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Kttowers90 · 11/09/2014 10:33

Hi everyone I'm fairly new to this but I have a bit of a scenario I was hoping someone might be able to help!

I have been desperate to have a baby for coming up to a year now, discussed it with oh and he wanted to wait until we're more financially stable (own our own house and I've paid off my student overdraft etc.) I'm nearly 25 and he'll be 28 next month. I agree with him completely and know what he's suggesting makes sense broodiness is doing my head I'm but it's just something I've got to cope with.

So last night he went to his mates house to help him clear out some of their sons old toys and stuff. He then comes home with one of those mats with the roads on that kids drive toy cars on and says it's for junior when we have one... I could have strangled him!!! I wouldn't mind if we are tcc but we've decided to wait (knowing it could take around 2 years) and now I don't know what to think, is he just thinking about the future? Or is he trying to drop a not so subtle hint? Or is he just a massive moron with no tact?

He knows I've been struggling with wanting to have a baby and what he's done, although nothing major has upset me quite a bit!

Any advise would be greatly appreciated!!!

Kate x

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JellyBean1990 · 12/09/2014 16:00

Hi Kate,

I'm so glad I found this, I'm in a similar situation. I'm in the middle of a PhD and so me and my OH decided to wait until I'm finished before we start trying (I'm doing chemistry so God only knows what affects the chemicals would have on a baby) which won't be for another 2 years. I'm broody as anything and people around me seem to be getting pregnant left, right and center!

I wouldn't say your OH was "a massive moron", perhaps he doesn't realise how difficult it is for you to wait and that seeing things like the play mat upset you. Tell him that it upset you and ask him what he's feeling.

Waiting to try is horrendous, I hope you feel better about the play mat soon.

JellyBean x