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THINGS AREN'T LOOKING GOOD

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melliek · 06/04/2004 19:08

Does anyone have any insite on this??? I am only 4 weeks preg but already I am having pain and spotting. This is my third preg and the past two were mc. I have a very bad feeling about this already. I went to the docs today and basically its a waiting game. I am booked for a scan on the 26th of April but I dont know what to do until then. I feel so depressed because I think its inevidable that this one is going to end up the same as the others...all of the symptoms are the same. Pain in the left ovary (sharp) and slight brown spotting yesterday...and today there was a little red. I just dont know what to think or do...

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eyelash · 13/04/2004 18:15

melliek

I think this sounds really hopeful. When I had my scan at 5 weeks plus 3 days, they could only see a sac and a small dot they took to be the baby but they weren't a bit concerned. Also your hormone level is excellent. We will all be keeping our fingers crossed.

bunny2 · 13/04/2004 17:48

Blimey Melliek, what an anxious time you're having. It looks hopeful though, I dont think they should see a fetal pole at 5 weeks should they (pls correct me if Im wrong). I have my fingers crossed for you.

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melliek · 13/04/2004 17:05

Well, went to emerg today. They did some blood work and an ultrasound. My Hcg is at 9320 which is normal for 5 weeks...this is good. In the ultrasound they could see a sak and a yolk but no fetal pole. So....I have to wait another week to get another scan done before I will know for sure if this pregnancy is enevatably doomed. What a roller coaster ride.

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nightowl · 12/04/2004 01:01

Im sorry melliek, i dont have any experience of this so i cant really help but i just wanted you to know that my thoughts are with you ((hugs))

bunny2 · 11/04/2004 19:41

Aloha, that's a good message. Melliek, I am still thinking of you and hoping there is a chance everything will be ok.

aloha · 11/04/2004 19:14

Melliek, don't lose all hope yet. My friend (the one I told you about, lots of mc and trying for a baby for four years) had bleeding a lot like yours, lots of 'stuff' as well as blood, and she is definitely pregnant. I'm certainly not saying that you aren't having a m/c, but don't give up until you get your scan. I am keeping things (mentally) crossed for you.

kid · 11/04/2004 10:52

well done for hanging in there. I really do feel sorry for you. I hope you can get the scan done quickly and let us know how you are doing.

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melliek · 11/04/2004 05:22

Hi all...still so far no bleeding. The spotting has even subsided from red to brown. I really dont believe that there is anything left because every time i go to the bathroom there is ususally a small fragment of tissue. I do mean very small but none the less there is still some being lost. Its hard right now because the clinic is closed until mon and there is no use going to the outpatient,,,what can they do right? I think I am ok with it now though. My strength and faith gets me through. Its just not the perfect baby yet....my time will come! There are worse things in the world that I could be suffering through, right! I'll keep you guys posted if anything comes up. I do still wonder when the bleeding and pain will start....strange. Hugs to all,,,you guys really are the best support anyone could hope for.

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hana · 11/04/2004 01:01

melliek - I've only just seen this and hope that you've been able to see a doctor or go to a hospital to get some answers. There are big hospitals in Moncton, St John or Fredericton, and the smaller towns would still have regional hospitals that would be able to scan you.
Let us know how you are doing,
hana

kid · 10/04/2004 22:43

I know it must be tearing you apart having to wait and see what happens. Is there any chance that you might not miscarry? My sister has a m/c and then went on to have 2 Ds's. During the early weeks of her 4th pregnancy, she lost blood almost every day for about a month. Her 3rd DS was born safely in Nov. I know you won't want to get your hopes up, but surely an earlier scan will set your mind at rest, one way or the other? I hope you are get the support you need and deserve xxx

Quackers · 10/04/2004 14:35

Melliek, Hi again, please can you try and see a Doctor for a scan. I don;t want to be too graphic at all, but you describe it being clear. Do you mean clear fluid or clear clots?? I passed the sac in one of my m/c's and it was a clear/beigy colour with some 'bits'. Everyone is different and it can take anything from a few days to a few weeks to clear out. Sometimes it doesn;t clear properly and you need a ERPC to just finish off. If you are not bleeding properly you should have a scan. I carried around my poor little one for weeks and weeks and weeks before they agreed to do the ERPC. I wish I had have just demanded it as there was no sign of it coming out on it;s own properly. Hugs Melliek, I am thinking of you {{{{{}}}}}

bunny2 · 09/04/2004 14:36

I cant help you with that one Melliek, surely there is a doctor who can see you and arrange a scan? More hugs to you.

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melliek · 09/04/2004 14:08

ok,,,This is really strange. I have passed alot of tissue, it wasn't red but clear,,,but the things is is that I am not bleeding yet. I spot from time to time, mabey twice aday I will have bright spotting but then nothing. I have absolutely no cramping either,,,,when will this happen? Obviously the fetus did not form at all because there has not been any clotting. This is so strange, I have never passed a mc on my own before, how long is this going to take before I will start to bleed and be done with ?

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Quackers · 08/04/2004 21:46

I am so very sorry Melliek. I know how much this meant to you. I do hope you can get some help and further investigation by some means. Are you able to see an Ob/Gyn over there to refer you somewhere? Hugs, I am sorry {{{{}}}}

gothicmama · 08/04/2004 21:28

Thinking of you if you need support feel free to send pm keep the faith big hugs

bunny2 · 08/04/2004 19:43

Melliek, I think you sound incredibly brave. I hope you get the help you so deserve. Are there no miscarriage clinics within travelling distance?

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melliek · 08/04/2004 01:34

Thank you so much to everyone, having support does help, espically if people have gone through it before. I talked to the receptionist at the clinic today(oddly because I didn't make a follow up appt after I left yesterday...I knew things were not going right) and I told her that things seemed to be on the down slide. I am to keep my scan on the 26th to see if I pass it or not and they are going to refer me to a specialist. Unfortunatly there is no mc clinic here. I am in New Brunswick Canada and we do not have wonderful care...in fact I dont even have a doctor.
Now today, I spotted a little this morning and that was it. Tiny pieces of something come out every now and then but its not bright red or anything. I just wish I knew for sure...is it done or is there a slight chance in hell that its hanging on....wishful I know. Thanks again to all of you, I really do need this.

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bunny2 · 07/04/2004 20:47

here is the clinic thread

Hugs again
Bunnyxxxx

bunny2 · 07/04/2004 20:42

Melliek, big hugs to you. I know how much you wanted this baby and it seems so unfair. I'll see if I can find the recurrent miscarriage clinic thread in case you havent read it.

fisil · 07/04/2004 18:44

Big hugs melliek. Where are you? Could you get to an early pregnancy unit? Could you get yourself to A&E? I lost my baby 3 weeks ago at 9 weeks. I had scans at 4, 7 & 9 weeks and bloods done at 5 weeks.

Without all of that support it would have been a million times worse - in fact the first medical opinion I sought (at 4 weeks I went to my GP) told me to pull myself together and go back to work. Stupid advice, and luckily I didn't listen to it. I went out and got all the support I could - and I am so glad I did.

I am really feeling for you, I know how horrific it is. Big hugs ((((()))))

eyelash · 07/04/2004 18:37

melliek

I am really sorry you are going through this. I do understand how you are feeling as I have been in your situation and as somebody else has said you should now easily get a referral for further investigation. I am not sure which part of the country you are in but there are some excellent recurrent miscarriage clinics around and your doctor should help with that. Also, the Lesley Regan book on miscarriages is fantastic.

You (and your partner) will be feeling despondant, upset, gutted, incredulous, etc at the moment and the more you can talk about it, express your feelings and work through your pain, the better.

There is a fantastic thread on recurrent miscarriage and the referral process. I am no good at links (bunny2 - can you help?) but it is in the miscarriage section. If it is any consolution, I had 3 miscarriages in a row (and a previous one), got a referral, and am now 15 weeks pregnant having had the most fantastic care at the recurrent miscarriage clinic at the Women's Hospital in Liverpool.

Sorry this is so long. We are all thinking of you.

Welshmum · 07/04/2004 14:22

I am so sorry to hear about what you're going through. So sorry. Hugs

Welshmum · 07/04/2004 14:19

I am so sorry to hear about what you're going through. So sorry. Hugs

Azure · 07/04/2004 14:16

Melliek, sorry that your fears appear to have been confirmed. At least now you should be able to get the referral / investigation needed. Take care.

Nutcracker · 07/04/2004 14:07

Oh sorry to hear this Melliek. Thinking of you.