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Lulu his mom has tried to get through to him for years.
And I won't make any irrational decisions, baby is the most important atm :) I'm still super happy tho, I'm so blessed to be expecting another child!! :)
And yeah I've taken paracetamol, think they are the only painkillers allowed in pregnancy :s
I had this backpain with DS in early pregnancy so if it's the same it should die off at 9 weeks

He should be helping you Cupcake- with everything. Could his mum help you get through to him? Does she realise how bad he is?

Don't do anything without having given yourself time to think it through properly. You have too much to deal with at the moment.

Are there no painkillers you can take in pregnancy? What about those heat pads from the chemist? They are good.

Just wanna know the baby is fine. I'm never good at making decisions lol.

I've woken up and can hardly move my back! :( I'm in agony!! Every movement is really painful :(

Oh dear! I know it might seem hard but why don't you wait until after the baby is born? While I don't doubt your DH is useless and frankly a waste of space, before the pregnancy hormones you must have liked him enough to want to bring another child into this world as you said.

Perhaps you might feel that way again once baby is here, although to be honest I don't think any woman should edurr that kind of relationship. Xx

I can never sit down and have a serious chat as he never lets me speak all he says is "don't like it u know where to go" and he'll just repeat that until I stop talking.
And lulu him give me £75??? No chance. He moans if I even ask for a tenner!!!
I know I'd be far better off financially if I wasn't with him.
I just hate him. He's horrible to me.
I know some of u may be think why did we TTC, but we actually both wanted a second child. But I thought he'd grow up and he hasn't and I hate being treated this way. I don't want DS turning out like him at all.
I just wanna make sure this baby is okay and wait for the first scan before making any decisions.
But I wouldn't know what to do, or how to go about it?
I wouldn't want to move from this house as it's near my family and a great school for DS.

Honestly Cupcake, he is so mean to you. Does he ever do anything with DS? It all seems to be you. £150 and he couldn't buy milk, loo roll and cat litter, or give you £75 of it at least - but he can get a taxi home. Why couldn't he get a bus home? Or why can't he go on a bike?

Between you and Ducky, I don't know how you cope with those two.

Cupcake thats awful what happened to the man providing & support his family ?!!! Team effort this family thing as far as I'am concerned !!

Cupcake, what a fucking dick

He must be wiping his ass with gold toilet paper!!!!

It's not fair that he treats you like that and he doesn't do anything to help out

It's amazing how some men can treat their wives (especially when pregnant )

Can you sit down and have a serious chat with him? Tell him to get his shit together? Cus his behaviour is disgusting!!!!

Told DH I wasn't going to pick him up from work so he moaned and said he'll have to walk home as he had no money as he spent it on milk and loo roll!!!!
Which is the biggest lie ever. This morning in his wallet he had £140 in there, and a tenner in his work trouser pocket.
So to tell me he had no money was a complete lie. And I saw the taxi drop him off down the road tonight. Hmm....
Also I made a chicken dinner and he went off to eat his and I put DS to bed, as I was eating mine DS started crying and I heard him chuck his dummy, I stared at DH as if to say "go sort him" but he said to me..." I can't do anything with him"
So I had to leave my dinner to go and put his dummy in his mouth and lie him back down. How DH couldn't do that with him is ridiculous.
I hate men sometimes. No actually nearly all of the time.

GBBO new series. DH says he is taking up baking. Reckons it looks pretty doable. Is starting tomorrow.
PIL are coming up on Friday - he is making afternoon tea he says. Scones and Victoria sandwich cake and sandwiches. Good for him. Can't wait.
I am expecting to be impressed.

Money eh? we used to do a spreadsheet when I was working and DH was on a normal salary. But we moved away for DH work so we decided I would leave work to stay home and be a house wife. I need to be flexible as DH is the main earner and to be honest even though I'm educated and do very well in a career setting, I won't ever earn as much as DH does. I'm happy being the flexible one though, it's what I've always wanted to do.

These days were fortunate that there isn't much point recording income anymore.

I can't wait to add to our family with a little one, it will just make everything complete!

I don't think tere is much to observing cm! I found I had more and thougt I ov'd later than I thought (strange cus I was using opks) but I didn't!

Great news iam! Happy dtd tonight!

We have a spreadsheet too, financial geeks together hooray!

I'm confused today as I've noticed quite a bit of cm, but should have ov days ago unless my cycle is getting messed up. Mind you there does not seem to be much rhyme or reason to my cm so I'm not going to get too fussed about it!

Cupcake, I don't understand your DH. Sometimes he sounds nice and sometimes he sounds really immature. FFS he has responsibilities and he should be stepping up to them. I don't know how you deal with him. How is he expecting you and DS and the cat to go to the toilet if he won't buy toilet paper and cat litter? It's not like they are optional items.
Ducky is right, you and her should look after each other and the two DHs should live together and see how they manage then.
Ducky, yours just astonishes me. On what planet does he think what he pays for is fair. You must have the tolerance of a saint or be very good at detaching yourself from it. I would not be able to not have a go at him

Men!

We have one account both salaries go into. It has 3 accounts within it. Immediately, anything over a set amount is swept into the savings account bit to try and help us save something every month. The other account is an automatic top up account so we can't go overdrawn- it tops up the daily account if it falls below £200. This is 'our money' and it pays for everything- bills, food, holidays, clothes, house things,pet insurance, car. We both spend it and unless it involved taking money from the savings bit we would not ask each other. I earn more.

In addition I have an ISA and another account where I keep money I inherited from my mum and an aunt- not much but something. DH has a savings account where he keeps money he inherited from his grandad- not much again- and he has an ISA.

I have some money coming from a savings insurance I took out 15 years ago which has matured. That will go into my account as I have paid for it and mainly before I met DH. It's not a lot as the financial mess of stock markets saw to that, but it will boost my savings a bit. We never touch the separate savings accounts and try to add to them if we can. It is a bit of security.

We will find it harder when I am on maternity leave but we are pretty good managers and don't buy things like computer games, flashy cars, labelled clothes. The house is not flashy either. We don't spend much on going out or alcohol. Neither of us smoke. I admit to having spent a fortune on Magnum ice creams!

We share everything but do have some separate money dh has a large overdraft and I have a healthy savings account !!

CP I like that name husbands behaving badly! Hehe :p

Bears how exciting!!! :D hope the appointment and scan goes well!

Me I hate having to ask DH for money! He never gives me it tho. And if DS needs nappies or milk I ask DH to buy them sometimes and it takes a lot to make him buy them! Then he goes on bout how HE brought his nappies etc

Pregnancy symptoms.....I'm so exhausted!!
Put DS down for a nap and hoping he falls asleep as I'm so desperate for my own nap !

Cupcake your DH sounds like he is behaving very badly! I'm the higher earner too (though not by much) but DH and I just have a joint account for everything, we don't have any of our own separate accounts. It works for us - what's mine is his and vice versa. It's good for when I do get my bfp and go on mat leave as some of my friends have hated being in a position where they have to ask their DH to transfer them some money.

Nice to see all the higher earner ladeez . I earnt way more than DP in the early days, he's overtaken me now though!

Happy birthday babycupcake!

I have my first appointment at the high risk clinic tomorrow, then scan next week, then I'll finally be able to tell people!

For fun how about we try out names for the reality tv show for these DHs.
How about
Husbands behaving badly...

Not very original. Any other suggestions? Haha

Cupcake I think it is a good idea not to do anything rash or spur of the moment. It is a big decision so you need to take your time. I disagree with the whole staying together for the children though. Children are not stupid and can tell when things are seriously wrong.

Tori that's how finances work with me too!! Hehe. Although DH very naughtily buys clothes from the joint account. But as he buys his stuff in Asda I don't complain too much. Let's just say that my treats are a little more pricey and involve leather :-)

CP he needs more than a shaking!
Don't know why he thinks being a prick makes him look cool.

I was watching yesterday's this morning and they were on about staying together for the kids. And they kept saying if the woman was pregnant "don't make any decisions until the baby is born. Bring the baby into the world safely first then make ur decisions"
Don't know what to think about that tbh

Ducky. Wow some of these DHs have tricks. We should put them on an island together and do a reality tv show.

I once knew someone who used to lock her shopping away from her partner. Initially I thought that she was just mean but when she told me what used to happen I totally understood why she did it. He would never buy groceries and eat hers and would not contribute to any bills or rent or anything! Yet he had money for regular nights out with mates, video games, clothes, shoes etc. She eventually kicked him to the curb.

Ducky. Wow some of these DHs have tricks. We should put them on an island together and do a reality tv show.

I once knew someone who used to lock her shopping away from her partner. Initially I thought that she was just mean but when she told me what used to happen I totally understood why she did it. He would never buy groceries and eat hers and would not contribute to any bills or rent or anything! Yet he had money for regular nights out with mates, video games, clothes, shoes etc. She eventually kicked him to the curb.