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How do you manage the monthly disappointment?

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Portlypenguin · 18/07/2014 12:59

Dear people,

I have a lovely DS aged just 3 and we have been TTC#2. In 2ww of cycle 4 now. I know it is a very short time but last time we conceived ( by good luck) on cycle 1 so i am inexperienced at waiting. I have had one v early miscarriage recently (feb).

Any tips? I seem to convince myself i am pregnant every month and then am not.

All of DS' little buddies already have siblings and people keep going on about our bigger gap. It was a work/stress/mood related gap decision which was inevitably but now i feel guilty for some unknown reason and like it is my fault i am not pregnant yet.

I know we are lucky to have one child and there are many of you who have been ttc for much longer - perhaps it just gets a bit less disappointing with time.

Advice or just 'cope with it' statements welcomed!

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BobsyBoo · 20/07/2014 23:38

I'm in the same position 18 months of disappointment! Always found a reason to convince myself that this time I am, I think it's because we want it so much we convince ourselves we are. Fell pregnant with DD without trying & she's about to turn 4 so I'm really worried about the age gap. Every time my AF starts I get so angry & upset then there are pregnant people everywhere! Its great to talk to people going through the same thing.

KeepSmiling83 · 20/07/2014 21:09

We're in the same position as you. Fell pregnant very quickly with number 1 and second time round nothing has happened yet. Everyone around me seems to be pregnant too!! No help but you're not alone!

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Portlypenguin · 19/07/2014 16:08

Thanks. I think the doing things you can't do whilst pregnant sounds a good idea!

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LIG1979 · 18/07/2014 21:00

I make sure I have things planned for af time that would be a pain if I had just got a bfp. usually involving Wine .

I hope it isn't too long till you get a lasting bfp.

MrsD0nnaLyman · 18/07/2014 19:15

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Morganlove · 18/07/2014 19:07

Some months are easier to deal with than others, no rhyme nor reason as to why, but this is what I've felt. Some months I could just crawl away and not come out for days, others I just shrug it off.

It helps to try and focus in doing something 'different' the next month, handy if it doesn't take long, hard to find new things when it's coming up to two years as it is for me.

Also, I tend to make sure when AF does come (as it does every month without fail it seems), I do something I wouldn't be able to do if pregnant - eat stinky blue cheese, pate, drink a nice bottle of wine, etc.

Keep talking to DH too, it's team work and you need the support of each other. If you can confide in friends too this helps, but you do have to get some to tame the 'is there any nice news?' questions from time to time!

Hope this helps? x

chelsbells · 18/07/2014 18:28

Chocolate, wine and cuddles with DH!

We've been trying for a while now with no luck, so I try to keep myself busy during 2ww and when AF does arrive, it's a night in with the above and then getting geared up for another month.

Hopefully you won't have to wait much longer! Good luck!