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HELP:TTC, slimy discharge(TMI!!) but neg result on clearblue ov predictor

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comebacksummer · 13/09/2006 12:49

Hi all, please help
Am TTc number 3 and having no luck, I'm on day 14 of cycle and getting the slimy discharge I'm told signals ovulation, but clearblue predictor says " No!" Am trying for a boy this time so want to TTc as near to ovulation as poss... should I start BDing today or wait? Have failed for last few months (by waiting too long? Being overweight this time? not sure)
Any advice most appreciated.. fell immediately with DDs so none of this worry before...

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comebacksummer · 15/09/2006 15:38

gosh lemonaid... how will you feel if you are preg?? how do you feel at the mo?

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comebacksummer · 15/09/2006 15:38

gosh lemonaid... how will you feel if you are preg?? how do you feel at the mo?

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comebacksummer · 15/09/2006 15:35

sorry about typing, v emotional- quandary i meant

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comebacksummer · 15/09/2006 15:34

hi
I'm 32 DDs 2 and 4. I know. I'm being irrational.. just want to decide one way or another.. can't do this every month or be in this qundary about it.. practical points aside, I do want another...but is that enough to push DH inot it ( and yes, he's fab- so supportive an dhas been so ready to BD if required.. he's just concerned now that I'm wavering..just wants me to be certain then he'll go along with it.. said this morning when I was in tears saying no we won't then, we can't having been awake all night coming to that decision, and he replied " well it can't be the right decision if it's making you this unhappy")

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lemonaid · 15/09/2006 15:27

PS Have a holy terror of a 19-month old DS that I could lend you if it would help...

PPS Oddly I'm the other way around this month -- got carried away and BD right around ovulation this month even though we're not really intending to TTC until next year. And now all the practical problems with having another are whizzing around my head...

lemonaid · 15/09/2006 15:24

You don't need to make a decision this month. You don't need to make a decision next month. What you do need to do is think carefully about all the points your DH raised, decide within yourself how you really feel about each one, and then be able to go back to him and talk about how you feel. He sounds lovely, by the way.

How old are you? How old are your DDs?

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comebacksummer · 15/09/2006 15:19

I just can't shake this feeling.. hubby did say if I was 100% certain then we could try but after talkign to him I just wasn't sure.. trouble is again I've been thinking about it all day, I have a +OPK still ( How stupid am I to still be testing) and CM everywhere (sorry TMI again!) so I am still thinking htere may be a window this month tonight....but really how can we after all this discussion last night? Would REALLY be just down to me.. and there's all the stuff about having to change the house around to get another bedroom ( we have the space it's just that one bedroom is a walk through to ours and that would be the babe's.. not ideal to have to walk through a newborn's room especially if it's DDs needing to be taken to the loo etc or crying...but there's no other access to our room)
and a new car etc....OH GOD why are things always so bloody hard? I hate decisions, I'm bound to make the wrong one

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Sanity · 15/09/2006 14:07

Oh comebacksummer, hugs from me too...find a new direction...I never say never...I may never have more children, but I continue as if I will...who knows what is around the corner...if I won the lottery...he couldn't refuse me another...ohh I wish I could take away your heartache...but if you are like me...then its a physical and emotional pain.

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comebacksummer · 15/09/2006 13:57

thanks...god i feel awful

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lemonaid · 15/09/2006 13:46

((hugs))

Good you had the discussion before getting pregnant, though. You've still got time to discuss it without pressure and come to a decision that you can both find peace with one way or the other.

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comebacksummer · 15/09/2006 13:44

Thanks sanity
The trouble is I'm in tears again as I just can't stop thinking about the baby that might have been.. will this feeling go away? I can't feel this crap every month or I really will go off the rails...

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Sanity · 15/09/2006 13:26

So sorry comebacksummer - I am a true believer in fate...hence my twins, I always wanted four my husband only 3...if it is meant to be it will be, a gift (I hate the term accident...no child is an accident...) can happen at any stage in life...I do know how you feel...my dh has said no more! (ok maybe I am being greedy) but I love it all....we had a false alarm last week and he came round to the idea and was happy about it as the baby would have been made out of love....oooh too mushy, still hormonal from coming on! good luck for the future and give your dds an extra big hug tonight...

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comebacksummer · 15/09/2006 13:13

Well. Things have taken a very different turn overnight. Hubby and I had a heart to heart when he got back last night, and it turns out that he is really not keen on a third- which i knew but he was sort of happy to go along with it- this got me all worried that i'd be making the decision on my own and therefore would reap the consequences-ie if this one didn't sleep (both my two dds were terrible up till 14 months) and I got all stressed and couldn't cope etc, I'd be the one to blame. Plus he thinks we really don't have room in the house for a 3rd, would need a new car etc etc...he's worried that it will break up the relationship between not only us but our dds, who adore each other...and i have to say that worries me too. anyway suffice to say that after that discussion till the early hours no bding would have been appropriate, or likely as i was in tears, ditto this morning. So we have missed this month but it looks likely that it may never happen anyway..
was in a right mess this morning but am trying to get my head round it.. I think it was selfish of me to want it so badly.. could it just be hormones?? Anyway, thanks all for your advice.. maybe i'll need it again.. who knows at this stage.

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Sanity · 15/09/2006 11:58

Well good morning...sorry I wasn't about last night....comebackcummer...you must keep this thread open...we need to know when you know how succesful the last few days have been.....I have everything crossed and hope and pray you get your hearts desire.

lemonaid · 14/09/2006 21:58

Whee!

Ummm... have a good evening!

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comebacksummer · 14/09/2006 21:46

Thanks guys.. yes sanity, I know there are stories of women with 10 boys etc etc.. some just don't "do" both sexes!!!! Oh well, we can try then be delighted either way.. and as for blaming my hubby he's really doing this for me anyway so I suspect blaming him for anything might end up with him understandably throttling me!!
Anyway, did another test at 9pm and have a positive, I think.. not brighter than the other line but the same brightness whereas before it was definitely fainter, so hubby has been called back from evening out, due to arrive at 11.30pm.. trust me to have the 12 hr fertile period during the bloody night! So typical. Anyway keep your fingers crossed for us.. I have yet to see what state he arrives home in of course...

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Sanity · 14/09/2006 18:58

Whoops...the last message sounded too down beat and more of a slur on your dh ability....didn't mean to sorry

Piffle · 14/09/2006 18:57

the last day of ewcm ( the fertile slipery mucous you describe) is the most fertile according to most things I have read

Sanity · 14/09/2006 18:56

Hi comebacksummer, with all this effort...that we have all done or thought about doing...if you do fall for dd3, you only have dh to blame! some men are only able to produce girl sperm....because the girl sperm are more resilient they are the ones who are more likely to survive anything the gentleman may be experiencing.....

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comebacksummer · 14/09/2006 18:32

by the way lemonaid, thanks for the advice about the dental xray- had to wear a lead jacket to protect me- am now on a waiting list to have molars removed (could be 5 months more of this!!!) but they'll do it under local anaesthetic if by some miracle I do fall preggers in that time (although they did warn me that I would need to be able to cope with them drilling into my gums under a local.. barf)

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comebacksummer · 14/09/2006 17:47

Hi sanity and lemonaid
My normal cycle is about 30 days, and last month I ovulated later than the predictor kit expected.. had to buy 2 kits. It's just that as i followed that last month and didn't fall pregs I'm all of a dither
i know what you're saying lemonaid.. obviously if i did get another dd i'd adore her like her sisters and it would not be an issue at all.. i just would like to see if i can help mother nature out just a teensy bit to see if i can up the ante to get a boy...so i guess i have to hang on in to get a positive??

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lemonaid · 14/09/2006 14:50

I ovulate between CD17 and CD19, normally CD18. So not having ovulated by CD14/15 would be normal for me.

Would you rather conceive a DD now or a DS in 6 months? I think that should influence how picky you are about when you BD.

Sanity · 14/09/2006 14:22

Hi comebacksummer, don't panic, what length is your normal cycle? do you know what day you normally ovulate? my friend ovulates on day 17/18 so don't panick just yet, and do it one day too soon and you could have another DD!

Trying for a boy is hard....timing is essential, you have a 12 hour window when you start to ovulate, so I believe and boy sperm are fast swimmers!! just don't have much staying power... my boys were born 15months ago, I charted temperature/bodily fluids and my normal cycle...have since moved and can't find my chart to help you out with any more in depth details...

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comebacksummer · 14/09/2006 13:26

Oh good grief.. I just tested negative on the OPK AGAIN>> am I not ovulating this month? Was it hopeless as I didn't leave 4 hrs between wees? Should I now wait until tomorrow? I stupidly didn't write down when my last period was but almost sure it started bank holiday monday so i'm on cd14/15 ish...HELP!!!!

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comebacksummer · 14/09/2006 12:11

Hi saf1
Thanks for that- glad i'm not the only one slowly going insane here.. did you fall easily with your 2 dds too? I am such a control freak that I just expected everything to work out pat.. I really wanted an april baby but no luck and now we're looking at june...not sure if i want a summer babe, as they are surely at a disadvantage with starting shcool etc, but then again it could take a good few months to conceive at this rate so we could be back to yet another autumn one ( both dds sept)
good luck this month!!! have you had any good try for a boy tips you coudl share????

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