I can't bear to look at him.

Sad to see more pregtober passengers arriving here. Let's hope this is the last bus we'll need until we start ttc the next ones!
Good luck all

Hello

Been lurking for a bit, scared to join in as am not as funny or witty as some on here.. lol a lot just reading your banter :) uplifting and generous comments!

Background... came off pill after 12 years as gyny said my cervical etropian was porbs caused by the overload of hormones .... where uterus cells creep out of womb to cervix and bleed all the time.. he burnt them off with chemicals but said to stop pill-we wanted to TTC soon so took this as a good a time as any... well that was late AUGUST... slight bleed early Sept and since then nada, not a thing, nothing. DTD 3-4 times a week...DH is delighted - i am just getting worried.. where is my af?!!!left hand cramps right now but no banana.

learnt a lot about biology though.. who knew that you need to work so hard to conceive... none of this accidental rubbish!! no bloody hard work.(oh.. side effect.. mega grumpy!) all these years of panicking to find it is all lies! i honestly thought a hpt could tell you the next day after dTD - clueless.... (am a senior accountant!!!)

Cycle day 41 according to Ovia... 4 Bfns and 5 neg opks . rubbish. worried already and GP appts next free in 4 weeks for non emergency. too embarrassed to go in case i am overreacting! but after 15 weeks of bleeding from my etropian, ( too embarrassed to say anything) now i want af and she is hiding.

Stats Toots, 31, TTC#1, Cycle 1, BFP ???

Thanks Blueberry

I have no idea when you should have reflexology in your cycle but I need to chill out anyway so will see what they say when I go about both fertility and relaxation!

How much saliva would u need to kill it tho?? It's not like there's loads of it. Maybe if I had the soeem in my mouth but it doesn't touch the saliva if you're finishing off with actual sex. Surely if it's only at the beginning and then u have plenty of ewcm then it won't matter by that point.

Welcome Sue I havent tried reflexology yet when in the cycle are you supposed to have it?

Sea Fly catcher made me laugh!!

Butterfly good to hear your still enjoying it, I thought after 18 months id be so bored but I still love it!

Can I join you please?

SueBridehead, 31, ttc#1, cycle #4, BFP due around November 11th.

This month am trying reflexology for the first time and have bought epo and pre seed as don't get much ewcm.

Good luck guys xx

saliva and KY/normal lubricants and sperm definitely are not friends! Pre-seed is quite good if you don't produce much EWCM/want a bit more lubrication!
GPs always ask if you've been DTD every 2-3days, otherwise they don't see it as "trying!" They don't recommend temping, or even OPKs as they're not always reliable!

We're actually quite enjoying trying to conceive, but given it's only been since July (feels like ages though!) perhaps there is time to get bored!!!

Lol yeah I'm pretty sure I'm a fly catcher when snoozing.. I always get up at least once for dd .. Not sure how realistically easy ill be able to temp consistently but I think a few months of temping is the only way to really know if I'm ovulating.

lol Seafoam you can do it orally but if you sleep with your mouth open at all is will effect temps

Ah fuck. Forgot to name change back.. that's me up there re temping.

Vag temping!

dozy saliva definitely kills sperm sadly so best to avoid bjs during the fertile week

secret temping needs to be done every morning at the same time before getting up. Its best done vaginally as it gives more accurate readings.
Temping wont work if you wake up alot which is why i dont do it!

vicky we were told no harm after hsg so we still tried that month. Sorry your waiting another month

Try and keep sex fun ladies buy some sexy outfits and toys and use them during your fertile week have date nights etc.
After 18 months ttc we still love dtd!

I test this morning on a frer just incase I'd ov'd at the 'normal time'

Nada. I don't even know if I'm yet to ov at all..

Someone tall me though temping?

Sorry that's a lot of waffle in there!!! Doesn't make much sense lol. I wish u could edit a post once you've sent it. I always make mistakes coz I'm typing too fast.

I've warned him that he needs to step it up a gear now we're into cycle 4. Last month we failed to dtd when I thought my window was from dates but used in opks and I got positives later on when I would have normally stopped dtd so I managed then except on the first positive I had to do a nightshift and he wouldn't do it before I went to work. I got another positive the day after so dtd and hoped that had been enough but obv not.

I'd be happier just dtd eod the whole month until the end and then u know you've done all u can but there's no way he'll agree to that. Some months before ttc we only managed once or twice coz he was tired. I used to have a really high sex drive but the less we do it the less I can be bothered so I have to force myself to get in the mood too. I always manage to orgasm tho haha. I'll just have to try to work my magic more this month.

Someone worried me by saying saliva kills sperm becaise the quickest way to get him to orgasm is to give him a bj to start him off then jump on for the last few minutes. Im hoping that's not the case though.